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Ste_n_kez
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 61
Bisexual Female, 60
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Well, I wasn't doing anything else today so I figured I might as well try to put together something to answer the questions that a lot of single newbies seem to be asking lately.
All comments are welcome! Don't hold back; tell me what you think...
[b]Basic Advice for Single Guys [/b]
This aims to answer a few of the questions most commonly asked by single men coming into the forum and chat room. It's not a bible for getting your end away, or a magic formula for attracting pussy. It's just some simple, basic advice to chew on. I may not even be correct in some respects; feel free to disagree to your hearts' content.
I'm guessing you've stumbled into the website after hearing about swinging, or dogging, and want to get involved. Maybe you've already posted in the forum or chatted to others in the chat room, and are growing concerned that thus far, you've had nary a nibble. Believe me, you aren't the first man to come here with this kind of problem, and if you use the forum's Search facility you can often find where your question has been asked - and answered - many times before.
[b]1. You're In A Big Crowd [/b]
The first thing you have to realise is, there's more men looking for sex online than there are women. Lots more.
What does this mean? For every woman's attention, you're going to be competing with a lot of other guys. Women and couples frequently get many requests to meet for sex, and if they look at the male members profiles then they can choose from thousands of men - and of course, with this range of choice, they'll choose the absolute best guys they can if that's what they are looking for.
So if you ever want to get as far as chatting with or even meeting anyone, you have to put yourself across so that somewhere, some woman will believe that you may be fun to meet.
[b]2. All Those Other Guys Have Dicks Too [/b]
It's a good idea to try to differentiate yourself from those thousands of the other men; to make yourself stand out from the crowd. You need what in marketing circles is called a Unique Selling Point. However, this is where you're very lucky - because you already are a unique individual with your very own personality and unique qualities. What you need to do is demonstrate that specialness to the people you want to contact.
[b]
Male Stereotype wrote:
Hi I'm Roger; 28, very fit, big dick, looking for no-strings action in West Midlands area.[/b]
Lots of men's postings in the Let's Meet Up forum look a lot like this and, while I'm not saying no-one's ever pulled with something similar, you really can give yourself a much better chance if you invest a little effort. The example above makes me think of a small child who's been given a bike for his birthday, proudly showing off his new toy to his family and neighbours. "Look at me," says my advert, "I have a penis!"
The problem is that the other single men on this website all have a penis too. They all have hard dicks and they're all horny. So this is hardly a unique selling point. I personally don't think there's any point in making a big deal of your penis unless it is genuinely abnormally humungous (something close to a foot) and you have photographs to prove it. Exceptionally large penises certainly do hold a novelty-factor for a sizeable number of women, but those women also tend to be aware that endowment sizes get exaggerated by over-eager men. So don't. If by some miracle you did get to meet a lady, she'll notice pretty quickly if your alleged 11 inches is closer to 11 centimeters!
While we're on this subject, opinion amongst women is split on the subject of dick-pictures. Some women like them; others however do not. If you must use a dick-picture in an profile, or send one to someone, always use a facial picture as well. (And no, that doesn't mean a picture of you spewing your load in some poor girl's eyes - it means a clear picture of at least your face.) NEVER use a dick-picture on its own, otherwise people will think that you really are a dick. (While we're on that subject, NEVER use a dick-picture as an avatar graphic in the forum - this is against the rules and you will be asked to change it.)
[b]3. Wowing Women [/b]
The important thing with any advert (PM message) or advert response is to set yourself apart from all the other guys. I'm not saying you need to write your full life story but mention a little bit about who you are, what you're like, and what you're looking for. And don't just tell people what you're like; show them. Let your personality shine through in your words, and you'll have something that stands at least a chance of wowing a woman.
Try to imagine how what you're writing will be viewed by the women you're trying to target. Remember that these people are all strangers; they don't know you, and they start out by not caring about you at all. They don't care how horny you are, how long it is since you last had sex, or how unfulfilling your marriage may be. They really don't give a damn about your dick being hard. And why should they? Before you can begin to sow the seeds of attraction, you need to make people believe that you are someone worth knowing. I can't tell you how to do this; everyone is different, everyone has a different style, different strengths and weaknesses.
