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Well, new to the scene, been in the chat room a few times but not really said anything yet. Seems fairly hard as a single guy to find anyone willing to meet, messages like [I]"Single Guys… No Chance, not even a maybe, so please don't ask!!!"[/I] and so on really don't make you feel welcome. Still, here's hoping I can slowly break into it and begin enjoying it somewhat smile Post edited 04-02-2007 23:48
mac23.. please dont feel disheartened by your struggle... its just a sad fact of life that there are far more single men on the site than any other group. Sure, there are a lot of people who dont meet single men- and thats their choice, its not to make you feel unwelcomee into the chatroom, start chatting and let people get to know you first. Read profiles before you do approach someone so at least you wont get a sharp rebuttal! Finally, as is the usual advice, read sudsy's "advice for newbies" in the new and nervous forum... hope you settle in ok x Post edited 06-02-2007 10:02
what bloody personal details and urls??? :-?
There are clearly couples and single fems seeking single guys...Just takes effort and patience to create a reputation of trust, to gain meets...xx
Hi Mac, Welcome from a fellow single male smile The good news - yes, it does happen. There ARE SFs and Couples out there who will meet us, possibly rather more than you might think. The bad news - it will take time! As SMs, we tend to be a little mis-trusted initially. This isn't a criticism of other members, it's just a fact. I believe that the reason for this is that firstly SMs outnumber just about every other group on the site by about 10-1, and secondly a large number of SMs (sadly) treat this site as a sort of online brothel. It isn't. To be fair, I joined this site with the expectation of pretty easy, free sex. Didn't take me long to work out that that wasn't going to happen! This site is principally about making friendships, with the sex being a rather nice bonus, if you like! It took me 6 months to get my first meet, and the next was a while after that. These days, thankfully, they are far more frequent, but that's only because people now knowo me very well through the chatroom and group meets. As with any other walk of life, developing the friendship at first takes time. People will want to get to know some more about your personality before they bother to meet you (let's face it, there are so many of us for couples and SFs to choose from that they can afford to be picky! :) ) Theh best advice I can give is for you to frequent the chatroom and get to know people through that route. Come along to the various group meets that are organised (check the forums for upcoming dates) . I'm sure things will happen for you (if I can do it .... ) - just be prepared to work at it biggrin Suds