Ok wow this really is short notice but have nothing or should i say no one to do so im posting on here. Most people know me im newish here but on the chat rooms alot having fun.
Anyways to put it blunt here im looking for some fun this evening around the london area , if your interested then give me a shout.
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Sites don't name and shame for a reason.
It would give rise to every halfwit who has ever felt 'let down' to vent and abuse the system.
There are many reasons why people feel let down or feel that others are time wasters. If someone doesn't turn up for a pre-arranged meet then that's just rude. However, there can be many reasons why someone didn't turn up, many of them genuine.
To name and shame is just as rude and horribly vindictive.
People that name and shame should be banned and then maybe others will see that even if they let them down for genuine reasons, then they are likely to be slated.
For those that have been let down and are thinking of being vengeful............. get over it !!!
If thats all you are worrying about then you need to get a life.
Well, he's deleted his account now. No doubt he will appear again under another name.
As for naming and shaming I do understand both points of view. We've been let down several times and you do feel aggrieved and venting your anger is a natural desire but equally I see Mad's viewpoint. Better to make a mental note, file it, forget it and move on. There's little to achieve by a public brawl.
But if we were talking fakes.....now that would be a different situation altogether huh!!!
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Madchick, I definitely do see your point of view. I have been let down but wouldn't actually name and shame for the very reasons you mentioned above. Of course there are many reasons why people don't turn up or cancel at the last minute etc, and I do prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt.
But what do I do when I have been let down by the same person twice like I have? The first time I was cancelled pretty last minute and of course people do get stuck at work or something sometimes. But then I was cancelled again last minute by the same persdon after I had given him the benefit of the doubt the first time. Now I can't help but think is he having trouble getting away from the wife or something??
But still, even now I wouldn't name and shame him just in case he has genuinely had a bad run of things and I wouldn't want to do that to a person, well not unless I had 100% proof that they were a waster. But even then I am not sure what I would do to be honest.
Anyway, that's my 2 cents worth. My first response to this thread was after a fair amount of wine... lol
Oliviak...
If you ever swing for as long as I have (8+ years) you will find every egotisical halfwit runs through your mailbox at some point.
You learn to weed out the shite and the feckwits with time and experiance.
I have a rule........ to let you down once is forgiveable if they let you know and it seems plausible. If they let you down a second time, move on.......... they are either anally retentive with the IQ of a lentil or they are married/idiots/not real swingers/sitting behind their screens wanking furiously and getting off on the fact that you are waiting for them etc...
If someone lets us down a second time, we move on and never speak to them again..... simple!
However, please note that there will always be idiotic single men giving genuine single men a bad name.......... and by the same token, there will always be narcissistic, idiot couples who think that because they are a couple they can do what they want and get away with it..!
Trust your instincts and if in any doubt........ don't do it!
Orgasminator
Hmmm Unknown... he just gets everywhere!! and I know its a single male, coz they always are!!
