we understand what u saying hot,but we feel the room is ok and friendly,we say hi to ppl when we come in and ppl say hi back.u do have to try and join in with chat and we found best way for us is to take it slow and work at it .sometimes we just like to sit and watch the chat and add coments when we feel the need.....there are some great ppl in there hot stick with it it will pay off we feel....have fun....