we have been chattin to a couple for several weeks in the chatroom ,by text and chatlines they seem really nice have a good profile but are new with no comments etc. we arranged to meet for a chat and a drink as you do, several times, dates set weeks in advance but everytime they cancelled the day before. so we think ok they are new and nervous fair enough. but then we notice the chat seems to be alot of mes and i as a single person and everytime we say put ya cam on they say they havent got one and yet chatline say they have. so we say is it ok if the girls chat on the phone for a second and are told yes no problem, but it never happened all we got were excuses, like shes stuck in traffic , and even that she wont be home at that time when we hadnt even said a time ??? maybe its us , just too paranoid lol
ello 2on2...
Sounds like you have either been suckered by a single fella who maybe wants to watch you play on cam or more likely its a couple where the lady is not actually interested to swing and the fella is deluding himself??
Either way we would not advise anyone to arrange meets without having chatted on cam or phone. If they do not have the willingness to do that, how the hell are they gonna get naked with anyone??...
oohhhh and we always ring when on way to a meet to confirm both the other couple are putting in an appearance, if not we turn back home!!...lol
Take care, have fun
Jel & N
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Hi sexy two on two mwah.
We have had this be 4, it could be that there are two people, like jels said the female party isnt really into the swing as much as maybe the male would like, they may well have a cam, my m s n shows i have due to its downloaded on it yet i did go a while with out it due to being broken yet it still showed i had one.
the guy may say I as in single, si will some times talk as if he means two peeps eg... (us) yet he was on his own in what ever situation ( gets him in troubble some times lol )
But there again you have asked to talk on phone, now i would say if there genuine and both want to meet then they would have no probbs with a quick chat, if the guy says she is never there then maybe ask for the females number so both fems can chat, im sure if she stuck in traffic she could pull over for few secs and chat with mrs2..
If they do have a cam but dont go on it , it might be they dont want to be seen for sevrel reasons, si isnt seen on cam much, he hates it, im suprised people who havnt met us dont think im a single lady lol...
The fact that you have tryed everything tells me there not serious or are lieing abt who what They are, so if it were me i would stop trying to arrange a meet with them, i wouldnt stop chating if i had enjoyed it due to the fact they MIGHT be real and if its going to happen it will. other wise i would recomend you COME MEET US AGAIN you know were real lol.
P.S who ever you are on the site get your arse in gear two on two are one of the nicest cpls on this site and will make you feel so welcome with out exspecting any thing from you .
Mwah MO SI XX
[color="green"]Agreed Twoon, all you've said indicates that the 'couple' is really a single guy...
Good clues about sad people like this are that they've been on the SP site for quite a while - and yet they're not 'established' and have no comments.
The first sign of "Mrs can't come to the phone" is the def indication that they're a fake.
Like the lovely (and very real) FunkyDiva says -- "don't go there" ...
Have I been on the receiving end of this kind of thing -- oh yes ...
I'm a trusting fella and I've actually driven a 300 mile round trip to meet a single fem 'who had no credit on their phone' - they didn't turn up ...
Another time I'd even booked a non-cancellable hotel room in London for a meet - only to have her back out a few days before..
I talking here about the 'no-shows' - not the people who really can't make a meet and I've accepted that ..
Stay safe -- use yer noggin -- trust your instincts. If it don't feel right it probably ain't..[/color]
Twoontwo,
All we can say is, trust your instinct, and if you have any doubts, then dont go there!!
I'm sure all of us on here have a story to tell. We have had similar things happen too. We wont meet people unless, we have either seen them on cam, or had a telephone conversation etc.
Equally, we make an effort so other people can see we are genuine, we are always honest, as people on here know, we are on cam most weekends and we have no problem with telephone communication with people.
Yes it is true, that we also have busy lives, kids etc, so yes sometimes, arrangments can be genuinly postponed.....but if people are genuine they explain and rearrange, but truthfully that only happens on the one occassion or people keep in contact and give as much notice as possible of the situation.
Sounds to us like a timewaster, or a single guy!!
If people are on here, never with the intention of meeting anyone, just want some company, or cam fun.....just be honest about it, theres nothing wrong with that, just find people who want the same thing.
Like we said before, if the warning signs are flashing.....theres a reason.
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[quote user=truescorpio]I think its time we started a thread or something so we can put all the names of genuine swingers and fakes in one easy to find place.
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Mmmm, not sure about that. I have a feeling that could get very nasty!
Ellie
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We know exactly where your coming from D and T. When we were new here, we used to have the same and the alarm bells used to ring when we never got to see the other half of the couple on cam etc.
It's why we would never meet a couple unless we were 100% sure they were indeed BOTH fully involved and the chemistry has to be right too (between all four of us) as well as the boundaries set first before any kind of meet can take place. This obviously takes time, and can sometimes mean being patient and not rushing into anything. Pushy people turn us right off and sometimes people don't like to wait patiently, if this happens it means they are not for us end of story. Our advice to you guys is that if you have any doubts whatsoever then forget them or take your time before agreeing to meet.
mwawahhhhhhh ceylons xxxxxxxxxxxx
True I'm afraid I'm with Ellie on this one, could cause all sorts of unpleasentness and think we've had enough of that lately, don't you!
