Some of the following has been mentioned elsewhere, so they're not all my ideas. I'm still looking myself. It will take a lot of patience, I'm afraid. I also suggest you consider the parties option; it might help you meet people.
1) Don't capitalise every letter - it makes it look like a child has written it.
2) Don't use 'txt spch' - you're writing a letter and it is nicer to read it when it is typed properly.
3) Try less of a 'hard and fast' approach and tell people about yourself at reasonable length and supply some detail. Read it several times to make sure it doesn't end up overlong or too revealing.
4) Add some sensible pictures - some when you're presentable, and some that you would consider more private. You can always check your pictures to see how many people have viewed them, to gauge which are liked and which are not.
5) Try not to rely on people reading your profile. Supply some information about yourself in every email. Keep it appropriate to the profile of the person you are emailing.
6) Make a list of those people you have emailed and when, so that you don't pester them.
7) Get in the video chatroom and try talking politely to people directly.
(It's not for everyone - I've only listened in so far)
I have no doubt made some mistakes myself. There are some profiles that seem to invite a hard and fast approach, and I think 'why not - it's what the site is here for, isn't it?', So far, whether I make a fast or soft approach, I haven't received any feedback. I have started checking forums and parties, and I'll keep checking my picture ratings and keep emailing and see where it gets me.
thanks on the help will do some of that. thanks jiffy