OK be honest! What the hell am I doing wrong????

7 Jul 2005

I mean, really. I just don't get it. I'm the first to admit that I'm no Brad Pitt - but I ain't no Chris Evans either. I consider myself to be quite successful - I got a good job that pays a ridiculous amount of money for next to no actual work what-so-ever, a nice home which I always look forward to come back to at the end of a “hard” days work and I've got great friends that I always enjoying relaxing and joking with. I consider myself to be a friendly and easy-going sort of bloke. I certainly don't think any of my mates have anything too bad to say about me (regardless of how self-loving that may sound!). I'm open minded, honest, caring, reliable, trustworthy, enjoy a good laugh and mature. So why the ducking hell is it sooooo freaking difficult to find someone to have some adult fun with???? What the hell am I doing wrong? I'm the first to admit I'm not much of a looker and that I'm slightly over-weight than even I would like, but are some people really that shallow that they would let something like that stop them from getting in contact to have a good time? In case you're wondering, yes I am single but I'm OK with that because I'm not looking for anything long term at the moment……… Just some adult fun and friendship. Someone to meet up with, be sociable, go out to the pub on a weekend or whenever and then have sex. I don't think that's too much to ask for, is it? After all, that is what this site is for, isn't it? It's my 28th birthday next Wednesday (13 July) and I'm really hoping to meet up with someone - anyone - who can help me make this one of the best and most memorable birthdays I've had in a long, long time!!!!!!!!! And this is where I need your help. I'm especially interested in getting some advise from a woman's point-of-view. What am I doing wrong? Is there anything I can do to get more replies from over members who are looking for a good time? If there's one thing I hate it's people that don't even have the common decency to reply to other users that have at least made the effort to get the ball rolling. That's just rude. Even if you're not interested a simple reply saying “thanks, but no thanks” would be good enough. At least that shows you've understood that that person has taken the time to email you and are simply returning the favour. So, if there's anyone out there (especially in the London area) that can give me some friendly advise then please get in touch. Thank you all for your time, Martin. PS: If there is anyone here in London that works for the emergency services or knows someone that does, then on behalf of everyone I would just like to say a big thank you for your help during the terrorist attacks in London today. It's people like you that help make this city one of the best places on earth. Cheers.

10 Jul 2005

[quote user=monkey-spanker]I mean, really. I just don't get it. What the hell am I doing wrong? I'm the first to admit I'm not much of a looker and that I'm slightly over-weight than even I would like, but are some people really that shallow that they would let something like that stop them from getting in contact to have a good time? [/quote] Sorry Monkey-Spanker but to describe as shallow those who only wish to swing with people they are sexually attracted to is a rather ridiculous and unsustainable viewpoint IMO. I often wonder exactly what people think sites like these are actually for. Joining up does not entitle you to expect to achieve success in finding sexual encounters, in the same way as buying a performance car does not make you a good driver. If you believe that you are what someone might be looking for than hang in there, be polite and patient, and you may get what you want. Good luck!

12 Jul 2005

I know what you mean about lack of success. I have had quite a few meets from contacts on other sites, singles and couples and lots of fun. Some I have met just for a drink and chat and nothing else, but others for play as well. I have found this site has more timewasters than others and lots more who don't bother to reply to messages you send. Politeness costs nothing, but it is sadly lacking with a lot of people. There are other sites out there and by my experience they are more honest. Keep trying the rewards are worth it, sometimes. If we got rid of all the people who haven't been on for months and the thrill seekers who never intend meeting, then you and the rest of us might get somewhere.

13 Jul 2005

:clap: :clap: :clap: :clap: :clap: :clap: Good shout-out, DITTO. There are too many "dormant" users, and too many people saying they want single males/bi-males/studs/manwhores/models/etc. then not replying. They just make it rubbish. There are worse sites though, one which sends mail automtically to everyone else that mathes your profile when you join means that you pay to just check the messages, and you always get messages!! :wank: Good luck and diversify your search using all methods available, remember that a Policewoman on duty can and may arrest you!