[quote user=tall-john]A3) Would I give up swinging if I met a lovely woman outside the scene - yes - definately. It would be a matter of respect for that person. [/quote]
It's not so much what you would do if you met someone who isn't into swinging. I was curious to find out if the single members could comfortably carry on swinging (as a couple) with someone they loved?
The biggest problem with this thread is that 'most' of the replies are coming from members that we've known for ages and know to be completely genuine!
Excellent answer though Tall
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A question for the single members
When i met Beowulf ( 9 mths ago) I had no idea he was into swinging
I love this guy dearly and thought nothing could change that
But the day he told me that he was into swinging we sat and chatted about things
which is when i decided to join as well
i can honestly say i feel closer to him now
Its not a case of im sharing him with anyone else its just we are meeting up with people for some fun and excitement
Its me he goes home with later
So in answer to your question Beo has carried on swinging even after meeting someone Lynn x x x :P :P :P
Post edited 29-08-2007 8:14
Sexlightened
i have to say i have two views on this. if i met someone and decided to date, i think i would be honest with them and tell them that i swing. i'm very much one of them people that once u start dating someone, i like to be totally honest about everything, plus i have some very very close swinger mates as well and i don't want that weirdness about how i know them popping up and shocking them into an early grave. hopefully whoever i do date will accept me being the swinger loving person i am and not go all negitive and objective towards me.
if they said they would prefere not to partake and be just 1 on 1, i would respect their feelings and do that. tho if they wished to indulge in swinging i would wait until we was totally secure with each other and built up the trust, and let them dip their toe into the swinging pool that i reg swim in. i know i would be comfortable either way.
i think as long as whoever ur with is comfortable and accepting, the possiblities in a relationship can be endless.
btw, oohhh my first post on a thread, gonna run off and see where else i can throw my opinion onto lol
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:lol: :D :lol: :D :lol: [quote user=morkandmindy][quote user=sudsy]Mork and Mindy - funny, never had you guys down as trying to "catch out" single males before.
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We're not trying to catch anyone out Sudsy, just extremely curious. We're fascinated by peoples mind set when they get involved in this scene.
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This is a good topic and not too dissimilar from the one I posted, except in reverse ( no not :doggy: ). I joined the site to meet people, originally for sexual fulfillment but now I have changed my perception and like to chat with open minded adults.
From my point of view I don't know if I would be able to watch my partner with someone else, even though I do fantasise about it occassionaly. If I were in a new relationship it would be extremely difficult to continue swinging as I would want to keep that person to myself; unless, of course, I had met them through the swinging scene and we were both happy to continue.
Just another slant from a different angle 
). I joined the site to meet people, originally for sexual fulfillment but now I have changed my perception and like to chat with open minded adults.
From my point of view I don't know if I would be able to watch my partner with someone else, even though I do fantasise about it occassionaly. If I were in a new relationship it would be extremely difficult to continue swinging as I would want to keep that person to myself; unless, of course, I had met them through the swinging scene and we were both happy to continue.
Just another slant from a different angle I have just read through most of the posts and ,low and behold, there are differences of opinion and misconstrued comments 
Some very valid points as well.
I can see two sides to the point raised by Kaynie and Jed in that yes you do have to be in a loving relationship to appreciate the whole purpose of swinging, it's not just about sex but involves both love and trust. On the other hand some people might believe that, if you are in such a loving and trusting relationship, you should not need to swing with others.
As for the single guys (and those that pretend to be) I can only say that if you're looking for a partner don't use the swinging scene, it's not a dating agency! Couples are into the scene because they have the kind of relationship Kaynie has described; the last thing they want is someone trying to break up that partnership. My wife takes the view that we should all be monogamous, otherwise the relationship is not worthwhile - a view I whole heartedly disagree with but accept.
When I first joined this site I was living on my own after having had a very brief affair (4 days to be precise) and my wife had had me tailed by a private investigator (yes they do still exist). One of the reasons I had that affair was because we had problems with our sex life; I decided that one way of satisfying my own libido without causing any further problems was to meet with swingers. I was wrong, but I have gained so much from being a member of this site I wouldn't want to leave. Hence the altered wording on my profile.
Sorry, ranted on a bit there but hope it explains my point of view; I love sex and I also love my wife - it is extremely difficult to make decisions which will ensure both of these are satisfied.
Some very valid points as well.
I can see two sides to the point raised by Kaynie and Jed in that yes you do have to be in a loving relationship to appreciate the whole purpose of swinging, it's not just about sex but involves both love and trust. On the other hand some people might believe that, if you are in such a loving and trusting relationship, you should not need to swing with others.
As for the single guys (and those that pretend to be) I can only say that if you're looking for a partner don't use the swinging scene, it's not a dating agency! Couples are into the scene because they have the kind of relationship Kaynie has described; the last thing they want is someone trying to break up that partnership. My wife takes the view that we should all be monogamous, otherwise the relationship is not worthwhile - a view I whole heartedly disagree with but accept.
When I first joined this site I was living on my own after having had a very brief affair (4 days to be precise) and my wife had had me tailed by a private investigator (yes they do still exist). One of the reasons I had that affair was because we had problems with our sex life; I decided that one way of satisfying my own libido without causing any further problems was to meet with swingers. I was wrong, but I have gained so much from being a member of this site I wouldn't want to leave. Hence the altered wording on my profile.
Sorry, ranted on a bit there but hope it explains my point of view; I love sex and I also love my wife - it is extremely difficult to make decisions which will ensure both of these are satisfied. Hey, only just noticed this thread,
I\'m a sinle guy, I was married for 20 yrs in a very close and lovin relationship, we \"swung\" for about 10 yrs on and off for the second half of our marraige, it was something we both enjoyed and we were both very comfortable with, we never did anything behind each others backs and only swung together, I sadly lost my wife 3 yrs ago. for the last 8 months I have been swingin as a single bloke, I have not met any one on this thread, but have met some lovely couples, and a not so nice couple also, drifting now soz, If I started a new serious lovin relationship with someone, then I dont think I would carry on swinging, would want to concentrate on our relationship, but in time who knows...
To the couples I have met and spoken to, a great big thanks for making a sinle guy welcome, to the on ones who wont even reply to a simple \"hello\" shame on you for classing all single guys as un genuine sex pests,
Apologies for any errors in grammer, just home from 18 hr night shift lol
