I may be behind the times & this has probably already been thought of, but i note many have probs obtaining babysitters, so why dont the more mature couples in an are get their teenage daughters to offer babysit services for younger couples in the area
Just a thought !!
hi, i know what you are saying about sitters, but i would only ever leave my child with family and very close cannot be to careful these i cannot get a sitter then we simply just don't go, and if the other people are not prepared to wait then they are not worth meeting. Just my opinion.[quote][/quote][quote]
good idea but have to agree with lac as we would only leave our kids with family and friends,and if peeps you are meeting are genuinly interested in you they will understand and we have had no probs in the past getting people to understand about babysitting,any way makes for a better friendship in the end we find and to us that is very important,and your kids will always come first,no meet is that important that you will farm your kids out to any Tom,Dick or Harry,still have fun all, The Bays xxxxx
My mother babysits for a few couples as her grandchildren are all grown up now and she has the patience of a saint (must have to have raised me)!!
It may be worth looking to friends mother's or the more mature generation for babysitting services. You can check with the local police station that they have no record if you explain what you are doing and it may be worth advertising in your local paper and going round to see the applicants in their own homes.
Lots of older people love to look after children, especially if they have grandchildren grown up or living far away. It makes them feel like part of a family.
Or Age Concern can help under their adopt-a-grandparent scheme. You don't have to go for a blithering, 90 year old in a wheelchair, but there are lots of active people out there, in their early 60's who have little contact with their own families.
I've even told my future mother in law about it as she lives in Yorkshire and we live in Cheltenham. She has 1 grandchild and he is down here and she only gets to see him occassionally. It's the perfect set up for her!
Just a thought
Again I agree with the difficulties regarding babysitters. I am a single mum luckily with my family in the same village.
My parents have my young kids when I am at work 4 days a week so they already do enough for me without me asking if they will sit for the kids at a weekend or midweek. They also have my 98 yr old (in March) grandma living with them so they also look after her. I now only can really play on a weekend when my ex has the kids generally once a month.
I do find single men in particular often those who are younger than me seem to just not get it that I cant just meet anytime or I have to cancel. Or the best one is when they say when are you free to say well I am free for a weekend in 8 weeks!!!!
They seem to get the huff and I get tired of having so say sorry.
My ex lives far away and the grandparents on that side dont give a shit****
Believe me I do try as best as I can but having kids has been the best thing ever for me, so for those reading it please understand. xxx
#rant over# xxxxx
Babysitting problems.. the perennial problem lol .... me and chip know there's little chance of someone willing (and stupid!) to look after 3 children overnight so we have come to a decision that we take it in turns to attend socials etc. Sadly yes it does mean that we cannot go out as a couple very often but we also can't see why we both have to miss out on certain things. I too am the same as regards to my childrens safety and security and would rather stay at home than worry if they're ok. I make no apologies for it, I wouldn't be a mam if I didn't care, and if anyone feels that my kids will ever get in the way of a shag then they can :censored:
Tho sometimes I think people suspect me and chip are one and the same person :evil2: :giggle:
We had 3 couples come down from up north last year with their kids, on the pretence of a nice weekend away in stayed in with the kids all on the playstation/nintendo's whilst the parents went to we have known them for quite a while but it was nice to know they could leave their kids happy with us and go have a debauched evening, then come back and take them off on the sunday to alton is always going to be a stick in the mud for parents who you lot say,kids come first and you just have to take what smidgen of free time you have and use it wisely....x
