Today in chat i commented that myself and chris happen to have a great sex life, It was then asked "so why do you come in this site?"
Swinging is a hobby to us not a compensation for a lack of something, i'm sure most of the couples in here would say the same thing.
Why do a handful of single males on this site presume that we all swing because we're not satisfied??
This is half the reason we don't meet single guys anymore.
ok rant over.
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I don't doubt you're satisfied in your sex life, and i can understand your objection to being labelled such. However, its obviously touched a nerve for you to start a thread and 'rant' about it. Perhaps the 'single male' in question has a point- albeit a badly worded one- in that you're sex life is different to the norm. Perhaps i'm off on a tangent, but nevertheless it's obviously an issue how 'swingers' define themselves. What i find disturbing in our post is the use of 'single male' as derogatory terminology- not what i'd expect to hear from a self styled 'liberal' community....if that's what we are?
I did say a handful of guys biofilm, was trying to be polite but seeing as you want to be picky.... the point is we use this site to meet other like minded people, the chat room is an excellent tool for doing so and also a great place to chat with friends we have made along the way.
I am not in there for the entertainment of a few individuals that seem to think I will perform for them on command. Is this a swinging community or a free letch fest?
As of yet I have not experianced this kind of intimidation from any genuine couple or single female and I never said ALL single males, as most of the guys in here are friendly and sincere.
"single males". If it's derogotory to you then i'm sorry.
so you think that none of the couples in here are satisfied with thier sex lives biofilm?? I would love to hear what other couples in here think about your opinion?
charlie.
Oh my goodness, I haven't ever written in here but this one soooo needs a comment!!!! I love my partner with all my heart, but even so, if our sexlife wasn't as FANTASTIC as it is then we would have the wicked relationship we have!!!! When we meet a couple or a single female it isn't because we don't want each other, its is enjoying each other being with other people! Also me being bisexual and what bloke doesn't enjoy seeing his girl with another bird swinging is perfect for us!!!
I feel that if a couple were not fully happy with their sexlife then swinging wouldn't be a great thing for them.
Regarding the most single male comment. I don't go into the chat room much ne more due to the comments that have been said by some males. Don't get me wrong some of u blokes are great, and I love chatting to you. But some single males have done my head in, and have even hurt my feelings when their demand is not been met.
If I wanted to sit with my tits out then believe me I would. I don't need to be told! I and all the other females out there are our own people and can make decisions for ourselves. It is 2005 by the way.
Theres my little rant!!!! lol
Luv carly xxx
p.s. please ignore my spelin as I do write like a 5year old! hehe
Yes I have to reply to this too!
The reason why Charlie would have singled out single males is because it is only a single male who could make such a remark!
We have an incredible sex life, as I would like to think do most swinging couples. The reason why we swing is that there are certain sexual activities you can do with one male and one female, and certain other sexual activities that require a different permutation, e.g. an extra male, an extra female, another male instead of a female, etc, etc. So to engage in those other activities requires us to involve one or more other persons. That is why we're here.
The problem many single guys have is, they don't get that. They take the approach of, "I am a super stud, let me satisfy you....". We don't want that! We are both very satisfied thank you very much! We just want to try different things with people with the right looks, attitude, and peronality. To find them takes time, which is why it's always funny when a new single guy we've never seen before whispers to us in the chatroom, "are you free for some fun?"!!!
Warming the Bed
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Well said Charlie...Carly n Raunchys...
I totally agree wiv what you've all said....and that is the main reason why i dnt go in the chat room anymore because i have been insulted if i havent done what they have asked me too...once again people this isnt a free porn show....We are here 2 meet like minded ppl.....
Me and Warwick have an amazing sex life but like carly stated about being bisexual i am 2 and we both get enjoyment out of it...swinging is fun but is not a substitute for our sex lives.....believe it or not.....
Law xxxx
Post edited 21-10-2005 15:22
Warming the Bed
Oh and i also got asked why i had a picture of me giving First timer a blow job on my profile if i wasnt going to give this single guy one!!! PMSL!!!!!
