good advice sudsy hun. i hope newbies arent too scared of us. we're pussy cats really. we find it helps if you go on cam. shows you are genuine and are friendly. also gets you noticed we find. it's very easy to get lost in the chat. when ya talking to so many people with whispers etc you can miss alot of the chat. so dont be offended if peeps dont reply quickly or miss it completely. even happens with the regulars.