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errrr, unless ya suddenly woke up this morning with ya cock replaced with something a little more feminine (tried to word it nicely there) ya ain;t got a right to say how women on here should act. go make yaself a female account true, chuck on a few pics and then sit back and see how us "women that have it easy" really have it. its not all a bed of roses on here, us single women find it just as hard as men, from the shitty whispers to the the pointless mails, bugging for cam play and expectations that cause we;re on a swingers site we are either desperate or easy. ya intitled to ya opinion true, but try to be a little more respectful with it
right, ya know what true, i'll make it easy on ya, feel free to access my account and read my inbox and see for yaself. blokes sending messages consisting of one liners that nclude "hi, wanna get together and suck me off?" or even better "ur only 6 miles away, might as well come do me"
oh true think you stirred up a hornets nest here :-| Having said that though dare i say you do have a of the females on here can be just as rude as some of the males. Some do seem to have missed the concept that this is a "swinging" site and yes manners don't cost anything. Having said this it is just my opinion and just because it may be different to others does not make it wrong or right we are all different. If in saying my bit i have offended anyone it was not intentional but true does have a point.rolleyes
sexy True, u mite hav guessed it wud b me replyin ...lol.....i agree wiv ur thread, im sure sum others will too and there will be othas that dont..... girlies, do get let off lightly and im very sure there r sum prick teasers out there... not jus ignore peeps, jus say 'no thanx' or tell them the truth 'sorry ur not my type' honesty is the best policy. speakin 4 myself, i get alot of mail but i do reply to all of them....may take me a few days, jus depends on how twatted i am.....lol...but u will get a reply. altho sum times i do get mail from guys that jus tells me there dick size and where they wanna put it and this pisses me off.....so sumtimes, yes il put me hand up......i jus delete it! cus im not jus a maaaad slapper on ere.....i too deserve respect!! i do and i kno u and every1 else knows....i spend probs too much time in the chatroom... 1. to meet new playmates 2. to flirt 3. to chat to all my friends 4. hav a giggle and take the piss (make ppl happy) 5. to fuck on cam, cus im an exhibionist 6. to watch others fuck on cam... 7. i wispa newbies 2, jus 2 make sure they r okey cokey... 8. and sumtimes wen newbies cum in and say hi, no fucka replies, but neva fear peeps cus funkys ere, and i will! ok, so sum of them u wudnt agree wiv, but i still use the site for its main purpose and always hav.....flirtin and meetin and fuckin sexy peeps!! and boy hav i made full use of it and really fuckin njoyed myself...... rite im off me soapbox now..... have a good day and b happy funkyD xx:P ps.. sexy True....iv bin exercisin like u advised and iv lost 7lb......MWAH
and the place wud b very borin sexy True..... funkyD xx:P
[quote user=truescorpio] So theres your first bit of advice - If you're not here looking for sex, you shouldnt even be here [/quote] What gives you the right to tell people if they should or shouldn't be on here. People join for all sorts of reason's, some might just like the adult chat, might like playing on cam, erotic emails, etc. Not everyone on here wants to meet with people to have sex, just like there is people on here that don't want to meet single males or couples. If they pay there membership then they have the same rights to be on here as everyone else.
[quote user=truescorpio] Ah hello again Ellie, my fave spectator, hows you? Now we just have to wait for madchick to turn up with her socioligical standpoint, Sudsy with his 'everythings fine the way it is' approach, Mindy with her 'I'll just put the exact opposite of everything true writes' countering, and newcomer Serens who I suspect will bring something similar to Mindy smile. ...Oh, and the usual army of single males screaming 'WE ARE NOT WITH THIS GUY!!!' :mrgreen:[/quote] You're the one who starts these debates True, you can't expect everyone to agree with you! And what do you mean "spectator"? Ellie xxxxx
Can I just say that as a single female on here I should NOT 'have' to expect the shitty messages and obnoxious idiots who post mail time and again in my box... if I say no once then why do they think if they keep on and try a different tactic then I'll change my mind? True.. I agree that single males get all the crap while women are whiter than white and we all know that this isn't always the case - but in all honesty the complaints are usually about the men so there is a reason this is the common thread of thinking. And finally, I'm sorry but I do have to agree that while you have the right to speak as you think and have brought up a valid point, it really is not for you to judge why people join this site. All members have their diffeent reasons and circumstances and as I have always said, each to their own as long as it doesn't infringe on the pleasure and experience of other members. Having said all that, sometimes my mailbox does give me a good giggle - and for the record to anyone who may think of mailing me... I really dont care how big/small your cock is so dont think it impresses me in the slightest!!! :doh:
Ok I don't like to be predictable so I'll go ahead and agree with some of the points you have made! I won't generalise though, there are some great single females on this site. But generally the single males do get a lot more flack. We've had single females show an interest, chat to us.. even arrange a date to meet. Then they disappear never to be heard from again. Whats the point?! If they are only here to make friends and have no interest in meeting, they should say so! And yes they can be as rude as any of the single males, but then again so can some couples.