BTW, when writing a message make sure you mention what kind of person you're looking for too. Some people have actually written things like this:
[b]Male Stereotype wrote:
Need my dick sucking today! Roger; 28; Birmingham area; very nice cock.[/b]
Does this person mind if the mouth on their penis belongs to a woman, or a man, or a man dressed as a woman? Or a 5-year-old golden retriever?
Likewise, when responding to someone's 'Lets meet up' forum post, always take care that you match any specific criteria they ask for. So if they want a man 6'4 and athletic, and you're 5'3 and tubby, you'll only be wasting your time and theirs if you send them a message!
[b]4. Being Ignored Is Part Of The Territory [/b]
It's frustrating, and we've all been there. You see a 'Lets meet up' forum post placed by a gorgeous woman. You put your heart and soul into writing a response; tailoring it to her, editing it into a state of perfection. You send it. And you never hear back.
Unfortunately, this is a part of the scene. As I mentioned, women and couples get hundreds and hundred of replies to their adverts, and usually they just give up on the hope of even replying to the vast majority that don't interest them. From your point of view; this is impolite, and rude. You put a lot of effort into writing your very best response and you get nothing - not even a rejection message - back. But there's no point whailing and railing about it - it's just one of those things. When I was replying to ads, about 95% of my replies went unanswered. You can either reply to another advert - and probably be ignored again - or stop now and give up.
[b]5. Get To Know People [/b]
Maybe your ad responses are falling on deaf ears and your own advert or profile isn't getting noticed among seven thousand others. What can you do to actually reach other people?
One tip I can give for interacting in the forum or the chat rooms: never give without receive, and never receive without giving. This means: don't just ask a question, tell us what you think too. You don't want to give the impression you want to suck up opinions like a sponge. And likewise, don't just tell people what you think; listen to their opinions as well. You're not an evangelical radio DJ spouting gospel to the world; other people's viewpoints will be just a valid as your own. Maybe more so.
Also, there are a few topics that keep coming back up again and again; if you think someone's likely to have been asked before, use the "Search" feature in the forum before asking again. You'll probably find lots of valid and entertaining opinions just waiting for you, and don't be too shy to post a reply in an old topic if you feel the need. Two topics that especially seem to come up again and again are: pubic hair removal/grooming, and 'does penis-size matter'?
[b]6. When Your Little Soldier Doesn't Measure Up [/b]
It can be depressing; looking through women's profiles and seeing how many you can't answer because your penis isn't big enough to fit into the legendary "VWE" (Very Well-Endowed) category. But again, don't obsess over this - many of those women just want to experiment with a big dick, or happen to like them. And so what? You can't force people to find something attractive when they don't. And there's also women who dislike penises that are more than average in length or girth - so it's not as though a large penis is a skeleton key that can open any bedroom door in the land.
[b]7. Sexual Discrimination [/b]
"No single males", says profile after profile. "No single men!" says the sexy lady in the chatroom. Unfair, isn't it? I bet they still see single women!
Some single men have given the rest of the single men a bad reputation. Some single men are rude, pushy, arrogant, ignorant... it's no surprise that many swingers have gone off them. Others just don't find single men attractive, and aren't interested in playing when another woman isn't involved. (And given how lovely women are, can you really blame them?)
Again, you can moan about this, but it really doesn't do any good. In fact, you'll just do further damage to the reputation of single men, as even more people will view us as ignorant adolescents who moan if they can't get a shag.
[b]8. What's The Secret? [/b]
There's no secret formula for seducing women. There are things you can do to increase your chances, and make yourself more desirable, but at the end of the day - there's no magic button you can press to make a woman appear magically at your door. (Unless you have your local escort agency on speed-dial.) Every woman is different, and every woman likes different things. What turns one woman into a quivering pile of goo might leave another completely unmoved.
