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Hi, I guess my questions are fairly typical. I am lone male waanting to meet couples or single females. 1) What is the best way to reply to an initial contact? Should an arrangement be offered immediately, for example, or should there be further discussion, when should there be a phone call? Shoudl I discloe my email address and chat that way first? My preference is to make an arrangement and talk first, if we don't click then move on. But if a hotel is booked, then should I still cover my share of costs if I have no involvement, bearing in mind a couple could still use the room? Would it be better just to meet at a bar first? 2) At the first meeting, what is the best way to break the ice and get some trust going - i.e. what to talk about? If I talk about sex, it may seem pushy. 3) As a newbie, is it better I meet experienced members first, or other newbies? Will other newbies maybe be too nervous about first encounter? Or is it better to be at the same level? 4) Would I be better off establishing myself at a party first? 5) I am basically staight (never dated a man or got off on one at all), but I am also sub and will pleasure males to some extend if asked. A lot of swingers may find any bi male behaviour very offputting. Is it just better I keep this aspect to myself, as it is not an important part of my sexuality? I'd appreciate any other answers that fit the set above. kind regards, John x