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confusedOK, so I am getting to know what a bad rep we have ..... single guys that is. It seems as though previous encumbants have laid down so pretty poor ground. Is this a non-retrievable situation? Or is there some glimer of hope for the new crowd? ANy suggestions welcome......... thanks, Kev X
Tell me about it mate , although im pretty sure , well hoping that is , that the situation is up to us. Just be yourself or in the case of guys ourselves and thats all you can be , people should respect everyone else as individuals and therefore the actions of a previous person should have no reflection upon the opinoins of yourself by others . As for how ive found people on here id say thats exactly hte way it is , everyone , as far as i have seen , gives each other a chance and dont instantly judge them just because they are a single guy.
I think the main problem is just the sheer number of us.
banghead hey sexy guys, iv stand up for u all the time, cus bein a single fem...(or i was wen i joined), i saw how hard it is for u guys, altho totally different for single fems, we get bombarded, most the time its all goods, sumtimes the peeps r wankas:wank: but all i can say is chek peeps profiles to see wot there afta and always be respectful! but if u want any tips or advice go on 'anythin goes threads' theres info there 4 single guys!...... jus dont giv up and hav fun and im sure if ur 100% nice and genuine then the frolics will cum.... iv met quite a few sexy single men off ere and iv had a fab time!! funkyD xx
voice of reason arent you funky babe lol shes right though.
I gotta say as a single bloke I have not had any problems with any ladies or couples. But I`m afraid chaps if you gonna whisper ladies and couples wiv lines like your hot u wanna fukk or you live near so lets fukk then you gonna get grief. Ya still have to get known an work ya way into the community an then you`ll be like me still wont get a fukk but ya may be liked a bit more :haha: Ave a word wiv jamie he`s a single bloke an he`s doin great. An maybe the next time you wanna open a door use the handle rather than kickin it down.banghead
Oi fooooka does that include me :crazy: :haha::inlove::P Norff
Yes I agree with Northie get yourself known! When I went to my first social was petrified and thanks to 3 peeps settled down as was a single male and the majority of other peeps were couples!It really took me another social I went to to get myself known (which was MK2)and now after 5 more making a grand some of 7 socials ive been to really feel I know the top regulars and do help newbies settle in! The only problem im finding is the top peeps live the other side of England to me! So patience is a virtue it takes time and do not expect things to happen asap as they do not! Hope my experience is useful to you!
[quote user=yeahitsme]confusedOK, so I am getting to know what a bad rep we have ..... single guys that is. It seems as though previous encumbants have laid down so pretty poor ground. Is this a non-retrievable situation? Or is there some glimer of hope for the new crowd? ANy suggestions welcome......... thanks, Kev X[/quote] Non retrievable I'm afraid because to be honest, the new lot of single males on here are a dam sight worse than the old lot. Only one of the reasons why I'm off
oh wow madchick, that's so tough when you don't know me, ok so maybe you aren't referring to me, but please don't paint us all with the same brush as that's not fair. And don't leave either, I am sure you;ve had some great times here, and there are bound to be more [even if it is without single guys!!] XX
As a single female, although not necessarily everyone's cup of tea, i still get hassle in the chat room on occasion and some 'choice' mail.rolleyes On the whole it is from the male half of couples though!!!:uhoh: Single guys are like single females and couples- human beings on here to have fun. Some of us are idiots with everyone, some are idiots with a few, but you can bet that not one of us is liked by everyone.:kick: I am bored with the blame gamemadeye: Can't we just play nicely? passionkiss:doggy:sillyassionkiss: Rosie
[quote user=lksganning]Tell me about it mate , although im pretty sure , well hoping that is , that the situation is up to us. [/quote] You have a very wise attitude, lks and i think you are right
Nice words maddie but i think you are generalising a bit I don`t think I have given you grief cos i`m sure you would have told me. Although I did get trouble from a couple that was undeserved and ended up with a 24hr ban cos i gave it back in the chatroom. I really don`t know what all the fuss is about.