There's lots of advice out there if you look for it; read it, digest it, take it all on board. But don't believe it's all automatically true, or that it will turn you into an irresistable sex-god. Chew it over in your mind and decide which bits are most suitable for your current situation.
The Swinger Personals website has an Advice section that contains lots of useful information for you to digest.
[b]9. And What If Nothing Happens? [/b]
Lt_Frank_Drebin wrote:
It's like having sex. It's a painstaking and arduous task that seems to go on and on forever, and just when you think things are going your way, nothing happens.
As we've seen, as a single guy on a swinging website, the odds are stacked against you. All the advice in the world can't overcome that; you need luck. A lot of luck.
Whatever you're doing – posting in the forums, responding to posts, sitting in the chatroom - it's very important that you enjoy the activity. Have fun with it. You may get lucky and meet someone straight away; it may be a very long time before anyone shows any interest in you. Maybe nobody ever will. So make sure you're having fun, and if at the end of the day your number hasn't come up - at least you've still had fun.
[b]Appendix A: You're a Man. Be Proud![/b]
The advice has ended. However, perhaps you'll forgive me for tacking a bit of philosophy onto the tail.
Trying to make contact with people through this site can be a soul-destroying business, as most will ignore you completely. In this context, if you ever do get a promising lead, it can lead you to jump on, pursuing it no matter what it offers, in the belief that's all you'll ever get. I don't like to advocate naval-gazing, but - stop. Think. Is this what you were looking for? Is what is offered something you'd enjoy? If not, then don't be afraid to say "no" - because no "action" at all is better than "action" you don't want.
Likewise, sometimes people may advise you to "turn bi" as the only way to get some sex out of this site. I think it's fairly inarguable that men looking to meet men have a better chance of success than men looking to meet women or couples - there isn't the huge numeric imbalance for one thing. And if you're gay, or bi, then more power to you. If you're curious, good luck and I hope you enjoy it. I'm not here to preach homophobia. But "because I couldn't meet a woman" is a bad reason for re-evaluating your sexuality, in my opinion. Just think carefully, and if it's what you want, go for it. If not, let it pass you by.
What I'm basically saying is: you're a man. Be proud of that, and have a healthy sense of your own self-worth. You're a unique individual with your own hopes, desires, thoughts and dreams. You're not just a penis with legs, or some anonymous sex-toy for the ladies to use when they're bored and there's nothing on TV. The purpose of this site and others like them is to meet other adults for mutual fun - and mutual means yours as well as theirs.
Meeting other people for sex won't make you any more or less of a man. Focus on quality not quantity, and if you never meet anyone that's better than a thousand meets you didn't enjoy. The teacher won't give you a merit point the first time you penetrate someone through Swinger Personals, and nobody will award you a gold carriage clock when you reach 100 sexual partners.
Have fun.
P.S If you don't feel that you will gain anything from this advice, please feel free to read my 'Idiot's Guide to Swinging for the Single Male'
Well, I think we all suspected something like this existed, but it's taken me weeks of undercover work in the Idiot Single Male community to uncover it. And so, for the first time ever, I can present the document that has been the cause of so many posts in the Let's Meet Up forum.
Idiot's Guide to Swinging for Single Males
(or: "how to get your end away every night without doing any hard work, guaranteed!")
[b]1. What is swinging? [/b]
Swinging started when impotent men allowed their wives to be fucked by well-hung studs so that they wouldn't leave them. However, in the many years since, swinging has developed and now many small-dicked men as well as limp-dicked men will share their wives with the likes of you and me.
[b]2. What do I need to get into swinging? [/b]
For a single male swinger, the most important thing you need is a big cock. If you have a genuine ten-inches or more then you're laughing, but eight inches is sufficient. A big cock is the most important thing in a woman achieving orgasm, so that's what most swinging women will be attracted to.
