Having been part of this scene for around two years now, we have found that some people like to have lots of meets with different people and some have regular or more than one meet with the same people. So what works best? Everyone is different of course, but it would be interesting to know others thoughts .... so whether you are a single guy, girl or couple .. what works best for you, meeting different people all the time? or maybe more regular meets with the same people?
To answer our own question, we prefer to get to know people a bit and if the connection is there upon meeting, then we are happy to meet once, twice or whatever as and when commitments allow ... so don't be shy there's no right or wrong, what works for you? serens xxx
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Well I have found that having a regular swinging buddy does have its advantages and if I were to have a meet with someone that I really clicked with or had a connection with I would definitely consider meeting them again.
Of course a lot people have had meets that didn't go so well for whatever reason and you probably wouldn't meet them again but if you are lucky enough to find a person/people that had a bit of something special then great!
I know there are loads of people on here that have met with others more than once because they had such a great time and got on so well.
I am also sure that there are people out there who would only ever meet up with someone for a once only thing regardless, but for me I would say that if I am on to a good thing then I would definitely go back for seconds or more.
I've been a swinger for many years as a single girl and in a couple, I don't mind single meets or regular meets - can't say which is best - each to their own on that one!
I prefer to meet with likeminded people who understand the lifestyle, the liberation of open conversation and pressure-free fun. I don't like being just another notch on a bedpost - dont want that from swinging and if I wanted a cold shag, I'd just got to Chicago Rock! LOL.
It is essential that I have a connection with the person and I measure that in my own way, but once I meet and connect with likeminded guys or couples, meeting regularly socially and otherwise is what makes swinging and having swinging friends more fun!
well sexy serens,we have been on the site for a while now,and love meeting new peeps but its finding the time to get to know people first to see if you have a click,but that being said we have some very special friends that we meet from this site you can just call,meet and feel comfy with whether social or fun,not sure if we have a fav,we just love it all,there you go,love ya xxxx
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I find that lengthy, repeat chats in the chatroom are usually a good way of finding out if there's likely to be a rapport or not. Photos / webcam help too, of course. I've been very lucky in that I can't recall a "bad" meet at all. I've had a couple of indifferent ones, but apart from those they've been at least great fun, and often absolutely superb!
I'm very much the sort of person who genuinely hopes to get on well with a partner (whether a single or a couple), and if that's the case then I love meeting people again. There are a few people on here (current and former members) that I've been lucky enough to get on so well with that we've met numerous times; these people have become genuinely good friends as well as swing buddies, and we chat often.
I must confess that I have a weakness whereby if I hit it off spectacularly well with someone, I find it difficult to let go sometimes. This is not strictly within the "good swinger's guidelines", I know, and I try very hard to resist it and not to get too emotionally attached. Like Serens says - swinging isn't a "girlfriend / boyfriend thing". I do manage to resist mostly (I've never stalked anyone yet! ) but sometimes a gentle hint is needed ! What can I say? I'm a big soft romantic at heart 
Casanova
[quote user=serens40]...it's not a botfriend/girlfriend thing after all :giggle:[/quote]
I want to know what a botfriend is!!! :evil2: :evil2:
Casanova
No it isn't, ! :evil2;
Go on it is someone who likes bottoms! or it is those cyber bots that roam the internet!!
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[quote user=sudsy]I find that lengthy, repeat chats in the chatroom are usually a good way of finding out if there's likely to be a rapport or not. Photos / webcam help too, of course. I've been very lucky in that I can't recall a "bad" meet at all. I've had a couple of indifferent ones, but apart from those they've been at least great fun, and often absolutely superb!
I'm very much the sort of person who genuinely hopes to get on well with a partner (whether a single or a couple), and if that's the case then I love meeting people again. There are a few people on here (current and former members) that I've been lucky enough to get on so well with that we've met numerous times; these people have become genuinely good friends as well as swing buddies, and we chat often.
I must confess that I have a weakness whereby if I hit it off spectacularly well with someone, I find it difficult to let go sometimes. This is not strictly within the "good swinger's guidelines", I know, and I try very hard to resist it and not to get too emotionally attached. Like Serens says - swinging isn't a "girlfriend / boyfriend thing". I do manage to resist mostly (I've never stalked anyone yet! ) but sometimes a gentle hint is needed ! What can I say? I'm a big soft romantic at heart [/quote]
sudsy, there should be more guys like you on here. :inlove:
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sudsy, there should be more guys like you on here. :inlove: Wanted to say similar to what others have put really, I agree with Suds that chatting in a chat room to get to know and too is great and shows if there is a connection happening. As for meeting again, if I feel secure and as a single fem that is paramount to me then I will meet plenty more times as that person does become a good friend.
Meets that dont hit my spot tend to not get revisited normally. I love the feel of a new adventure with a new person but then again, meeting friends who have played with before gets me so excited often more.
There are so many people I am excited about meeting up with again and maybe that excites me more than new meets.
I now also have a friend who can meet with as a couple with plenty of notice and cant wait to introduce him to my friends on site. The thought of him and I playing with close friends from the site is such a turn on.
All good fun and am loving being back
Fruit xx