True... I read your posts but didn't read any of the replies for fear of influence, but here's mine. So I simply take up the opposite stance to contradict you?... it's time to grow up sunshine and smell the coffee... because I or others don't agree with you it doesn't make us wrong (or necessarily right)... but don't bring my name into it for no reason. I have disagreed with you previously as is my right, but not simply to take up a contrary position, but because I feel you are wrong. Obviously you are unhappy with many things about the site but others are not...are you saying everyone else is wrong and you are right?... all I can suggest is you have other options if you are not happy... or could it simply be you like trying to be controversial just to get a rise out of people?... build a bridge and get over it true!
I have read reread and read again the tips as they are so loosely termed and quite frankly all I see are Truescorpios Rules of Swinging for the female swinger :crazy: As we subscribe to Swinger Personals website and not Truescorpios I dont see the validity on passing on his thinnly veiled tips nor adopting them :2fingers: Have you ever considered you have the problem and that maybe its time you moved site instead of trying to influence/change/dictate to this one :wave2:
OH Dear Oh dear true.... Ok I ( MO ) Have read yor posting ( do you have to make them so bloody long what with shit mails you think i should reply to i just dont have time anymore to read the forums and most of all have fun on here) lol.. To be honest I cant rem every thing you said, but what did stick in my mind was the bit about people should not be here if its not sex there looking for... Im sorry True This is total Crap, if people are happy to part with there hard earn cash then they have a right to be here and do what they want on the site, ( the same as you with your postings) Some people want sex, some want chat/cam fun some just want friends and this is probbly the most relaxed friendly kind of site u can what im trying to say if they have paid there money dont they have a right to do what they like on here with out being told its just for sex. True do i take it you wont be at the MK social.. as these were started just for friends on here to meet have a few drinks, they wernt about the SEX side of swinging. not saying it dont happen cause it do's as im sure the corridors of Jurys in will be a live with tip toeing round again this year lol...but for some its more than just sex. I have never met you true and to behonest you have never made any real attempt to talk to me in the chat room ( what do's that tell me ) didnt think i was that bad lol) so i wont judge you i do my best not to do that with anyone, everyone has something good abt them as im sure you do.. But i do think u have over stepped the mark here. Live and let learn mwah MO_ X
fuk me Miss ya gone an blown all me best chat up lines in one post I wont be able to mail a woman again..............True I don`t know if your points are valid I got bored reading them. flipa:flipa:
Maybe it would be a good idea for there to be a thread on advice for single women. However it would be better coming from a single woman who has a lot of experience and success on the site. Maybe some people join SP not knowing what they ultimately want to get out of it. It could be that they enjoy the chatroom and the forums but are not sure if they can go through with actually meeting for sex. It could take time for them to be comfortable enough to do that, or it may turn out that they don't want that at all. I imagine this is the case for lots of people who are new to this, single women in particular as they can be much more vunerable. Ellie xxxxxx
I'm not gonna comment on anything that True has written except....... Women (and that includes single and married) can be every bit, if not a dam sight more obnoxious than men on ANY swinging site. I've had run ins with single blokes spouting twatitude but I've also had run ins with certain women who think they are gods gift (when in reality they are wrinkled old hasbeen's) and do what they like, regardless of who they hurt or piss off. I don't think anyone on any site would have a problem with anyone if EVERYONE were to be totally [b]HONEST[/b] about what they want and what they are looking for and they did it with tact and diplomacy. But as the most of the human race don't have the genetic make up to be totally HONEST, you are always going to get idiots and feckwits pissing others off and that unfortunately leads to others being tarred with the same brush! If only everyone could play nicely........... things would be soooooooo much simpler.
mad i agree hun especially with being "honest" However when people are honest and say what they feel look what happens (read above lol) Surely we are all adults and as such should be able to express our own opinions and accept that they will not always be the same as everyone elses. :giveup:
Just speaking personally, we are here for fun and laughs and hopefully make some friends too. We have been made welcome by he vast majority and are friendly to all... we love the banter of jokes and stuff that fly around the chatroom. Our profile explains most about us and is sincere... I agree that everyone is entitled to an opinion but when that becomes personal i.e names mentioned and insults then people will defend themselves myself included... I have said before that i don't prejudge people and firmly belive this site is for everyone and all tastes whether it's our cup of tea or not... in essence we intend to continue to have fun in our own way and are happy to chat and get to know anyone that wants to be friendly... be happy peeps smile
[quote user=truescorpio] Mindy with her 'I'll just put the exact opposite of everything true writes' countering, and newcomer Serens who I suspect will bring something similar to Mindy smile. [/quote] We only disagree with you when you're talking bollocks True!
