With all the comments on here about single guys, I thought I\'d ask the question \"What does swinging mean to you?\"
To us it\'s more than just sex. It\'s about chatting and forming friendships with like-minded people. It would be nice to meet a couple and go out for a meal/drink and then decide how to spend the night.
Carl and Jeanne xxx
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What is swinging to you?
[quote user=puss_donkey]With all the comments on here about single guys, I thought I\\\'d ask the question \\\"What does swinging mean to you?\\\"
To us it\\\'s more than just sex. It\\\'s about
chatting and forming friendships with like-minded people. It would be nice to meet a couple and go out for a meal/drink and then decide how to spend the night.
Carl and Jeanne xxx[/quote]
thats about how we look upon it.i must say we do love the clubs too and although we still like to chat and flirt at the club the sex side of swinging sort of takes over in the club situation
shane
Carl/Jeanne,
In the first I thought it was where to get sex without paying for now,I have so many friends in here its not sex anymore,its friendship,someone to chat so i havent been to meets yet(not been well),but 1 day I will,so keep on your guard I`m ravenous.
I`m just glad I have good friends in here,think i might have gone loopy otherwise.
Thanks to you all who know xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Carl/Jeanne,
Couldn\'t agree more. When I first explored swinging, it was at a club, and I really enjoyed it at the time, but it left me a little dissatisfied overall. I was very naive about the whole swinging scene, and didn\'t really know what to expect. In that sort of environment, it was very much an opportunity to have sex and nothing more.
Since then, I joined this site, and approached swinging from a completely different standpoint. There were so many people on here who were clearly into swinging for far more than just sex - and the main attraction and addiction to this site for me was the fact that I found myself chatting to people who I felt sure I would get on with perfectly well as friends if I\'d met them socially via more traditional means (e.g. at a dinner party).
As time went on, and I started to actually meet people of the site, whilst the sexual element was a major driver in the relationship, I also found that almost everyone I met was terrific fun on a purely personal level too - which of course made the sex better as well. I can honestly say that virtually everyone I\'ve met off this site has remained at least a friendly acquaintance, and in several cases I\'ve made what I would consdier friends for life - friends who I\'ve been fortunate to meet numerous times.
I\'ve noticed that on several other threads people have made reference to what they regard as a definition of \"non-swinging\". I\'m not sure where the rule book is that defines swinging, but if I had to define it I\'d class it as \"enjoyable, consensual, sex between two or more people\".
Whilst I know it\'s unfashionable to insist on the word \"sex\" in that definition, I think it\'s valid or else you simply have a \"friendship\" - not swinging. I don\'t see that swinging should only be between couples, as I\'ve read elsewhere - the key for me is that it is \"consensual\". As long as everyone knows the boundaries before a meet, and no one abuses those boundaries, and as long as the whole meeting is sociable as well as sexual (otherwise you may as well visit a brothel), then I believe that is the essence of swinging.
For us swinging is a kind of release from the pressures of normal life. It is a chance to meet with others of the same mind set and be totally ourselves without worrying about offending people. Of course the sex is fab as well but to us it is more than that and we have formed a few really good friendships on this site. Swinging for us is about fun, sex and being ourselves it is not a replacement for something lacking in our marriage as some people seem to think but a bonus and an extra buzz . really it is another part of our relationship that we share together and enjoy :cheers:
:giggle: [color="green"]Well I have just GOT to get my two pennyworth in on this.[/color]
[color="darkred"]I agree with many of the comments above, as they are the same reasons/ideas I had about swinging and joining the site.:-o However I changed my whole outlook on this now and really do like the social aspect of it all rather than the sex (although it would be nice to get invovled at some point[/color] :violin:
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My problem, as you will see on my profile, is that I am alone on here :upset: and have received a lot of flak about 'cheating' :taz:. Infidelity is where a partner has sex with someone else, with or without their knowledge, as far as I'm concerned. If I, as an individual, want to meet up with other like-minded people and have fun then that is my choice :thumbup::rascal:. I don't push the sex angle at all and do not wish to show any disrespect or insensitivity to other members.
So, for me at least, swinging is about meeting like open minded adults that enjoy life and where sex does play an important role but is not the be all and end all.
[b][color="red"]I'm not going to :giveup: on this site even though there are some that think people like myself should not be here - which I find rather 
but respect their view no the less[/color][/b]
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My problem, as you will see on my profile, is that I am alone on here :upset: and have received a lot of flak about 'cheating' :taz:. Infidelity is where a partner has sex with someone else, with or without their knowledge, as far as I'm concerned. If I, as an individual, want to meet up with other like-minded people and have fun then that is my choice :thumbup::rascal:. I don't push the sex angle at all and do not wish to show any disrespect or insensitivity to other members.
So, for me at least, swinging is about meeting like open minded adults that enjoy life and where sex does play an important role but is not the be all and end all.
[b][color="red"]I'm not going to :giveup: on this site even though there are some that think people like myself should not be here - which I find rather
but respect their view no the less[/color][/b] For us swinging is a way of exploring and having sexual adventure. We have a very healthy sex life and also enjoy seeing each other both satisfy and be satisfied by others! The friendship has been amazing on this site and I feel that the banta and flirting is equally important!
Lilly & Chad 
p.s. Doc, am sure there are 'people like you' all over this site who are [b]NOT[/b] honest and genuine like you!! Each to their own opinion fair enough but glad you arn't leavin 
p.s. Doc, am sure there are 'people like you' all over this site who are [b]NOT[/b] honest and genuine like you!! Each to their own opinion fair enough but glad you arn't leavin 