what am i doing wrong

12 Nov 2004

Hello thank you for taking time to read this, maybe someone can tell me where I am going wrong. I have replyed to quite a few ads on here but never get any replys, I am always polite in my replys and put a little about myself and what exp I have (very little) and always honest. I am a 44 year old male who is looking for a cpl with a bi male to explore my bi-curious feelings. Maybe someone who is exp could send me a copy of one of your succesful replys so that I can see where I am going wrong. Many thanks David

13 Nov 2004

Hi David, I'm not sure you're doing anything wrong, I think it's just the case that many initial contacts are just that, and never come to fruition. I'm a gay guy who is looking to meet bi guys or couples with bi males for no-strings fun. I've had quite a few approaches from couples, but it's never gone as far as a meet. I don't think it's me as I have met bi guys other ways who've enjoyed sucking me and getting screwed. John.

13 Nov 2004

thanks mate, is it a case of a lot of advertisers on here are not realy looking for a meet

2 Jan 2005

Hi in response to your ad I would say put up a pic of yourself I never reply if there isnt a pic, I am not looking for sex on here but thats my advice. Best of everything to you Angie

4 Jan 2005

I find the most frustrating thing is you don't even get back a Thanks, But No Thanks. Perhaps it's just the way I was bought up, but politeness never hurt anyone! smile

Chris

5 Jan 2005

Hi Yeah, i agree! I have sent several messages and even replied to one message that was sent to me and not heard one word back. I thought I was doing something wrong to but seems like its the general way things are done round here. Oh well, if I do not hear anything back in the next week or so guess I will be cancelling!! Sensorman

26 Jan 2005

I think it must the way this website is set up. The administrators hook you into the site and just sit back and do nothing. If they just said that people were not interested in replying, then I don't think it will be successful. You Brits must sexually repressed! Anyway that is my opinion. Look but no touch!

12 Feb 2005

:lick: Thats a good idea I will put it to the site owners why not have a function that tells you the average reply rate to e-mails or something?

25 Feb 2005

There's another UK site can't remember which one now (doh!) that has an activity section,which shows who you've looked at and who's looked at you,also whoyou've mailed etc. The section in your sent mails that tells you if the person has read your mailcan be a little soul destroying!! I wish I could get a pic sorted out but my computer won't let me do that at the mo, it's very annoying!!. sad

26 Feb 2005

[quote user=fido69]There's another UK site can't remember which one now (doh!) that has an activity section,which shows who you've looked at and who's looked at you,also whoyou've mailed etc. The section in your sent mails that tells you if the person has read your mailcan be a little soul destroying!! I wish I could get a pic sorted out but my computer won't let me do that at the mo, it's very annoying!!. sad

[/quote] I know the site you mean. I find that the way to use that is to just leave yourself logged in, and see if anyone chats to you, or go through who's on-line and start up chats with them. Sending mail to people who don't know you has probably a 1/30 or less chance of a reply. If you check the suggestions thread in Anything Goes, admin have said that they're setting up the ability to create our own chatrooms here. Could be good, wonder if it'll work a bit like the SITUK one.