Question for the couples...
Would you ever let your partner go to meet on his/her own? And, if so, what would be the conditions?
Jeanne and I have been chatting about this and feel that we would rather play as a couple although I\'d have no problems if she wanted to meet a female on her own but not a male.
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Would you let your partner swing alone?
Yes, we play as a couple but I meet folk alone as well as would Andy if he wanted to. We are both secure enough within our relationship to know that we love each other and nothing is gonna break that. I know its not everyones choice but it works for us. In the end I love Andy and he loves me and thats what matters. I would never meet a man without him knowing who it was or where I was. Plus I always take the car for safety reasons. Hope we dont sound like a really dodgy couple now, ask those who know us , we are quite nice really.
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:doggy:[quote user=pussinboots1] Hope we dont sound like a really dodgy couple now, ask those who know us , we are quite nice really.[/quote]
No you dont, and the people who know you knows that you guys are one of the nicest people on site 
We joined as a couple and for us this is something we do together only.
We joined as a couple and for us this is something we do together only. ummm I am not sure that I am in a position to 'let' my partner do anything. She is her own person. We have had a threesome and [b]we[/b] picked the person that we did it with. I am not sure that it could ever be repeated. I don't meet couples as I find it too intimidating.
I am always keen to hear about her escapades especially if I am fucking her. She likes me to tell her as I am on my way home. I can't imagine us having sex with others as a threesome or foursome as we have totally different tastes. And our role when having sex in different situations is too different.
Who knows what the future holds tho' At the moment we prefer that we play singularly.
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Minx, I hear where your coming from, no one should "OWN" their partner but then thats what they are, a partnership, two people although interviduals, wanting to keep each other happy, furfilled and more imoportantly safe...Although some may think otherwise, when your in a partnership you have to think of the other persons feelings, so yes, if they "LET" you swing alone and thats what you want too, then great, if they dont want you to swing alone, then it comes down to if you listen and how strong the love for your partner is.....Ok am I babbling ????? Just my thoughs anyway, virgin..
Sorry....I do not expect my partner to ever tell me what I can and cannot do and I wouldn't tell him either. If either of us makes a decision which the other is unhappy with we tell eachother. Simple as that. This is the case in all aspects of life. Not just sex.
Communication is key here. We don't lie to eachother. Yes we are in a partnership but we have enough faith in eachother not to impose rules on eachother. I would really hate that. My neighbour won't go out at the weekend because her husband "won't let her" She has to be "with the family" Can't be doing with this sort of thing and I'm sorry the wording was LET which is what I am talking about.[size="9"][/size]
Hmm - the thing is with swinging, is that we feel it is a hobby we share as a couple. I enjoy watching rich with another lady and he enjoys watching me with a gent/lady also. This is where we gain our enjoyment. Although i can see your point about ownership / letting your partner do things, I don't see it being about ownership. We are a couple, have been for the last eighteen years. If Rich asked me if he could swing alone, I would tell him that I wouldn't be happy with it. If your partner loves you then he/she wouldn't want to jeopardise the relationship by doing something that may cause friction and/or resentment. Swinging is fun and shouldn't be the reason for relationship problems. And it's fair to say that after eighteen years together, that we own a little piece of each other, we are after all two halves that make up a whole. And swinging alone without your partners "consent" is chaeting is it not? and after all "consent" cam be seen as a word relating to ownership. It really depends what stage your relationship is at - if you've been with someone a month or two, then you can't expect to be told what not to do. Howver, if you've been together for 18 years, married with 3 kids, then that's different. After all, swinging is a hobby and my husband and kids are my life.
Who said anything about without consent? I certainly didn't....but its not a case of LETTING....and actually we have been together for 22 years married and 4 years before that so totally with you on the being part of eachother business but I don't have to LET him and he doesn't have to LET me. It is an individual choice in the end and of course neither of us would ever want to hurt eachother and it would be very much talked about. Not saying anymore about this!!! Obviously on my own here!
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well.. I seem to be in a minority here!!! .. I do let chip swing alone- as he also lets me swing alone... we joined seperately at different times and decided to stay solo. We'll never rule out meeting another couple together tho.
The main things in our relationship are trust and honesty. As long as we tell each other who and where (for safety's sake more than anything else) then its ok with both of us. If I didn't trust chip enough to not be honest with me then no, I wouldn't be happy about it. But then again, if I couldn't trust my husband at all then we wouldn't be swinging.....
