I`ve always been puzzled by the labels we give ourselves when it comes to our sexual orientation.
I know for a fact I am BI,as I have had the Best of Both Worlds,when it comes to "Rolling in the Hay".
On the profiles I`ve looked at it mostly says,Straight Male/Straight Female or Straight Male/BI Female. Obviously these Ladies(BI) have had the (BoBW).
So all you Straight Guys/Girls out there are you Straight,or have you never considered trying it.
If it Offends my Apologies,its just my Curiosity.
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I really don't know what to class myself. I've had fantasies of being with another man, had a couple of giving and receiving oral experiences with a man (and enjoyed it) and would like to take it further. So in that respect I would class myself as BI.
However, it has come to our attention on more than on occasion that putting BI MALE on the profile is a definite no-no as any straight males/couples looking at the profile would definitely not consider meeting. I guess they feel that as a BI male, I'd pounce on them as soon as they get through the door, so the profile says STRAIGHT.
Carl xx
[color="cyan"]No I'm definately straight.... just seeing blokes kiss each other makes me cringe 
eye:[/color] but if that's the way some guys are then it's personal choice. I'm sure there will be debate about why people are bi-sexual; [color="red"]I can understand women being so inclined (they can be sssooooo hard to please 
& we men may not have the softest of touches:doh: & we are basically selfish as a sex
)[/color]but not men. Perhaps someone will enlighten me?
However I don't propose to judge people & take them as I find them ( & they me). It's not always about sex anyway is it? I like to meet new people & listen to their stories, etc.:clap: [color="cyan"]As long as I was aware the man was bi I would not be concerned as I would ensure they knew I was not, and had no interest at all in trying it out.[/color]
eye:[/color] but if that's the way some guys are then it's personal choice. I'm sure there will be debate about why people are bi-sexual; [color="red"]I can understand women being so inclined (they can be sssooooo hard to please & we men may not have the softest of touches:doh: & we are basically selfish as a sex )[/color]but not men. Perhaps someone will enlighten me?
However I don't propose to judge people & take them as I find them ( & they me). It's not always about sex anyway is it? I like to meet new people & listen to their stories, etc.:clap: [color="cyan"]As long as I was aware the man was bi I would not be concerned as I would ensure they knew I was not, and had no interest at all in trying it out.[/color] [color="indigo"][/color]Very good thread about to bi or not to bi.
Well I thought it was funny :2fingers:
It seems it is normal to be ok to say you are bi as a lady but for men I can deffinately see it will send other men running with their backs to the wall. (no offence meant to anyone here xx)
I think it is a wise choice to say if you are bi curious and are concerned about scarring men off to put it on the list of what you are searching for ... couple with a bi male or bi couple. Then it doesnt seem to be as full on as saying you are a bi male.
I did get a great mail of a single guy who said that he was straight but can understand that when in a FMM situation hands and tongues do get tangled and understands that there will end up with some male parts touching. It just seemed a very mature way of saying I am straight but not gonna freak if our cocks touch or similar.
It seems ladies are more open about touching or kissing each other,for a man it means you are gay and to be strung up!! So silly isnt it. So guys I would say try to be ingeniuos how you put it in your profile unless you are a confident man and totally comfortable with how you describe yourself. :boo::boo::boo::boo:
Well I thought it was funny :2fingers:
It seems it is normal to be ok to say you are bi as a lady but for men I can deffinately see it will send other men running with their backs to the wall. (no offence meant to anyone here xx)
I think it is a wise choice to say if you are bi curious and are concerned about scarring men off to put it on the list of what you are searching for ... couple with a bi male or bi couple. Then it doesnt seem to be as full on as saying you are a bi male.
I did get a great mail of a single guy who said that he was straight but can understand that when in a FMM situation hands and tongues do get tangled and understands that there will end up with some male parts touching. It just seemed a very mature way of saying I am straight but not gonna freak if our cocks touch or similar.
