Hi new and very nervous

15 Feb 2014

Just joined and as says Im ready for this but the wife is unsure, we have been married for 30 years and are very happy, we are entering a phase in our life where we are looking at dding that extra something to our sex lives. We do not want to do this on a regular basis but would at least want to give it a go, the wife is scared it will wreck our marriage, I would love to see my wife be pleasured by others be it another man or couple, I did witness my wife have a tantric massage lately and it was very erotic, i was also naked as was he and my wife. We talked about it afterwards where I said I would of been more than happy to have seen her been taken by this man there and then. Any advice on how I can convince her it would be a mind blowing experience that would both enhace our sex lives and add to the special relationship we already have. xxx :twisted: wink

3 Mar 2014

I'd be very interested to chat. I absolutely don't want to cause anybody any problems but would like to genuinely have a fun experiment with a couple. Probably like you, I wouldn't want to distress your wife but do understand both your excitement and concerns. Rather like your forum discussion, an acquaintance who studied yoga gave my wife a massage and like you, I would have loved him to take her there and then whilst I watched. She was very wet afterwards and clearly would have liked to receive him. Unfortunately now she doesn't do sex any more but it remains a strong interest for me. It would be such fun to have a hotel meeting to see if we got along. Let me know if you would like to chat further. Regards A xx

3 Mar 2014

It's a valid concern don't move to fast. Try going to a social. There you can just chat with other swingers. Social are not about sex. They are about meeting and chatting. While it could lead to more it does not have to. It will be a chance to find out how others started swinging and how it effected their relationship. I would ask you to our Swansea social this Friday but it may be to far for you. Try the chat room. Just chat to everyone and above all each other. Travis