Just a note to anyone single who has decided to register on here without their partner knowing.
I have only just heard from a friend whos wife found out that he has been swinging in private. Their marriage is in total ruins at the moment,they both see a marriage councillor to resolve the issues why he decided to do it.
She now doesnt trust him and he has a hard time trying to keep this away from his children which he loves dearly.
He has found the hard way that it is very hard to do this without the partner finding out in someway. He was always careful but 1 slip up and his marriage he feels is totally wrecked.
Now I am sure that you are now saying,well I will be more careful to make sure your partner doesnt find out.
I have met a people who who I think hide their secret sex life from their partner, and those who once a meet is suggested do then say that they are married and do this without their partners knowledge. Some have openly admitted in their profile that their partner does not know.[color="red"][/color]#/.
Please just think about this. It may be the buzz you need on the side, the secrecy and the naughtiness of all of this. Is it worth risking your current life with your partner or those who have families, as my friend does? For those with kids just spare time to think of how this secret life may effect your relationship with the kids if outed.
I am lucky I am single and now dating a lovely guy from the site. But for those who are single.... please take some time to think. As you may end up in the same situation as my friend.
Fruit xxx
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Just think about this okay.
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i do feel for your friemd what he is going through must be terrible, but i have to say if you make your bed then you must lie in it and deal with whatever gets thrown at you.
If someone chooses to do this behind a partners back then i feel they must have there own reasons, and maybe in some cases problems in there relationship, and im not saying this is the case for everyone.
i have a regular partner in which i see alot, he is infact my ex boyfriend, we now only have sex together but i still love very dearly. He knows exactly what i get up to, knows where i go, with whom im going to meet, and as yet has not taken part in any activities with me. In saying that we do have great sex now, as i get to tell him what i have been up to and that im a very naughty girl.
i guess everyone is different thought, i hope your friends marriage can be saved.
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Fruit
i feel for your friend and the awful time he must be going through, he would have had his reasons for doing what he has done. I also feel for his wife and what she must be going through, people tend to think of just one person, but to lives may have been ruined here, but i would say something must have been wrong in the 1st place for it to get this luck to your friend and his wife, let'S hope they have wot it takes to move on and put this behind them.
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Well I know a friend who has a great loving girlfriend and yet he pays and has sex with escorts about like twice every month. He says he needs some variety in his sex life and that makes him happy. His girlfriend doesnt know at all.
Personally I think this is ok. I know you might have a go at me for saying so but I think it is. People need variety in say their sex life, something different once in a while even if you have to pay to do it. Could pick up new techniques that could make their relationship stronger and be more confident in the bedroom with his gf.
So everyones different, with different needs.
Hi everyone,
It's a real shame about your friend Fruit.
Honesty is the best policy! It goes deeper than just deciding you want more, whether paid for, affair, swinging...
How many people actualy have a relationship where they can talk totaly frankly. Not many I suspect. That build frustrations in so many ways. 
Be free about saying what you like, dislike and need. It opens up your relationship. Who knows what roads it will taking you down.
Be free about saying what you like, dislike and need. It opens up your relationship. Who knows what roads it will taking you down. 
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The truth is the best however....everyone has there own reasons for playing with fire....live buy the sword die buy the sword
joney wasnt that saying from that bloke off big brother and he got kicked off, i dont remember if it was just cheating or lairing but do i think be totally honest that u r married to ppl. then let them pick or not!! some ppl dont mind and some ppl do, its their choice at the end of the day and as long as ppl are hoenst with everyone thats the best thing. that is alot better than liking someone then find out mths later from someone else that he is married, thats not nice!!
ok off my box now, str8 back to silly things!!
Lolly x x x x
unknown, she might know but never says anything just incase she is wrong or even worse she not wrong!! its hard to face up to it and looking back over my ex married, the signs were there but i was so busy with kids, house and when i thought i felt something funny, i just said no way. this went on for 2 years till my 5 yr old called me by a lady name heather, i asked him who heather was and he said when mommy goes to work daddy has ladies in the houes and he rolled off 7 other females names. so then i really knew that what i had been feeling for mths had been true and that he had really been doing it, just the way he acted, changed and had a bath more!!! LOL
i do feel really sorry for all the ppl that get cheated on in real life and swinging life too cause its happened to me and it isnt nice, so as im a swinger and aslo someone that has her ex hubby cheat on her, honest is the best.
Lolly x x x
I'm obviously in the minority.
Serves your friend right. No sympathy from this quater....... I hope she leaves him and takes him for every penny.
Regardless of the state of a marriage or whether or not the sex within a relationship is stale..... Its WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG to cheat. If a relationship is in so much trouble that someone is swinging without consent or paying for sex....... then they get out or sort it out before resorting to committing adultary.
He's got everything he deserves and I hope his wife finds someone who she can trust and have a loving relationship with.
Harsh maybe but I've been cheated on. It nearly killed me. My other half knows my feelings exactly. We swing as a couple but if he EVER puts it about behind my back....... he's gone, balls in the river and totally humiliated. He will tell you, he crossed me once (not by doing anything behind my back but he broke one of our swinging rules), and he nearly lost me for good.
Sorry, I know people expect swingers to be tolerant but as someone who's been on the receiving end of a cheater, I have no sympathy whatsoever for a bloke that thinks that swinging is an easy answer!
Sex God
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hey fruit, iv bin made too look like a fuckin husband pinchin bitch........the fucka sed he was single, recently found out he's married and got kids (wanka) and not only that, theres peeps on ere who r gossipin about me, well too those peeps 'get a life, ur jus jealous and fuck u!!!)
becareful, not every1 on ere r wot they seem!!!
from a 100% genuine and nice lil funkyD xx:P
p.s im neva gettin married!! lol