It seems ladies are more open about touching or kissing each other,for a man it means you are gay and to be strung up!! So silly isnt it. So guys I would say try to be ingeniuos how you put it in your profile unless you are a confident man and totally comfortable with how you describe yourself. :boo::boo::boo::boo: 
Sexpert
so funny...
lick anything .. suck anything... 
You all know where I stand 
You all know where I stand Well i'm most deff Bi this is MO by the way lol.. i love the fact i can please both sides and be pleased by both... I have to say i have thought abt MALE BEING WITH A MALE, allthough only oral.. have talked with si about this and he said he may be layed back and easy going and love me very much but this is one thing he wont be doing to please me lol... which is fine, he dosn't have a prob with the male male thing he just has no interest what so ever in thinking it or trying it.
Why is it we never see guys on cam with each other? now this i would like to see, rather than just single males wanking
mwah Mo x
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Once Again its the old stigma of being seen as gay
[color="blue"][/color]where infact "Bisexuality is a confusing issue for society and it's a hard one to get your head around. While female bisexuality sells, male bisexuality remains largely a subject for unease this remains a mystery to myself, I am a bi fem but my fella is straight, but he is under no illusions that during certain sex acts that occur between FMM there will always be some amount of touching, so many males that i have talked too have a real fear of this happening and insist that my partner stay up one end while they stay the other it totally sends me nuts :crazy:
I dont know how they ever manage to fully enjoy having FMM sex when they are so up tight. GIVE ME a FEM anyday so much more relaxed :smile2: xx
[color="blue"][/color]where infact "Bisexuality is a confusing issue for society and it's a hard one to get your head around. While female bisexuality sells, male bisexuality remains largely a subject for unease this remains a mystery to myself, I am a bi fem but my fella is straight, but he is under no illusions that during certain sex acts that occur between FMM there will always be some amount of touching, so many males that i have talked too have a real fear of this happening and insist that my partner stay up one end while they stay the other it totally sends me nuts :crazy:
I dont know how they ever manage to fully enjoy having FMM sex when they are so up tight. GIVE ME a FEM anyday so much more relaxed :smile2: xx Hi Mrs C here, great thread btw debbie xxx.
I've often wondered the difference between being bi or sexually adventurous and sometimes struggle with the question 'am I bi or not'. Well with some women yes I can be very bi and a quite few women come to mind from this site lol, but I hardly ever look at a woman in the street and think cooor I'd love to have some fem fun with her. Mr C says yes defo I am as he sees the tell tale look in my eye when I'm with another woman. Is this the same for all bi women I wonder or am I simply not bi but just sexually adventurous??? At the end of the day what exactly is 'bi' I suspect the answer to that is different for every woman.
As for Mr C, straighter than a steel girder and no question about it.
mwahxxxxxxxxx ceylon
I do not believe that everyone has Bi-sexual tendencies, everyone has different preferences. I don't really know if I would consider myself as Bi-sexual, I look at women and find them attractive and I enjoy being with a woman sexually but I could never be in a relationship with a female! I see the 'Bi' side of me as part of swnging and thats about as far as it goes! So I suppose sexually adventurous could be the right term.
Mindy x
We have both had bi experiences mine many moons ago, r's more recent ;) lol she is definitely up for more, me, i would say that i was probably more than curious, certainly as far as oral goes, but i find myself more inclined to say in introductions that I am straight but up for most things, this we find puts those we are corresponding with in the position where they can ask without causing offence. Like all good swingers tho we are very aware of boundaries and if it was a NO then i would happily play the staight guy!! neil and ri xxxxxx
[quote user=morkandmindy]I do not believe that everyone has Bi-sexual tendencies, everyone has different preferences. Mindy x[/quote]:angel: well said:thumbup:
[color="cyan"]I agree with mindy on this. Not everyone has bi tendencies despite what we are led to believe in various types of media:!:.[/color] [color="red"]There has to be some genetic and/or hormonal influence to give us our sexuality. Sexual curiosity is another thing altogether I believe but, if you are not excited in any way by a same sex experience then I see no point is pursuing it as doing so may lead to a very bad meet.:uhoh::upset:[/color]
Inti - I hope you are greedy hun xxxx
For me, well I must say I'm probably about as straight as they make 'em. I've sometimes wondered whether I should try it, but the thought rarely lasts more than a few milliseconds.
