Is There any one out there? April 30th 2009

30 Apr 2009

Joined as a paid member 48hrs ago, sent 30+ 'emails' to single girls and couples & not a single reply ... is this site really for single guys do you think?

30 Apr 2009

Mark don't expect the world after only being a member for 48 hours. Trust me, just because this site is a swingers site it does not mean that is it a sex on demand site. It takes time to get to know people and it take time for people to get to know you. Yes I will admit it is harder for single males on here but this is because they outnumber everyone else by 100-1 at least. If you want some advice on how to get on being a single male on here then I would suggest going to the forums and to the anything goes section. There is a thread near the top that is titled 'advice to single males'. I would suggest you read it and take note. The comments on this thread are from some very successful single males on this site as well as advice from the perspective of couples and single females. From my own perspective as a single female - I hardly ever respond to emails from people I do not know. This is not out of rudeness or laziness but instead I prefer to get to know people in the chatroom and at socials before I would ever consider meeting them. Not just that, but I do get bored of being emailed cock pics, phone numbers and the usual one liner 'your pics are very sexy would you like to meet up?' Every other single girl on here will tell you the same story. Not that I have any idea what you said in your email - but I would only ever respond to an email that obviously had a bit of thought put into it - not just 'hi I am just up the road, wanna meet up?' Firstly, the number one concern for a single female on a site such is this is her own personal safety. NEVER in a million years would a single girl with half a brain meet anyone off the cuff from just an email or a single request. Now I am not saying that is what you are after, but I am just telling you why you need to be patient and take the time to get to know people as it takes time to build up some trust and rapport. OK, lecture over, so off you go and read the advice to single guys in the forums... Good luck! Oli:bounce:

30 Apr 2009

Mark, This site most definitely can be for single guys, but take it from me you have to be patient and earn other people's trust and respect (as Oli so eloquently describes above). I've been on this site for nearly 4 years, and it took me 6 months to get my first meet. Most people on here know me now, though, and whilst not everyone wants to meet me I'm fortunate that quite a few do, and it's been a most enjoyable experience. Most importantly, because the trust and contact is built up beforehand, when meets do happen I'm very pleased to be able to say that the vast majority stay as good friends afterwards. Swinging is about so much more than getting a quick shag, and you'll find that most of the people on here who are genuine and serious about the lifestyle are actually more concerned about making friends initially, with the sex being a (very enjoyable!) spin-off. Stick with it, and take part in the chatroom conversations. Much more productive than random mail-shots. Suds

1 May 2009

Mark, We are a couple and it took us nearly 3 months to get a meet on this site, take heed of the advice you have been given, be respectful, join in the chatroom and forums maybe attend a few socials, once people know you then your luck will change, plus from the 30 odd e mails you sent did you check to see if the people you mailed were actually looking for single males? we wish you good luck and hope you eventually find this site as rewarding and as much fun as we find it k n d x

1 May 2009

One more thing, having photos up (not just cock pics) will help you get a better response from people, I don't respond to anyone that doesn't have a pic & seem genuine - you soon learn there are some dodgys out there so single fems especially tend to be wary of this! Good luck & have patience!