Single Males and Sexy couples

13 Aug 2007

OK, Question for you all? (Please be nice with your replies, lol) I've been on this site for over two years, interests well check out my profile. I'm young(ish), slim, fit, funning at times smile

. enjoy chatting in the room and have an really nice big cock... (sorry but one's got to promote one's self. lol) So why the hell am I struggling to attract all those georgous, sexy single women out there, Yes it may be sad, but, I'm getting alittle dis-hearted... (Oooooohhhhh, Piss off) lol.... I know some of you boys and girls and have chatted and emailed but, bugger me that am I missing out? anyway the reason for signing up was (sadly like most single males) to get together with a sexy women and make a horney couple, then joint in the fun....easy yah, No. OK know for your response...... Bugger......LOL Post edited 14-08-2007 0:09

16 Aug 2007

It might well be because your profile is crap ...... whoops sorry about using up the dots. You say you have been on the site for over 2 years, something that is contradicted by your profile -=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=- quote "First Timer, but know how to pleasure. Hi & thank you for looking at my Profile. I am new to this and am just looking, not sure what to expect, but please email me. smile

Join in on the fun. lol. I am happy to email and meet, but only after getting to know each other. Any ideas please let me know. emailto: "unquote -=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=- That apart what is it in your profile that makes you think couples or single females are going to contact you and invite them to have sex with them. The truth is most of us read as much about a person from what they do NOT write than what they do write, In your case you have stated that you don't know what to expect, so meeting you could be a complete waste of our time, you may get to the meet point and decide that it wasn't what you expected and go home, you may not want to do what the couple or single females want to do. The only thing we do know about you from your profile is that you want to spend time getting to know the other people before you swing with them, you don't actually say how you would like to do this "getting to know us" ie do you expect to meet up a few times before swinging, do you want to send lots of mails back and forth or speak on the telephone or use morse code ? We do not know how you want to meet us, can you travel, can you accommodate, do you go to swing clubs, would you go to swing clubs, do you envisage using dogging sites ? We do not know what you want to do with couples or single females, do you like watersports, BDSM, anal sex DP, Spit roast, cattle prods or what ? We do not know what you will not do with those you meet. Are you respectfull to those you intend meeting, your profile only says what you want, what are you willing to give or do, I mean will you respect everyone elses boundaries and rules, will you be pushy or will you let them decide if things are to progress, telling us this would at least let us know that you are aware that such things are important. You say you know how to pleasure, well that makes you very exceptional, we have been swinging for 6 years and we do not know how to pleasure everyone, we do know how to find out what people like but we also know that everyone is different and inserting a finger in the bum of one person would drive them wild but would really upset some other partners we play with. So apart from not knowing what you want or what is going to happen on a meet we can see that your also very presumptious, defintely not a good attribute in the swining scene. In short there is so much missing from your profile and so many other guys out there the reason your not getting anywhere is probably because you can't be bothered making the effort to get people interested in you and we the couples and single females can't be bothered trying to find out if your worth meeting. Harsh --------- No honest advice which if taken on board may improve your chances of finding what you are looking for on this site.

18 Aug 2007

Kaynie said: " [I]Harsh --------- No honest advice....[/I]" Actually, Kaynie, Yes - it was harsh. The good thing about most regulars on this site is that they are friendly and helpful to other members, especially when those members specifically ask for help. We know how to give honest advice without being rude about it. Sadly, you have repeatedly shown yourself to be unhelpful, intolerant, and downright agressive at times, both on other forum posts and in the chatroom. You complained in the chatroom that most of its users are "ignorant" simply for commiting the heinous crime of not acknowledging you when you you signed in (maybe they didn't want to ...?). I'd define "ignorant" as someone who thinks that there is a set of absolute swinging rules, and that anyone who doesn't adhere 100% to each rule is not fit to be a swinger. Your own profile (which in itself makes a number of sweeping generalisations, such as "...always dresses to please...", whatever THAT means) says " [I]we are genuine swingers so do not cam[/I]", instantly condemning many of the regulars on this site who DO cam as fake swingers. Great. Domx - despite all the above, your profile could do with a bit of enhancement if you're going to stand out from the crowd. Try to include a little bit more about yourself, why you're on this site, any physical preferences you're looking for and so on. Try to describe the sort of meets you'd be looking for, and what your personal likes and dislikes are. Really, though, I'd get yourself into the chatroom more frequently. The regulars in there are mostly a friendly bunch, and we aren't ALL ignorant. In my experience, people do not, on the whole, arrange to meet someone purely on the strength of a profile. Almost all the meets I've had have come about through chatting to someone in the chatroom first, usually over a period of weeks or even months, and gradually getting to know them. As single males, this is even more important as there is an instinctive mistrust of SMs generally (not without reason, sadly), and we have to work that little bit harder to be taken seriously. Good luck! Suds

21 Aug 2007

The whole point of me saying Harsh ..... no honest advice was to show that I meant the advice in the best possible way, it is good for people to ask the questions and it is good for them to get advice from a couple like us who can show the kind of things we look for and advice from a single like you who has been successful on the site. I have said it before and I will say it again, sometimes it is hard to put things in writing, in a conversation there are smiles, there is a tone of voice or a wink, there are ways of toning down the words, it is more difficult in a text box, I hope he will see the honesty of my words and the good intent with which it was intended, my comments show that I believe if he improves his profile he will have much more success on the site. I am a single female, 22 years old and quite vulnerable, if I am going to go off and meet a single male I look for ways of diminishing the dangers, seeing contradictions in a profile ring alarm bells for me, I cannot afford to take chances with my life, there are many genuine males willing to meet and I would be foolish to take a chance, so I point out such things so that he can see why these things are important and why it might improve his chances. As for the term "dresses to please", experience has shown us that not everyone does, we prefer not to embarass people by turning up at a nice restaurant or hotel or even in the street where you live dressed like a rubber fetish masochist or in a skirt that shows my arse with my nipples on show in my see through top, there are times and places for these things and I like to dress sexily if that is what pleases the people I am meeting but at the same time I have pointed out that I will listen to them and will not cause them to flinch when I arrive and look around them to see who is twitching the curtains or staring at us all in disbelief. We have tried to make our profile informative, no we don't cam, swinging for us is not 2, 3 or 4 people who never meet up with anyone but perform for each other on cam, if that's what you want fine go ahead and do it but at least you will not waste your time contacting us because a quick read of our profile tells you that it's not what we do I am sorry that reading that offended you Sudsy. As for being against single males, I wish I could find one or two to meet up with, sadly the number of scary males on here make that less and less likely. I know there are some really nice genuine guys here and have met some of them (Thanks Slapper-n-Stud for some great times) but trying to sort out which are safe and which are dangerous is getting more difficult all the time.