As others have said, I don't believe this is something you can generalise about; some people like same sex fun, others simply can't imagine how it's possible.
Having said that, I have no prejudices whatsoever. If it's your preference, go for it - it's just not mine, that's all.
Regarding close M-M body contact during 3-somes, I'm not so paranoid that I can't handle a bit of accidental and inevitable closeness! As long as the other guy isn't acually trying it on I'm fine with it. We're both there for the same thing after all, and he has to contend with me sometimes brushing against him too !
Do whatever floats your boat, I say.
Suds
xxxx
For me, well I must say I'm probably about as straight as they make 'em. I've sometimes wondered whether I should try it, but the thought rarely lasts more than a few milliseconds.
As others have said, I don't believe this is something you can generalise about; some people like same sex fun, others simply can't imagine how it's possible.
Having said that, I have no prejudices whatsoever. If it's your preference, go for it - it's just not mine, that's all.
Regarding close M-M body contact during 3-somes, I'm not so paranoid that I can't handle a bit of accidental and inevitable closeness! As long as the other guy isn't acually trying it on I'm fine with it. We're both there for the same thing after all, and he has to contend with me sometimes brushing against him too !
Do whatever floats your boat, I say.
Suds 
Casanova
debs the truth about men being bi is a very complicated one , there seems to be so many issues to take into account,i think most men are a bit, but getting them to admit it will never happen, the issue of what bi means,well if you play with each others cock and abit of a blow job does that make ya bi or do you need to kiss and lick ,suck and fuck an bum sex, think thats a different matter altogether maybe thats gay sex and if its all happens with your partner and another couple invoved is that bi ???? im not sure that you will find the answer ever, us guys are way too proud to say we fancy abit of cock lol
I`ve enjoyed the answers so far.
2 on 2,sorry hun but some days I do fancy a bit of cock,and I also fancy a bit of pussy.
Heres a scenario for all you " straight guys ",put a blindfold on a man and I bet he couldnt tell who was giving him a blowjob,girl or guy?
I have done this once,with a BI couple I knew,and he couldnt tell the difference (best BJ he had)and tasty for me too.
Keep all your answers Cuming,oops sorry ,DEBS XXXX
P.S MO give it time,I may surprise you 1
Mmmm Debbie i will be pervin your cam more often in the hope to see this, don't know what i would get from it just think it would be diferent and i can bet even the guys who say there not Bi would watch.
I have often though about what you have said Debbie about the blind fold with a guy, and i agree i don't think he would know which was which " well unless the guy GIVING had a beard lol"
At the end of the day Its just Bodys giving other bodys pleasure, what makes it a turn on or turn of is what's in the MIND and how your mind works.
Right were's my blind fold and si lol... ha i have no chance of that.
Mwah
Mo x
Ohhh Dear now im a little confused, after reading some of the post's i have come to think am i BI or just sexualy what ever it was.
I love being with another female but only when si is there with me, i wouldn't go out looking for a single fem to have a one on one with, not that it wouldn't be nice i'm sure,its just what turns me on is being with si with the other lady or cpl, him seeing me with them and vise versa.
Part of the whole erotic thing for me is to have the best of both at the same time hehe..
so i'm now not sure what i'd call my self.
P.s Ceylon i do eye up all the lady's in the street and wonder what they would be like in bed with si and myself lol....