DO NOT BE FOOLED if a woman claims she likes receiving oral, or foreplay, or that dick-size isn't important to her; it isn't important, it's _vital_. Women are hypocrites in this respect; they like to boast about not being so "shallow", but in the cold light of day, when she's choosing her next fuck-target, she'll go for the biggest dick she can find.
[b]3. What if I don't have such a huge cock? [/b]
Firstly, make sure you're measuring correctly. Slide the tip of your tape-measure into your anus then pull it forward, and measure to the eye of your penis. (Make sure you have an erection whilst doing this.)
If you really don't measure up to the standard, don't worry; just pretend. Remember that the woman will be making the decision to swing with you before you meet, so she has no way of knowing how big your cock really is; only what you tell her. She won't know your true size until you meet, and by then it's too late because in the swinging community, an offer to meet is a GUARANTEE of sex! So if you arrange a meet with a swinger, you can be sure you'll be getting some that night, whatever happens.
Some kinky women ask for "photographic proof" of your cock-size. But you can just grab a picture off some other guy's advert and show her that; after all, how's she gonna know the difference? (Hint: if you're a white guy, don't send her a picture of a black penis, no matter how big it is. Or if you do, have an excuse ready, e.g. "Oh, I took that picture on the day I accidentally slammed the car door on my boner, so it was a bit bruised.")
[b]4. Does it matter if I'm a virgin? [/b]
No! In fact, most swinging women love to meet young men and teach them how to have sex. Just tell people you're looking for a female teacher and responses will rain down upon you like snowflakes in a snowstorm!
[b]5. What types of woman can I expect to meet? [/b]
Swinging women can broadly be divided into these categories:
[b]a) THE OLD SLAPPER [/b]
Generally in her fifties, overweight, ugly as sin and probably has a bigger moustache than you do. Most of these women are single, as their husbands have either left them for younger hotties or died after being force-fed one too many suet puddings. These women may not be much to look at, but frequently they're sex-starved and up for as much fucking as a young stud like you can give them. WARNING: Many women in the "old slapper" category have a very loose pussy; try the anal passage instead.
[b]b) WIFE IN AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP [/b]
The most common type of swinging woman. Usually in her thirties or forties, she's realised there must be more to life than her husband's tiny dick so she's persuaded him to let her experience some well-hung studs like you. If you arrange a meet with her, hubby will generally come along as well, and will sit wanking in the corner as you make his wife cum harder than he ever could. Some wifes like to include their husband in the activities, probably sucking his minute manhood while you comprehensively roger her senseless. He may come in useful for DP, however. WARNING: Many "wives in open relationships" have children, and will waste your time by standing you up with the excuse that a baby-sitter let them down, or their child's feeling ill or has been hit by a car or something. Don't stand for this type of shit; remember that you're doing her a HUGE favour and if she can't turn up, she won't get a second chance with you. Tell her where to get off and make sure you never arrange a meet with her again.
[b]c) WIFE NOT IN AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP [/b]
She doesn't feel confident enough to tell her lesser-endowed husband that he doesn't satisfy her, so she's going behind his back. Many women get off on the idea of cheating on their nearest and dearest, so they're often as horny as hell when you meet them, and they'll do all the dirty things they'd never do with their husband. WARNING: Make sure there's no chance of hubby following her, as a broken leg can severly inconvenience your swinging activities until it heals.
[b]d) SINGLE BIRD [/b]
The single bird is a bit like you but with two tits and a pussy; she wants lots of good hard sex but doesn't want the commitment to go with it. Many single birds claim to be lesbians, or "looking to explore their bi-sexual side", but just show 'em a picture of your cock and they'll be drooling all over you. WARNING: Some single birds may be looking for more than just a fuck-buddy; make sure you watch your step or you may end up in a Relationship!
[b]e) GAY MAN [/b]
Some of the single women who advertise on sex sites are really gay men, or gay men who dress as women. They may even be married. There's no way to spot them until you meet, as the bastards often use false pictures of other people to confuse honest swingers like you & me. Just be careful, and if the "woman" you meet looks like she's packing a package in her pants, run like the wind. WARNING: The gay man probably wants to have sex with you.