Not aimed at anyone in particular and especially not you Northy..... I don't count you as new..... it seems like you've been here forever! Anyway.......Maybe I am tarring everyone with the same brush but its not just the new singles who are a pain in the posterior........!!!! I'm not saying much more, not saying anything on here...... those that know me well, know why we are leaving. As for the singles not being able to read..... Today's snippet from my mailbox : Here's my number *********** text me and we can meet. Fine you say, thats not offensive........ its from the male half of the couple, no mention on the female and they live 310 miles away!!!! I mean, come on, FFS...... Newbies (and I mean REAL newbies) need to learn to read and look at the distances, not just perv the sodding pictures! Enough said.... I'm off out
but that was not a single guy, maddie!
Sorry Rosie....... irony not my best point Funks stated that single men need to read the ads. My snippet from my mailbox was from a couple who also can't read or the man thinks he's the next casanova! So the sentence......... And as for the single men who can't read.......... it was meant as.... well couples can't read either. Ok..... uni finished, brain fooked already, making no sense, gonna drown myself in a vat of merlot and die a happy woman!
There is a minority of men (singles and part of couples) that spoil it for the rest of you. I can say that I have spoken to many guys on here, and some of them, we were really up for meeting, swopped numbers etc. Then something changes, you get quite creepy, sometimes REALLY dirty messages, and it REALLY puts me off. Why do people change when they think they have done the ground work? That would be my biggest complaint about men in general on here, I really dont take any notice of the whispers, coz I know they saying the same damn thing to everyone with a pulse! Hang on in there you single men, try not to be needy or creepy, and have patience. People only want to get to know the real you, same as any situation, asking to see someones pussy or tits does not make for a long relationship, lol Jo & Daz xxx
I've been bumming around on here on and off for a couple of months now, and although i've yet to meet i have chatted to some great fun people. A polite message sent to someone won't always get a reply but so long as you aren't a pain or a perv then even if they don't get back to you then just leave it and say maybe tney weren't for me. Patience and ploiteness are the order of the day i think. Oh and a huge...... smile
firstly thanks for all those that have left comments, good or bad. Secondly an apology from me......... sorry for posting this in the 'let's meet' section. It seemed the most active so I knew that some of you would read it. And lastly, politeness, honesty, avoidance of the crude and just plain common sense seem to be the order of the day :cheers: Kevin
yep thats about the strength of it Kevin, lol And True, well done you! very impressed with the restraint you have shown, although I'm really not sure it will continue lol Jo xxx
blondes you fancy a fooook. hee hee :haha::haha: :giggle::giggle:
well Jo XX my restraint is only bound by yours XX
LOL North bless you and your subtle ways xxx
folks lets jus hav fun and frolics and stop all the crap, we all deserve respect......jus respect one anotha, and guys jus think, if u were in cplsome land, wud u appreciate openin ur mail and sum sad fucka as sent u mail sayin....'hey sexy peeps fancy a fuck and can i see ur pix so i can wank'.i think not.....think b4 u leap!!! and be happy ....... funkyD xx:P
yes, cn you send me some naughty pics to have a wank over please.
Restraining techniques True??? hmmmmm Draw me a picture and I let you know! lol Jo xxx
Yeahitsme ............. not all single males have a bad rep only the ones that deserve them in this household. We take singles (male AND females) and couples on face value like most on here so dont become disheartened :rose:
thanks for the comment Marky. I am definitely not disheartened, just surprised [or maybe not!] what a bad rep we have in general. Nice guys are always welcome most places, but it's so difficult to know who is and who isn't nice XX PS I am!! :-)
The best case I had from a single male on this site (a very well known one) was he made out that in an up & coming social that we would be there as a couple. He was speaking to 2 newbie couples and made out that I would be joining them as well as him. I was completely oblivious to this at the time, but had my suspicions when one of the couples emailed me saying they were looking forward to meeting me, even though I had never spoken to them before. For those that know me, you know I only meet single guys and don't meet couples. When later on in the social the newbie couples asked me to go back to their hotel room they had a really suprised look on their faces when I said no and that I don't play with couples. After that incident I lost faith in guys from here and hence why I haven't been about a lot since I found out. However, the single male involved continues to carry on as if nothing ever happened and even has the cheek to give advise to newbies on teh forums. Hmm I haven't seen him give the advice yet on how to meet couples, by lying & using peeps!!!!