We really should know better but ..... [quote user=truescorpio] Because the fact of the matter is single males DO get a raw deal on this site, and if anyone should dare stand up and say 'this isnt right' then theyre inviting a whole load of shit upn themselves (although I was aware of that before I posted anything). But I posted it anyway, because this is a big, big problem on this site and Im going to draw attention to it, even if it makes me unpopular [color="green"]The solution would be to join another site then would it not?[/color] 3. Ive never chatted to you MO because youre not looking for single males and I dont like wasting my time [color="green"]Hmmmm common curtesy and good manners is wasting time then?[/color] 4. Sex isnt an obligation of being a part of this site. Ok so there is some truth in that one, but as I said in the first place, if youre looking to make friends and find new people online, there are many, many other sites where you can do that. But Im not gonna back away from the fact that THIS site is for people who are looking for sex. The reason I joined this site was because I have a basic, animal desire for intimate human contact, and it seemed a great idea to come to a place where there were supposedly many other people looking for the same. You walk into a bar or nightclub looking for this, you never can be sure just if youre going to find someone you like there, what their individual needs are - it makes so much more sense to come here looking for what I need. [color="green"]So you pay more to join than a glass of wine or pint of beer and you expect invites and knickers dropped? Very offensive opinion you have of the females on this site or very high one of yourself, tad similar to the assumption that anyone who pays money to enter swingers clubs is guaranteed a night of frolicks and lustful sex.[/color] 6. Ive probably missed something out but my fingers are tired. [color="green"]Well we are eternaly grateful to your stamina or lack of it for that[/color] [/quote] Does anyone know where one lb of sour grapes can be bought?
Hmmmm True You realy should bother to read peoples profiles your self, if you did you would see what we are looking for... but hey dont bother WASTING YOUR time as you said im not even worth the bother, and from that remark i should think you will find many wont bother to take the time to speak to you, even tho YOUR not what there looking for. I think You should read be4 you Judge MO_
[quote user=truescorpio] 1. 'Its all my personal opinion'. Define what an 'opinion' is exactly? Is it based upon a persons individual view of a state of affairs? Does something have to be acknowledged by all before its declared to be a fact? Because the fact of the matter is single males DO get a raw deal on this site, and if anyone should dare stand up and say 'this isnt right' then theyre inviting a whole load of shit upn themselves (although I was aware of that before I posted anything). But I posted it anyway, because this is a big, big problem on this site and Im going to draw attention to it, even if it makes me unpopular [/quote] An opinion is a set of beliefs or thoughts and can be individual or a group A fact is something that can be proven to be true or untrue. e.g. this is a swinging site is a fact there are men on this site who send offensive mail - opinion (depends on your definition of offensive) there are women on here who waste time - opinion (depends on what you are on the site for) some women do not reply to every mail they get - fact (I know that i don't have time to reply to all or indeed the inclination to bother to reply to someone who jsut says, 'nice tits- fancy a fuck?' By this criteria, which is a basic rule of thumb employed at as low as year 5 in schools, we cannot say men having a raw deal on here is a fact but we can say that it is the opinion of True and of some others. Personally (and therefore my [u]opinion[/u]) i think that there is good and bad in both and that is the way of the world for goodness sake!!! I do not object to you giving advice to single women but i do object to you using this as a vehicle for some bitter rant and rail against females, True. :rose:
I just think it absolutely hilarious that you think you know so much about this site and the swinging scene when you've only been here five minutes! You've come into this site and created such a name for yourself that people are going to dissagree with you now no matter what you say. If any of the other [b]more respected[/b] single males had posted this thread I can guarantee the response would have been completely different. Your arrogance and deluded opinion of how this scene works and how you think you should be treated precedes you now. Good luck with that! I posted this just in case other members were interested in our opinion. Of course you already knew what I was going to write you jumped up, arrogant child. People like [b]you[/b] have made this the unfriendly place it is these days and exactly the reason we've had a gut full of this site.