[b]6. What should I put in my profile? [/b]
Stick to the basic things that every potential sexual partner needs to know about you:
* Your cock-size
* Your approximate location
The second isn't too important, as most women will drive hundreds of miles to meet a big enough dick.
You should also include at least one picture of your dick. You can include more than one - especially if you have some pictures of your dick in action, as women love to see those, but the most important thing is at least one picture of your throbbing erect penis.
[b]7. How should I answer a woman's ad? [/b]
First, flatter her a little. Tell her how nice she looks, and tell her how you'd like to fuck her. Most women fantasize about being fucked really hard, up the twat and then up the ass, so go into some detail about how you'll slam it into her. Tell her how big your cock is, and how big it'll get when she sucks it. Tell her how she'll feel when your freakishly-huge man-rod is tearing up her insides.
Make sure to include your best picture of your dick. Some women like to pretend they're above this and ask for a picture of your face as well; by all means send one, but remember that when she's deciding whether to meet you, it's the dick-picture she'll be looking at.
[b]8. I saw an ad from a woman I really want to shag, but she only wants black guys! [/b]
Ignore that. If a woman refuses to fuck you because you're not black, that's racism and it's illegal. It's the LAW that she has to have sex with you, and if she refuses you can sue her for everything she owns, and the court will _force_ her to put out for you!
[b]9. I answered a woman's ad but she hasn't written back! What should I do? [/b]
Mail her again! Most women are very forgetful when it comes to anything except clothes & shopping, so she's probably just forgotten to reply. You'll need to keep reminding her until you get a reply.
[b]10. I answered a woman's ad but she refused me! What should I do? [/b]
Remember, it's HER loss. Write back immediately and let her know what a stupid slag she is for missing out on the opportunity to bed a stud like you. She probably couldn't have handled a real man's cock anyway. (Make sure to tell her that.)
[b]11. I've arranged a meeting! What should I do now? [/b]
Turn up and screw! That's all there is to it really; you've done the hard work, so just go there and have some fun.
Some websites will tell you to have to shower, shave, wear good clothes, clean the cheese from between your toes, and generally make yourself look good for your swinging partners. But these sites are forgetting that in the swinging community, an offer to meet is a GUARANTEE of sex - anyway why go to the effort of making yourself look good when you don't have to?
[b]12. What type of sexual activity should I expect at the meet? [/b]
Everything you can imagine! One of the unwritten rules of the swinging community is that when you meet someone, anything goes! Feel free to fuck that woman's body every which way you like; most swingers really like hard fast sex so give it to her really hard, really fast. Don't hold back! Don't neglect any of her holes, and if her husband is present, make sure he knows that you're seeing to his wife much better than he could. Tell him that. (Most swinging husbands really get off on seeing their wife with the kind of stud they could never be.) Berate him for being such a small-dicked inadequate man that he needs someone like you to come and satisfy his wife.
[b]13. Should I use a condom? [/b]
It's up to you. As I said, one of the unwritten rules of the swinging community is that when you meet someone, anything goes! My advice is that if she doesn't look too manky, give it to her raw. Most swinging ladies really enjoy taking strange men's cum inside them or on their face, anyway.
Always remember that HiV is a myth invented by South American rubber companies to boost their profits.
[b]14. What should I do after the meet? [/b]
Congratulations - you're a swinger now! It's time to go home.
The woman or couple should contact you in the next couple of days to thank you for a great time. If they don't, get in touch with them and berate them for taking you for granted. Remember, you've done them a HUGE favour and they should show their gratitude to you!
[b]15. What is "dogging"? [/b]
"Dogging" is a practice of having sex in car-parks. A couple will have sex in a car, and single men will form a circle around the car and jack off while they do so.
