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Hi, read your profile, and let me give you my opinion ok....
In you profile you put....were all here to meet other people ultimately for sex but perhaps even for friendship first. I would like to get to know you first, know what you like, what you don't like and I suppose ultimately trust each other.
I know I'm a married man, but I like, no, need extra marital sex, it keeps me on my toes and keepsmy marriage strong. If you don't agree with that then perhaps 'm not for you .....
You are contracdicting what you say, you are honest and say that you are married, then you are asking the lady/couple you wish to meet to trust you... have to be blunt here and say maybe not the best word to use is trust. Dont think that trust is high on your list as sure your wife would agree. Apologies for my bluntness. Maybe you could say for us all to feel comfy and at ease.
If you are doing this behind someones back as many many people here are, then dont say trust. Keeping your marriage strong...... again same principle here really. Maybe quoting that just makes you seem a touch sleezy to me.
I am pleased to see you have a pic in your prfile, but its a cock pic!!! As a single fem I want to see a pic of you and feel an attraction to you not your you are unable to put a face pic on then put a body(torso) on instead. I personally look for a face or body pic. If the only pic is off your cock then it tells me you are only on hete for your cock. We are here for fun, laughs, flirting, friends and LASTLY for me once those are all ticked then the sex.
Cock pic only tells me you in it for your cock and possibly you not interested in the chat and getting to know....
So I suggest re write your profile a bit, more pics, get a cam, get in the chat room and have it on your FACE preferably, and dont spend all the cam time wanking. Expect it to take time and allow the lady to suggest a meet.
The new and nervous bit of forum is great for info. Read what has been said and take notice..
Sorry if anything I have said upsets but needed to be honet.
Fruit
Trust and respect are an absolute requirement in this lifestyle, interested to understand how this is given to any partner with a cheating hubby or wife? Defo not an attractive swing proposition from our perspective!!
But if the partner knows and agrees (confirmation phone call with both present?), this is an altogether different perspective and we would defo wish that person all the best and assist the self-promotion, if possible...xx
Jels, you put it so well, and I just waffled lol.
I have been witness to a friend whos home life was totally wrecked by a swinging partner(male). His home life and his childrens life has all fallen through. He ended up sleeping on the sofa for half a year and councilling/ relate kind had to follow.
Think about this. Is it worth it to loose everything you have at home? Your wife, your family and respect, all for some fun on the side?
Single ladies (if that is what you are looking for) often will not meet a man who is going behind someones back to do this.
I would suggest for oyu to concentrate on what is missing from your home life and find that again instead of having your cake and eating it.
[quote user=fruitmedley]Jels, you put it so well, and I just waffled lol.
I have been witness to a friend whos home life was totally wrecked by a swinging partner(male). His home life and his childrens life has all fallen through. He ended up sleeping on the sofa for half a year and councilling/ relate kind had to follow.
Think about this. Is it worth it to loose everything you have at home? Your wife, your family and respect, all for some fun on the side?
Single ladies (if that is what you are looking for) often will not meet a man who is going behind someones back to do this.
I would suggest for oyu to concentrate on what is missing from your home life and find that again instead of having your cake and eating it.[/quote]
Fruit I can't agree with you more. I am one of those single girls who will not meet married men on their own (ie without the wife!), and in fact I have even added that to my profile some time ago.
Trust and honesty to me is THE MOST important thing in a relationship and I take the vow of marriage very seriously, even though I have never been married myself. But as far as I am concerned if you do not have trust and honesty then you have fook all.
I am a firm believer that if people feel the need to play away from home without the knowledge of their partner then there is something inherently wrong in the relationship.
Now don't get me wrong, I am not about to question or judge everyone's personal situations or choices, but I am just expressing my own personal views and opinion. But everyone has their own personal reasons why they do what they do and they are all completely different. I personally know someone who who has affairs behind his wife's back because he KNOWS that if he were to leave her then the chances of him seeing his young children on a regular basis will be practically ZIP! Now I would never condone his behaviour but I do understand his reasons (and believe me I UNDERSTAND- if you met his wife you would too - even though I don't necessarily agree).
I do think though that many people are too quick to judge sometimes. Like Confuscius says "Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, if he gets angry, he'll be a mile away--and barefoot". But I just think you need to stick to your own personal principles in life, yet realise that not everyone lives the same life as you.
Ok my life coaching session is over....lol
Fruit I reckon I am joining your waffling club!!!
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