On a personal level, I think the thing that annoys me most about the "Advice to" threads is that the preposition in that instance should be "for", not "to". I understand a few of the frustrations that true obviously has encountered, but I have reached a stage in my life where I try not to take it personally. If someone doesn't want to speak to me, I accept that I am not their thing and move on. If they don't reply to me, I don't necessarily assume that I'm being ignored - I've missed enough posts and whispers in there directed to me to know better. And to be honest, if they are being deliberately rude, then they're not the sort of person I want to have anything to do with anyway. Manners maketh the man. I am a single male in a "target rich" environment. Some of us may be lions, but we're hiding amidst a pack of hyenas. There are always far more single males in the chatroom than just about anything else but the majority of them sit around without participating in any form, simply waiting for the pornography on the cams to start, which is when the feeding starts; it's why I won't go into the chatroom on Friday or Saturday - it's a meat market and frankly it makes my skin crawl. Yes, there are some women in the room that relish the exhibitionist side of their nature and play cock-tease. Power to them, frankly, and if I get to spank the monkey while they do it, I'm exploiting them for my sexual gratification as much as they're exploiting me. Finally, I don't judge what purpose people put this site to. It's a community and that means different things to different people. I know of and have played with a group in Oxford that use only the messaging elements of the site and none of social elements. None of them are "established" and none of them leave comments for each other. They simply swap details and shag each other senseless. Some of them are single fems. None of them will have anything to do with anyone outside of the Oxford area. Are they wrong in this respect? I am not, nor is anyone else, in a position to decide that. This is their community as much as it is mine and these are the terms of their participation. The rest of us have to live with it. So as far as I'm concerned, to paraphrase Voltaire, I may not agree with how you swing, but I shall defend unto spanking your right to swing that way. Brian - Peace Out.
:bounce: [color="red"]Hey True....the kinda friends you meet on here you would NEVER find on a different site!!![/color]:inlove:
hi true firstly god that you TRY to make a point but as a single once single guy im going to pass on some advice for you as i happen to be with one of the single women that you are talking about but at this point we have not paid to update the profiles and that would be both profiles. firstly my other half gets constant whispers on here from guys like you and passes them all on to me so i knwo whats going on mail from guys like you which she passes on to me and yes people asking her to cam the problem with people like you is ..... 1) you either dont know how to read or cant be arsed 2) if you do read the profile choose to ignore it 3) just think your better than whats written on the profile and can do what you want anyway 4) got your head shoved so far up your own arse you dont live in a real world
having seen you in the chat roomi can understand why you have run into problems and may also add that i never mentioned what was in the messages just that they get sent without people reading profiles and yes you have been guilty of sending them to my other half as for my punctuation may i just say that being as judgmental as you are just think that some people do have dificulties that at diferent times wher not recognised in schools i happen to be one of these people their for you do appear to be some kind of biggot in many diferent ways
[quote user=truescorpio] But even so, the fact that you still take the easy view and accuse me of being arrogant, childish and unfriendly. All that I do, because I am the only one prepared to do it, is point out what everyone else turns a blind eye to.[/quote] Easy view? we agreed with you earlier? No one is having a go at you for having an opinion. Least of all us! The difference is, and what everyone is trying to point out to you is that other peoples views are just as valid as yours. [quote user=truescorpio]You said it yourself perhaps if a more 'respected'...how do you define that exactly? I know, you'll say a guy who is respectful, doesnt take things to heart or something like that, I'd say its a guy who shuts up and knows his place on here. Those guys are nice and easy to get along with arnt they?[/quote] It's exactly what it says on the tin. Someone who has [b]earned[/b] respect from the other members of this site, male, female or couple. [quote user=truescorpio]I owe you an apology Mindy[/quote] For what? The sad fact of the matter is that you think you're original, controversial and clever. But members like you come and go all the time. you're not the first and you certainly won't be the last. We've been on this site longer than most, we've been in the scene even longer. The reason we disagree with most of the things you say is because from our experience and in [size="24"]our opinion[/size] you rarely get it right!
not making anything up at all they are passed onto me in the chat roomas as for struggling with english i dont i just have seriouse problems putting it down on either paper or typing it. apart from that i am very articulate. as for djandme she also has a second id which is kept quiet for differing reasons but on thet profile it also states that we are together and still the messages are sent. i did not say that you sent filthy messages you implied that yourself by mentioning it in your reply to my comment. as for saying that about my english well as i stated previously biggot is the best term for you and im guessing that you believe that i should not be on a site like this also as i have problems with typing and grammer
OHHHHHHHHHHH FOOK, SPELING IS BEING TAKEN IN TO ACCOUNT NOW AS WELL, I MAY AS WELL LEAVE NOW THEN COS MINE IS CRAP, so im not worth bothering with and i cant spell... im fooked :haha: MO_ ( i think thats how its spelt but do i us a full stop or comma. true maybe if bothered to talk to me you could give me some spelling lessons hehe mwah )