Many times a couple will invite the guy with the biggest dick to come and take part in the activities, so it's important that you are that guy. Since the guys are usually hanging around waiting for the couples to drive up, you could try physically assaulting any guys who look like they might have more than you in their pants while they wait. But if you're not so confident of winning a fight then a good trick for evening dogging is to paint your penis with fluorescent paint beforehand; this will make it glow in the dark and the couple's eyes will be drawn to it. (You could wear a fluorescent condom instead, but make sure it doesn't fall off.)
[b]16. I still haven't got any and I've been trying for nearly a week now! [/b]
Go to the Swinger Personals forum and post about the troubles you've been having. Make sure to say how unfair it is, because let's face it - it is unfair! People there will agree with you. In fact, they'll be so shocked that they've missed such an exceptional stud that you'll have to fight off attention from women - there'll be so much pussy on offer you'll think you're in a cattery!
What I find amusing is the way people join Swinging sites and think that they have found loads of ladies that will drop there knickers for anyone. In our experience, the people that understand what swingers are all about and put some TIME and effort into standing out from the crowd, are the ones that get to have sex.
Hi Ever_Hopeful,
Firstly welcome to the site. If you want to try the chat room out, go for it. As Kay-de has said cams are optional. We are often in chat in the evenings and we do have our cam on to show that we really are a couple. We rarely show our faces on cam but that is because we don't wan't to scare people off 
If you do wan't to dip your toe in "chat" we will do our best to make you feel welcome. A note of caution.... The banter with the regulars can sometimes get confusing, but that's only because people have gotten used to the varied characters in chat.
Your not even expected to type if you would rather take your time to get used to the banter from people.
We hope to see you in chat soon Ever_Hopeful.
Enjoy the site and good luck xx
If you do wan't to dip your toe in "chat" we will do our best to make you feel welcome. A note of caution.... The banter with the regulars can sometimes get confusing, but that's only because people have gotten used to the varied characters in chat.
Your not even expected to type if you would rather take your time to get used to the banter from people.
We hope to see you in chat soon Ever_Hopeful.
Enjoy the site and good luck xx Were pretty new to this site and were enjoying the chat room a lot. abend69 and many others are making us feel welcome. We are very used to chat rooms and the trick is to "chat". If you feel offended by comments, ignore them or report them if you feel personally attacked. We have found admin on this site to be fair and quick to help.
All we need now is for more of the chat voyeurs to take a deep breath and join in the banter.
> Just a newbies opinion 
We are a couple who have been swinging for years now and deception is not new on "Swinging Sites". The best advice we can give is to take your time when considering a meet. Most of our meets come from going to social events where we can get to know our victims first and they can get to know us in a non pressured environment.
If your playing away from home i.e behind your partners back, that may be more difficult and therefore you may be more vulnerable to "liars".
As for proving your a real couple, we tend to have our webcam on when were in chat to show who we are. This has 2 down sides though.
1) We get lots of whispers pestering us to get down and dirty on cam lol ................................. Note to those people, were swingers not porn stars or dancing monkeys :silly:
2)People can see what we're like, so we never get a meet lol :kick:
and they can get to know us in a non pressured environment.
If your playing away from home i.e behind your partners back, that may be more difficult and therefore you may be more vulnerable to "liars".
As for proving your a real couple, we tend to have our webcam on when were in chat to show who we are. This has 2 down sides though.
1) We get lots of whispers pestering us to get down and dirty on cam lol ................................. Note to those people, were swingers not porn stars or dancing monkeys :silly:
2)People can see what we're like, so we never get a meet lol :kick: [quote="Ste_n_kez"][quote="tmann"]I started shaving a few months back. I'm going to keep it that way. no more hairs trapped in my foreskin, and I like the feel.
Travis[/quote]
I agree Travis, I started shaving my bits about 6 years [u]age[/u], oooops ago and there is no going back for me. Kez has always been the same and is always clean shaven.
Ste ;)[/quote]
ago and there is no going back for me. Kez has always been the same and is always clean shaven.
Ste ;)[/quote] I've noticed over the years that there are very different types of swingers.
