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babydevil
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 53
0 miles · Gloucestershire
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Casanova
aw thanks kc hun, was just being honest... tho more so than some members who will never admit to behaving in such a way. I'm just a valley girl who says things as I see it myself. I have experienced cold shoulder treatment from males who reckoned I have led them on when I was only offering friendship in the room ( I have never ever promised something I didn't give). More to the point some males on sp dont like the word 'no'...... :censored:
Casanova
Oh True.. now your being a bit harsh!!! .. Its not that the single fems on sp are really really picky (tho I guess there are some of them out there..)... its just that we get so bombarded with mails and requests. When I first joined I used to find so many mails in my box ( no venus, not MALES in my box lol) and sometimes I just didnt get a chance to reply to them all on 1 night. Then I would get more mails asking if I had the original mail therefore doubling my reading!! As I have said to you before ,True, in some men on this site desperation and frustration are 2 similar things which are not the most attractive attributes. Well it certainly puts me off.... and then when I do answer them thanking them or whatever, some men have seen it as a green light that a meet will be set up instantly just because there has been a response. It seems I cant even be friendly without it being assumed it will lead somewhere.
Casanova
Hey Miss hunni... I'm sooooo sorry to hear you've had some crap thrown at you recently.. I know we've had a laugh about your 'wedding' but cant believe anybody has taken it as far as this!!
Swinging is about having fun and if you find a few special friends along the way that your comfortable with then so much the better ..thats the same thing I had until fri when a person special to me left sp..of course we still have that relationship but when it started a few people had something to say about it too.
Miss hunni... just ignore it all .. jealousy has no place on sp and as long as you and bold are happy and naughty then who cares!!! (just remember you still owe me one!) :giggle:
Casanova
well.. I seem to be in a minority here!!! .. I do let chip swing alone- as he also lets me swing alone... we joined seperately at different times and decided to stay solo. We'll never rule out meeting another couple together tho.
The main things in our relationship are trust and honesty. As long as we tell each other who and where (for safety's sake more than anything else) then its ok with both of us. If I didn't trust chip enough to not be honest with me then no, I wouldn't be happy about it. But then again, if I couldn't trust my husband at all then we wouldn't be swinging.....
Casanova
I\'m sorry to say that requests like that are not going to get you very far on this site.. there are many single men who \'want sex\' with whoever.. your profile doesn\'t exactly give a prospective partner much info to go on. Most people on here need time to get to know who they are going to be sleeping with, so dont just expect an email with a time and date!
It is a sad but well known fact that there are far many more single males on here than any other genre and so couples/fems can be as selective as they want to be. So just some advice... think about your profile (that is your best advertising feature)... come into the chatroom and say hello, get to know people and more importantly let them get to know you. Be patient and resectful at ALL times and above all just relax.
But if its quick and easy sex you\'ve come looking for then I\'m afraid you\'ve come to the wrong site... :doh:
Casanova
\'wandering mod\' CC?????.... I never wander, I mooch :evil2:
Seriously tho.. us mods take a very dim view of directing and/or whispering of unwanted comments. Always tell us otherwise we can do nothing about it..thats why we are there. Tho at times it seems like I\'m 
(god I luvs that emoticon, wanted to use that for ages!!) we do get rid of offenders xxx
(god I luvs that emoticon, wanted to use that for ages!!) we do get rid of offenders xxx Casanova
All I can say debbie.. is I met chip via text messaging. I used to look forward to his texts more and more each day and really missed him if I hadn\'t heard from him first thing in the morning. We hadn\'t even met when I knew I loved him - but when he came down to stay with me for a few days I didnt want him to go home...
..but I knew I truely loved him when I uprooted my children and myself from everyone I knew and moved 200 miles to be with him. And I still think I made the right choice! :smug:
Debbie.,. I am a firm believer in the old saying that when your not looking for it you will find it.
PS....we luvs ya!! :rose:
aww.. congrats to you both.. wish you all the best luck in the world, was nice knowing you :clap:
) 
Casanova
I agree with everyone george.... while it is a social event, to a non-swinger it may be a bit harder to understand the culture and the way everyone acts towards each other. She may fell pressured into doing something she may not feel comfy with (not by you or any of the members george, just by the whole idea) - and if she really doesn't enjoy it then it may spoil your friendship.
George.. dont worry about everyone being already 'paired up'..I went to my first social on my own and while there were mostly couples, everyone made me feel so welcome and I had a great time. By all means explain to your lady-friend what it is all about..assure her its not a case of throwing room keys into a bowl sort of night!.. but if she doesn't want to go then go anyway and meet up with everyone.. they all want to meet you!! xxx
Casanova
Hi guys and gals...... I am so sorry to have to do this but I am going to have to bow out of organising this social due to personal reasons.
There is no reason why it should not go ahead - hotel has been sorted and rooms are booked..the only thing you guys have to finalise is where you want to go on to once you have all met up at the hotel bar. I really wish I could be there as well as I chat to so many of you nice people but right now that will not be possible.
Hope you all have a great time xxxxxxx
Casanova
Can I just ask one thing?... if it had been a female asking the question originally, would the reaction have been so strong?
The reason I ask is because when i joined, my husband was unsure if it was something he wanted to explore but gave me (fantastic man that he is) permission to join alone as long as I abided by rules we set together. The first few weeks I had been here I was inundated with whispers etc - as I soon came to realise was pretty normal for SF's - yet nobody ever asked or even seemed to care about what my husband thought. At no time did I ever lie about my marital status or even whether my husband had given me his total backing.
I fully respect that everyone has opinions and preferrences that we cannot condone or condemn.. but sometimes I think we 'jump' (for want of a better word lol) on men too much......
