Have only been a paying memeber for a couple of weeks, so it is probably too early to make a judgement; however I have also noticed this to be the case...
However, I think that making everyone pay on joining would put even serious people off; try before you buy is useful. How about a facility where free members could send a wink or summat (like three winks a week) to show an interest, then we could provide 'em with our details, i.e. put the onus of making contact on them, that way only those who are serious would make contact...
Is just a thought.
Doc your a hard man !! make em all pay hey lol that makes no business sense at all and at the end of the day this site is a business isnt it ?
When you get mail as a free memeber and try to access it your taken to the payment screen, as i said its a business and if you want your mail you have to pay like all of us !(i think i've remembered that right)
That wouldnt work to make everyone pay. there would still be loads of redundant accounts which would make the site seem unpopular. Far better the way it is now i think.
xx well thats my two penneth mwah speak soon xx
xx kc xx
Ah KC the voice of reason :angel:
I was not aware that free members were unable to access the emails sent to them unles they paid:doh: so perhaps I have been a bit harsh :-o Business is to make money oif course; As for redundant accounts surely these should be deleted; if an account had not been accessed for 3 months then surely that would be a good indication as to whether the account holder is seriously interested? If there has been no activety on the account in that time then they could be deleted, thus freeing up space.:thumbup:
Now that is a pretty good idea Doc, deleting un-accessed profiles after a period of non-action seems quite reasonable to me.
However, I don't see the logic in not allowing free members to read their messages; after all if the free members can read messages and get in touch with others surely that will encourage them to become paying members; as I said previously try before you buy can be quite profitable...
[color="cyan"] I agree to an extent but then,if free members could access their mail, would they also be able to view member profiles? Photos should not be accessible to non paying members (for obvious reasons) but how would they know if the emails were sent from the right sort of people?[/color]
Hmmm, shot down in flames there.. Very good points!
Oh True.. now your being a bit harsh!!! .. Its not that the single fems on sp are really really picky (tho I guess there are some of them out there..)... its just that we get so bombarded with mails and requests. When I first joined I used to find so many mails in my box ( no venus, not MALES in my box lol) and sometimes I just didnt get a chance to reply to them all on 1 night. Then I would get more mails asking if I had the original mail therefore doubling my reading!! As I have said to you before ,True, in some men on this site desperation and frustration are 2 similar things which are not the most attractive attributes. Well it certainly puts me off.... and then when I do answer them thanking them or whatever, some men have seen it as a green light that a meet will be set up instantly just because there has been a response. It seems I cant even be friendly without it being assumed it will lead somewhere.
Well said babyd, every point you made was valid and extreemly well put
xxx kc xxx
aw thanks kc hun, was just being honest... tho more so than some members who will never admit to behaving in such a way. I'm just a valley girl who says things as I see it myself. I have experienced cold shoulder treatment from males who reckoned I have led them on when I was only offering friendship in the room ( I have never ever promised something I didn't give). More to the point some males on sp dont like the word 'no'...... :censored:
: If peeps join as free members then don't respond, despite being given the necessary return address, why do they bother in the first place 
Perhaps everyone should have to pay so that only people genuinely interested in the swinging scene do join the site.:thumbup: 
. Perhaps they get so many invites from single males they just can't reply to them all, or only to those that they are interested in after checking profiles. Perhaps some of the other members can shed light on your dilemma. 
Single males are in the massive majority and single females are in the tiny minority. In fact I reckon the ratio is more like 20:1.
Now if you start to look at the profiles of many of the lovely single females -- they clearly state they're not after single men... This obviously increases the effective ratio of women looking for meets with a chap.
Include an appropriate age range filter and the ratio becomes astronomic :D:D
I've found that females and couples on the site are typically outgoing, interesting, curious and *very* discerning. And with good reason.
Some of the males I've seen in the chat room (and a few at the social meets) appear to have had a social skills bypass operation at some point. :D:D
So what works for single males to get to chat to and possibly meet exciting females and couples .... well good question. I don't think there is a formula..
I'm the tall chatty bloke that tells awful jokes and picks up on people's mistyped words. I'm not the youngest kid on the block and I'm not hung like a horse. I enjoy the banter an leg pulling in the chatroom and I really like chatting to people I've known for a while on here.
...
Do I like to raise a smile with whoever I'm chatting with -- always..
Do I ask to see more of a person than is already on cam -- never ..
Do I send out emails that don't get a reply -- yep of course .. I don't expect a reply from anybody ..
Do I pester people for a meet -- not ever ..
Do I wave my bits about on cam .. no .. (well only if someone else is holding them - hehe :-o)
Do I value the connection with a person or a couple above any possibility of some play with them -- absolutely ..
Will I drive any distance to meet a lovely woman -- definitely ..
On a meet is there a requirement for certain things to happen for it to be a good event -- for me, only that *they* have a good time ..
Do I like to listen as much as chatter -- yup ..
Am I 100% discrete -- 100% yes ..
Am I as mad as a box of frogs -- probably :D:D:D
And .. the 64,000 dollar question -- do I get meets -- well .. .. now and again it seems .. :D
After a meet, do I get invited back -- well .. .. more often than not it seems ..
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Am I a lucky bleeder having a great time in a really open, interesting community -- oh yes .. 
:boink::boink:
Happy swinging
John
xx 
:clap: and has made a lot of very valid points about what we should and should not be.[/color] [color="cyan"][b]If we do receive a reply, & it is only to acknowledge the fact we have sent an email, then please respect the wishes of that person :wave2:[/b][/color] 
mwah MO :love:
:banghead::banghead: this is not only a free member thing in
the last two months i have sent out 48 invites all to paid up members
result not one reply not even a no thank you
and a lot of them are in the chat room [color="red"][/color][b][/b][color="red"][/color]