Here are some of the types that I have noticed.
[b]The reluctant couple[/b] - One of them is very keen, but the other one is doing it for their partner and a little reticent.
[b]Number cruncher[/b] - They are the real prowlers who systematically go through as many partners as they can, rarely looking back unless they get a quiet moment and then they'll start working through again.
[b]Opportunist[/b] - Always eager to get involved but lacking the courage to instigate, so they wait for a good opportunity and take advantage of it.
[b]Romantic[/b] - They want to make friends, be desired and each encounter is treated like a little romance.
[b]Slutty sex God/Goddess[/b] - They're often already in a happy loving relationship and use swinging to get rid of their excess sexual energy. They really are looking for good hard sex and fun.
[b]Social swinger[/b] - They spend most of their time socialising and aren't really fussed about the sexual side, although when the chemistry is there they will play.
[b]Greedy cum lover[/b] - Mostly for the ladies, they love oral cock play and having cum all over them more than penetrative sex and being the centre of attention.
[b]Indecisive swinger[/b] - Possibly missing out on opportunist as they can't make their mind up?
[b]The non-pushy swinger[/b] - Often making good friends, but not able to notice the green light, so rarely getting past amber? Would play more if they were approached more directly.
[b]Timewaster[/b] - Has lots of enthusiasm, usually has a cam and always ready to meet, but never follows through.
[b]The No Show[/b] - Usually wants to meet at short notice, will not show you a picture of their face due to work, but expects to meet saying you won't be disappointed. Dodgy!
[b]Popular Single Guy[/b] - This person has been to a few parties, goes in the chat room and possibly forum and is well known amongst the regulars as being well behaved and a safe bet. He knows his manners, understands boundaries and can have a conversation as well as enjoy playing when asked.
[b]Fake pic swingers[/b] - These people either use pics years out of date or someone elses and pose as this person in order to get a meet. They hope that on meeting the person will feel obligated to go through with it.
[b]Scared Swinger[/b] - Reasonably new to the seen, has lots of dreams and fantasies, but doesn't know where or how to start, let alone approach people.
[b]Seasoned Swinger[/b] - Has been around for several years, is known by most people and lots of experience. When they go to a club the staff know them well and there is usually a story or two to be told. These are people that get name dropped in conversation and you either really want to meet or you're scared stiff by them or even both!
[b]Swinging Enigma[/b] - For those who are way too skittish to be pinned down!
I'm sure there are lots more that you may like to add or edit in this list. Which category do you fit into and have you met anyone from any other category?
Do you identify with any of them or more than one depending on your mood?
To start the ball rolling, we would say that we are mostly Social swingers
[quote="tmann"]I started shaving a few months back. I'm going to keep it that way. no more hairs trapped in my foreskin, and I like the feel.
Travis[/quote]
I agree Travis, I started shaving my bits about 6 years age, and there is no going back for me. Kez has always been the same and is always clean shaven.
Ste ;)
[quote="beanflickr"][u]The chatroom's very clicky[/u], but if you hang in there, [u]join in the conversation [/u]etc. People will start to recognise you and start chatting to you.. And don't act like a tool, because you'll be remembered for the wrong reasons lol! ;)[/quote]
I agree with beanflickr that chat rooms may seem clicky, but this is just because the usual people in chat have, in the past got stuck in and gotten to know others.
We have not been on this site for very long at all but have been made to feel welcome on the site and especially in the chat rooms.
We have been long term members of a sister site to this one (owned by the same company) since 2003 and the same thing is said on that site by people who expect to be accepted on there first visit to chat.
Think of the chat rooms as a pub that you have never been to before, you don't expect all the regulars to stop what they are doing and make you feel like the center of attention straight away. As long term members of that sister site, we do make every effort to make new chatters feel welcome by saying hi to them when they first chat and welcoming them to join in. It is, however up to the new or shy chatter to make the effort to type and join in with chat.
I hope that this is helpful to those who want to chat but find it hard to be accepted :welcome:
