Hiya everyone.
I am new to this site, well not new as in only just joined but new as in I have just been in here looking around seeing what others do and I have now started to try and build some friends with a view to meeting up and enjoying some adult fun, if you know what I mean.
But I am struggling, I have sent a few messages to members about me and inviting them to reply but I seem to be hitting a dead end, I am not looking for a new girlfriend or wife, just some filthy fun really but I am not having a great deal of luck.
I thought as "Sudsy" said in his newbie thread that there would be loads of ladies and couples out there looking for a single man to join them for some good old fashioned sex but I have not even recieved a single reply.
Can anyone offer me some ideas as to where I may be going wrong and how I should go about changing my profile so people take me as a serious candidate for a meeting.
Any advice would be gratefully accepted, and if it leads to me meeting some one then it will be invaluable.
Thanks for reading this and be safe.
Darren x x
[quote user=ur4it]Get yourself in the chatroom and talk to people.[/quote]
As Urit said, alot of people like to get to know people through the chatrooms first. People have the illusion that cos its a swinging site that people will get in bed with anyone. This is not the case, alot people are very choosey who they swing with. The chances are they have met with them on a few occasions socially first. You have to build up friendship and trust first, so dont think everything will just happen overnight cos it wont.
Not everyone are after single males, so read peoples profiles carefully and respect there wishes if they dont want single males. If you do email people and there profile states no single males, or we will get in touch with a single male if we want one, the chances are that you wont get any reply off them and you may find they put your name in there ignore list.
Another way of getting to meet people is at some of the social events that are being arranged, you can find these in the 'Lets Meet' section of the forum.
So get yourself in the chatroom and more you start talking to people the more your name will get known. When in the chatroom treat people the way that you want to be treated, be honest, be yourself, and dont dis-respect people on cams.
Hope this has helped you on your way and you have many of hours of fun.
Hi Darren
Frankly, as an active swing couple we would not consider communicating with you, because of your profile:-
'I am married and my wife has no idea about what I am doing so discretion is a must'...
We simply would not wish to place ourselves in any situation where there is such potential for emotional and martital mayhem...
However, should your wife give approval and be prepared to chat about it (as some ladies do...) that is entirely a differing circumstance and should be reflected in your profile, for those interested in single guys.
We know there are fuckbuddies in this lifestyle that are married to differing partners, perhaps you should seek them out?
Take care, have fun
Jel & N
:clap: JelandN I agree that we won't swing with a single male who is married neither as if the shoe was on the other foot I'd be devastated to find Ian was singing behind my back. Though I have to say that some people don't mind meeting with married people so don't take heart Darren but for MOST couples single has to mean single.
Kelly xxxx
Babyd I was rehearsing my accapella for ians family based 30th - la la la - me me me- do do do etc :-o
ty for pointing me in this direction ur4it, has been a helpfull insight (think thats the right term lol)...seems i to had quite a few misconceptions about swinging in general which ive probably gaind from certain dvd's ;) lol etc etc.
but i have taken on board what has been said on this thread, and now its just a case of making friends and see what happens i guess.
cheers guys
mike
Post edited 30-03-2007 0:18
Ian xxx