cey hun your comments mirror exactly how we both feel... well said xxxxxxxx
[quote user=truescorpio]I think its time we started a thread or something so we can put all the names of genuine swingers and fakes in one easy to find place, so users can check out who is and who isnt worth meeting.[/quote]
Or just make sure you leave a comment on their profile that says they were a no-show. If they're new n nervous, fair enough (providing they have the manners to let you know what's going on), but if they're just time wasters...
wow guys thanks we thought this thread would just get removed by admin. those of you who have met us and know us , will know we are nice and always friendly and polite. this tread only tells the start of what turned out to be a very unpleasant 5 minites in the chatroom and resulted in us feeling un happy an sad so much so we talked about leaving sp , but then we thought no way is one couple/ guy going to make us give up all our friends. REALLY SORRY EVERYONE FOR BEING SO DOWN WE WILL BE HAPPY FROM NOW ON HONEST . dave n tee xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
[quote user=truescorpio]I think its time we started a thread or something so we can put all the names of genuine swingers and fakes in one easy to find place, so users can check out who is and who isnt worth meeting.
Another thing to watch out for is users who have lots of comments on their profiles garnered from socials and not actual meets - Ive been unfortunate enough to discover that just because someone is well known amongst this community doesnt actually make them a swinger[/quote]
True I cant belive what i have just read from you yet again.. just because people have lots of comments from socials This do's NOT make them a non swinger... just what do YOU class as a swinger?
SWINGING isnt All About having sex, some times it just flirting, cam fun, watching well thats how i see it and most of all making friends having fun, and like you im allowed my own views, but you seem set to really kick people if there not Just how YOU want them.
Im sorry sp peeps i know this might cause more troubble and if it do's i will leave.. im JUST SO FUCKING FED UP WITH SEEING TRUE PUT PEOPLE DOWN..
TRUE pls think be4 you write the words that come out of ur mouth.
mwah MO XX
[quote user=scottalotatime][quote user=truescorpio]I think its time we started a thread or something so we can put all the names of genuine swingers and fakes in one easy to find place, so users can check out who is and who isnt worth meeting.[/quote]
Or just make sure you leave a comment on their profile that says they were a no-show. If they're new n nervous, fair enough (providing they have the manners to let you know what's going on), but if they're just time wasters...[/quote]
Sorry Scott but this wouldn't work cos if you have a comment you don't agree with or want you can just ask admin to remove it- obviously for good reason in some circumstances.
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A thread to name people who have 'in your opinion' been timewasters, etc would never work.... imagine how easy it would be to ruin someone's reputation by naming them if you had a grudge against them - it would then be very difficult for the named party to prove they are genuine if other members would continue to view them with mistrust.
Or even if you could not make a meet due to an emergency etc... would the person(s) you were meeting believe you? Or would you find yourself next on the dreaded blacklist?
What I'm reiterating - and others have said the same - is that 1 persons perception of a 'genuine' swinger is so varied from another person's. The most important part of a swinging lifestyle is TRUST. You have to have this self trust within you, not depend on someone else's opinion of someone.
That said, if you do find a member of sp who are not what they say they are ie:singles posing as couples, etc then report it. Action will then be taken.
:thumbup: have fun guys xxxxxxxxx
hi baby well said hun xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I ad a meet tonite seems to av gone pearshaped but you know what true I aint bitter, I`m gonna get pissed yippeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
I don`t give a fuk lifes to short.
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well fuk me lets open the wine.
Their loss North!!:mrgreen:
babyd agree with you the problem being that not everyone does report these things. If a mod is in chat and these things are taking place via whisper you can copy and paste them to us then we can see evidence otherwise it can be hard to deal with. Unfortunatly when all parties involved are telling you different things a rash judgement cannot be made unless evidence can be seen. In these instances it is often the moderators who then become subject to abuse. We are only here to try and sort these things before they become nasty after all we are only human. We do have feelings as well !!!!!!!!!!
:crazy: feelings?.. what are they fluffs?
Are we meant to have them too?
:doh: Now I know where I've been going wrong lol
fluffs we so understand that we wouldnt want your job for anything its a no win situation when that happens and your in the middle of it. all you can do is try to calm things down or tell them to shut the hell up or your kick the pair of them . its not nice for everyone else in the room to witness bad feeling etc we all go into the chatroom for the same reason or at least we should be that bein to make friends and have a laugh but sometimes its really hard when someone is so getting up your nose or even worse is missleading a friend, what is the right thing to do then sit back and do nothing ????? the proof you talk about is never so easy to show some people are way to clever for that, this site is brill and we think it impossibly for it to be perfect and foolproof there always some dirty bugger that cant be arsed to be nice just wants sex any way they can male or female.
[quote user=babydevil]:crazy: feelings?.. what are they fluffs?
Are we meant to have them too?
:doh: Now I know where I've been going wrong lol[/quote]
fuck me, ditto folks.......now i kno where iv bin fuckin up.....
mustnt wear me :love:
on me sleeve and hav feelings!!...lol
funkyD xx
Nah funks don`t change your a one off fucka, don`t know about anyone else but i luvvs ya the way you are.
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jus the way i am.........lol.......love actually???
trust me sexy TW...............dont go there!!
seems abit dodgy, and defo not paranoia...id say its a single guy.......who needs to sort his shit out and get a life!!
if im wrong, whoeva u r, im sorry, but 2 keep 100% genuine ppl like TW.. danglin, jus aint fair!!
and ur givin the rest of the single fems a bad name!!
jus sort it!! :sparring:
funkyD xx:P
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