Mwah MO X
Interesting replies so far, and very thought-provoking :thumbup:
However there does seem to be a lot of confusion between having fun and being classed as bi-sexual:undecided: so perhaps we should try to define EXACTLY what that term means:small-print: so I 'googled' the word and this is the result.
[b][color="cyan"]A1. What is bisexuality? [/color][/b]
[color="red"]Bisexuality means sexual or romantic attraction or behavior directed towards some members of more than one sex.[/color]
[b][color="cyan"]A2. What is "a bisexual"? [/color][/b]
[color="red"]A strict definition of a bisexual would be someone who has romantic and/or sexual relations with other people of more than one sex (though not necessarily at the same time).[/color]
However, since not everyone has necessarily had the opportunity to act on their sexual/romantic attractions, some people prefer a looser definition; for instance, that a bisexual is a person who - in their own estimation - feels potentially able to have such attraction. This could be anyone who has erotic, affectionate, or romantic feelings for, fantasies of, and/or experiences with both men and women.
A bisexual may be more attracted to one sex than the other, attracted equally to both, or find people's sex unimportant. The strength of their attractions to men and women may vary over time.
[b][color="cyan"]A3. Is there a difference between "a bisexual", "bisexual" and "bi"? [/color][/b]
[color="red"]Yes. Definitions for "a bisexual" are suggested above - all relating to attraction and behaviour. "Bisexual" (and the short form, "bi") is sometimes used as an adjective, to describe a bisexual person.[/color]
However, many people who exhibit bisexual behaviour do not identify as bisexual. In other words, bisexual identity and bisexual behaviour are not necessarily the same thing. So the word bisexual is being used in two different ways here.
Some argue that if bisexual is to mean anything, it must have a strong definition - that of exhibiting bisexual behaviour, or at least the potential for it. Others feel it is more important to respect people's self-definition whatever it is.
It has been suggested that the word "bisexual" should be limited to describing behaviour, and the word "bi" could be used for describing identity, with all the cultural implications which have grown up in the bi community.
Since the word "bisexual" can be used in different ways, it is enough to bear this in mind and make it clear how you are using it, in the interests of good communication.[/color]
[color="violet"]A long answer but hopefully it will put things back into perspective
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:thumbup:[/color] Well Doc I have to say my eyes are swimming now after reading your long and swatty answer and explanation!!!! pmsl. All I know is that I like to have fun and also enjoy that with another lady.
I am still seeing red and blue doc,can you reccomend anything for my eys lol. xxxxx
Everyone enjoy if bi or not bi or any other variety. I love this site xxxxx
I've never actually counted to get a true ratio, but would I be right in thinking that the vast majority of ladies on this site (single or married) describe themselves as "bi", rather than straight? Not all of them, of course, but certainly a significant majority. It's certainly the impression I get from perving profiles.
Don't know if anything can be read into this - I guess it comes back to the earlier "Do men just not want to own up to it?" question posed earlier.
cracking answer doc!! confused myself whilst reading it though!!
the way i see things is that life is to be enjoyed and there are many ways of enjoying it!! i mainly like to enjoy it by rolling around naked with ladies, but on the odd occasion i have been know to like sausage roll.
i'm quite happy with discussing my activities in an understanding forum such as this but would never speak of it outside of these circles, maybe due to the lack of understanding and small mindedness of the other folk!!
anyway i'm glad there are open minded people around who also enjoy being rude!!
have fun folks, later,
Paul x
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I am still seeing red and blue doc,can you reccomend anything for my eys lol. xxxxx
Everyone enjoy if bi or not bi or any other variety. I love this site xxxxx[/quote]
:therethere::therethere::violin: Fruit.:lol2:
Sweet & gentle 
:kiss: will go a long way to tacking your mind off youreye: & you can always get Drew to :lick: your lips as well:devil::rascal::rose:
:kiss: will go a long way to tacking your mind off youreye: & you can always get Drew to :lick: your lips as well:devil::rascal::rose: 