Kong given that swinging is derived from wife swopping its clear to see why single guys have a problem getting meets, most fellas in a couple want another lady to play with...Bi-fems have best of both worlds and most couples are more likely to seek 3some fun with a lady...However, there are some couples that defo choose single guys for inclusion into their fun and you will find that the ones that get to play are generally the ones with patience, tolerence and above all respect for women...So best advice we can give is hang in there and communicate, communicate, communicate...If its to be it will happen...xxx