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Sexlightened
OMG... We had better remove our blowjob pic then cos we dont want anyone getting the wrong impression..lol
As for the rest of it..we also have a fantastic sex life, believe it or not... but being bi myself & with a great partner... we like to have a little fun with other women from time to time..its not the be all & end all..just a adds little extra spice now & then to an already great relaionship.. 
Personally, I dont think swinging would work in a relationship that wasn't 100% anyway.. we no longer go into the chatroom as much as we used to & try to avoid busier times too because of the small majority of men who just wont take no for an answer, which is a real shame as it is a great part of the swinger-personals community...
ok thats just our opinion.... :P
Personally, I dont think swinging would work in a relationship that wasn't 100% anyway.. we no longer go into the chatroom as much as we used to & try to avoid busier times too because of the small majority of men who just wont take no for an answer, which is a real shame as it is a great part of the swinger-personals community...
ok thats just our opinion.... :P Well....as has been said by the other couples who have replied to cmandcd's rant, We also havea excellent sex life and this just adds to it. I hardly ever go into the chatroom at night and fimd it much more friendly earlier in the day. Maybe if the single guys who have been offending people should start to think about if they did have girlfriends, partners etc what they would feel like if men started demanding things and making rude comments to their partners !!! Think about it boys.
I do have to say that there are a lot of lovely single guys and i do feel for them as it must be extremely difficult to get anyone to take u seriously with all the idiots about.
Puss xxxxxxxx
( wow surprised myself. Rant over !! lol)
Warming the Bed
All fair points- i cant say i've been witness to this attitude from single males myself but then i've not been in the chat room much lately- but when i have the atmosphere does seem different.
My point is not everyone is like what you describe- but as most of you have all quite fairly pointed out- not everyone is like that. Guess i was just in a 'touchy' mood last night! sorry 
PS: i wasnt saying couples werent satisfied with their sex lives- quite the opposite....that some people might have differing opinions on what 'swingers' are and do.
PS: i wasnt saying couples werent satisfied with their sex lives- quite the opposite....that some people might have differing opinions on what 'swingers' are and do. [quote user=biofilm]some people might have differing opinions on what 'swingers' are and do.[/quote]
Think you hit the nail on the head there biofilm, we always thought that swinging was an exclusively couples only scene before we discovered these web sites.
How wrong we were! lol
I think a lot of these afformentioned single guys don't really comprehend swinging like we do.
Can we also say how upsetting it is that many of our friends have stopped using the chat room because of this issue. soon this will be the most exclusive swinging site in europe..........exclusively for single guys! lol (will that work??)
For the single males that are still disillusioned, I'd like to say that all the couples who posted here are all really good chat friends of mine - and I'm a single male!!
This brings a burning issue to light, and that is the amount of desperate, sexually immature single males (wankers) who are starting to frequent the chat room, expecting to see action or be guaranteed a "fuck" (mostly their words, not mine), just because there are women present, single or as part of a couple. It's the minority of these socially and sexually inadequate twats who give us decent single males a bad name.
Thankfully, I am well-known enough in chat (and I'm sure the couples here will vouch for me) to be accepted, since everyone knows me and takes me as they find me. They know that you won't find me giving any shit to anyone, except the guys who make complete idiots of themselves. You may have noticed that I can't bite my tongue any longer, and I have been compelled to speak my mind whenever I have to witness this sort of behaviour in the chat room. Thankfully, only one twat responded, and then left - and even then, he made a crap job of it!
I can't stress the need enough to have a mechanism in place, maybe a mute button for nuisance members, a facility to block whispers, and maybe even something that excludes them completely from chat (a booting facility, to put it bluntly).
