How do i know

6 Nov 2009

Very new to this but have met a really nice guy but wanted to ask what sort of length of time do people chat for etc before actually meeting for first time. Hope this doesnt sound silly. Also want to keep safe so any advice appreciated. Thanks Izzy

6 Nov 2009

I once met someone on the same day as first chatting here (i am such a slapper :giggle: ) but have also met folks after a considerable amount to discussion. Nearly all have been good and no horror stories to report. As for safety... tell someone where you are going (always good to have a guardian angel :angel: ) and if you feel it is necessary then arrange for them to rescue you if they don't hear from you by a certain time, meet somewhere public and take it steady. Try not to drink too much drinkies

. Trust to your instincts, especially if they are telling you to walk away cos 'better safe than sorry' really does make sense in situations like this. Make sure that you have discussed the basics of how far you intend to go etc. Cool guys appreciate that you don't commit yourself to anything til you meet and see how you get on etc. - if they are heavy about this then that should set alarm bells going and you should be on your way home alone if you have any sense. Having said all this there is a lot to be said for taking the odd risk here and there. Socials are also a great way to meet folks and take away some of the stress.

8 Nov 2009

:clap::clap::clap: well sed sexy rosie :clap::clap::clap: sumthin i always used to do too, was to chek ppls comments, or see if they were established, and if ur still not sure then pvt msg the ppl who left the comments to ask them wot their really like, may seem extreme but hey betta to b safe than sorry! also, always take ur own condoms.... yeah dont get too pissed & always make sure u hav enuff dosh to get home if ur not drivin, nothin worse than thinkin uv GOT to stay! if u want anymore help jus gis a shout... funky nutta xx:P

8 Nov 2009

and always remember izzy, us girlies like to stick together, so keep safe, tell someone where you are going as Rosie says. Pop along to a social too it always helps. I wont meet with single males atall, unless i have met them at a social first to know what they are like. xxxxxx

9 Nov 2009

Thanks girls for all ur advice, i guess its common sense really. Have met one guy already and he was really nice. I have 2 other interested parties and am thinking along lines of a social gathering as first meet with them. Appreciate your help, very new to this. Izzy x

9 Nov 2009

we all started sumwhere....xx us girlieeees stik togetha xx

9 Nov 2009

Yes us girls deffo have to stick together on these things. Meeting socially first is always good, but at the very least you should have spoken to them on the phone and seen them on cam. And like funky said, if you see someone in the chatroom that has maybe left a comment on them then just ask. No harm in asking and your personal safetly has to be the most important thing. Otherwise just ask one of the mods or even me as I spend way too much time in the chatroom (well actually not that much time anymore). Good luck and happy frolics!

14 Nov 2009

Hi Izzy, Hope you won't mind a guy's input on all this eminently sensible advice that the ladies have been giving you? Firstly, you're absolutely right to be cautious. Check peoples' feedback comments on their profiles. If they have no photos, and no feedback, ask yourself why not. Secondly, chat - lots! When I first started on this site, I was terrified of the chatroom, but when I finally got the hang of it I discovered that it was an excellent way of getting an initial impression of what people are like. You need to chat a good deal - people can put up a front for a while, but they can't keep it up forever, and you'll soon get to know who you feel you can trust and who you can't. If they appear on webcam, so much the better. Make sure you've at least seen the person concerned before you meet them. Nothing worse than turning up for a meet and discovering that you really aren't attracted to the other person! If you're in any doubt, meet socially first. Make it absolutely clear that it IS just social beforehand - that way no one gets disappointed. You've then got the added flexibility that if you decide the evening's going well you are perfectly at liberty to suggest that you might both like to take things further. Always have contact numbers. There's nothing worse than waiting for a meet to arrive, and for them to be late or not show and for you to have no way of contacting them to see what's going on. Conversely, if you are unavoidably delayed, you'll want to let them know. People are usually very forgiving of unavoidable cancellations if they're kept informed. They're generally less forgiving if you simply fail to turn up! Having said all that, don't just hand out your mobile number to someone until you're comfortable with doing that. Us guys generally have to accept that the onus is usually on us to provide our number for a lady's peace of mind without neccessarily being able to expect to have hers in return. Finally - have fun! Enjoy, Suds xx