To all the couples here who have had an input - :clap: :clap: :clap: :clap: :clap:, and to the stupid twats who continue to ruin it, not just for the decent single males, but for everyone else...... :wank: :moon: :wank: :moon: :wank: :moon: :wank: :moon: :wank: :moon:
Post edited 21-10-2005 20:28
Totally agree guys. I have no problem talking to single blokes but I object to them saying things like 'get your tits out then' and then they start having digs at my other half because he isnt shagging me senseless like they want to apparently which makes Mr Somit feel bad after a hard days work and hes just come home to have a quiet drink and a friendly chat on chat room and we get leered at because im fully clothed and we not having sex. Im not digging at all singles cuz there are some lovely blokes in the chat room who are an absoloute pleasure to talk to. Its the minority spoiling it for the others. Also i agree with evil and cmandcd. We have a 100% solid loving relationship and love our sex life. But we have reached the point in our relationship where we want to share it with others and enjoy it with others if you know what i mean. These blokes that are saying this cant even get relationships - they are single blokes - so who are they to critisize people in loving relationships who mutually want to explore other things. And as it has already been said I am bi so are many other women so if i want to have time with other women i want to share it with my man - not do it behind his back like some of these blokes really want us to!!! Thats what the problem is they want the women on their own and they cant bare the thought of the women having loving relationships with someone else - they cant understand what they are unable to do themselves. So i applaud all you members who have made a stand on this and i also apoligise to all you single men out there who are genuine - we know who you are and will not take it out on you xxxxxxx :O :O :O :mad: :mad: :mad:
[quote user=somit2005]....to all you single men out there who are genuine - we know who you are and will not take it out on you xxxxxxx :O :O :O :mad: :mad: :mad:[/quote]
Hey, thanks Somit - you never take it out on any of us anyway!! 
You are both great to chat to!
Post edited 21-10-2005 21:44
You are both great to chat to!
Post edited 21-10-2005 21:44 
Sexlightened
Just an idea.
Instead of "Single Male" for profile description (in SOME CASES, NOT ALL), should there be a separate category for "Can't get any in real world"? OR "I paid so I wanna get laid?"? As opposed to people male/female/single/married etc?
I stress in some cases? Usually the cases of those who OFFEND or make lewd suggestions in the chatroom?
(Feel free to also point out single females can also be a nusiance! Not met any myself though!)
[quote user=somit2005]Totally agree guys. I have no problem talking to single blokes but I object to them saying things like 'get your tits out then' and then they start having digs at my other half because he isnt shagging me senseless like they want to apparently which makes Mr Somit feel bad after a hard days work and hes just come home to have a quiet drink and a friendly chat on chat room and we get leered at because im fully clothed and we not having sex.[/quote]
Yeah that's always a good one! Whenever we go on cam and Dance Pole is playing around as she does, we always get "RWB why aren't you f***ing her?".....HELLO? WE DON'T DO IT 24 HOURS A DAY 7 DAYS A WEEK!!!
Warming the Bed
[quote user=cmandcd]OR....... they ask where chris is, And the 9/10 the reply will be "I wouldn't be watching telly if i was with you!"
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OMG OMG OMG OMG!!!!
I have that all the time and also God i wldnt be sat away from you if i was your husband.....do they really think we shag all day long!!!?!?!?!?!?!?!? i WISH we did LOL :doggy:
I find, and when I say single males I mean the ones that our known to be rude, not the single males that I chat to so none of you take offence, lol. I find that as soon as I put my web cam on I get loads of blokes talking to me. Can you put the cam a little lower?? NO I WON'T IF I WANTED IT LOWER IT WOULD BE LOWER!!! Then they sometimes loose interest and go away, but there's always a few that come back. My girlfriend would really like to see your tits. OW REALLY? THAT'S FUNNY UR PROFILE SAYS UR A SINGLE BLOKE. Na I recently got a girlfriend and she's here now. DO PEOPLE THINK WE ARE STUPID??? You can tell this issue gets on my tits!!!! lol
My issue is 1. I am in a very happy and loving relationship. this means I am not single. And therefore will not play alone.
2. I am not a slut or a porn star so I will not act on command of the demands of blokes.
3. I would like to think I was my own person, and I am quiet capable of doing what I want when I want and need no assistance.
In response to the I wouldn't be watching tv if I was him. These men obviously are not used to being with women. If rich didn't have a break and watched tv he would have his ear chewed off with my nattering all the time! Lol. Feel sorry for rich! Lol
Post edited 23-10-2005 13:05
