Hi anyone who reads this.
I, like many single guys, joined this site in the hope of meeting up or contacting single ladies. In retrospect, it appears I may have been a little optimistic, as it seems the site is very much a "couples" and "Lesbian" site. Not a problem and I'm sure you're all getting a lot of benefit from it and fair play.
My gripe is more about the single females who sign up and to be honest, might as well not have bothered! I mean with profiles like:
"Hey"
"Come and get me"
or “In search of dicks”
Doesn't exactly leave a lot to work on, does it? Why would anyone reply to that? No photo, no description, no imagination, no point.
I feel the team need to develop some system of weeding out these, time wasting idiots, (always free members, by the way) to allow genuine members the ability to contact people who are committed to trying to meet new partners and people and bother to actually write a profile.
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jiggy we must all respect the request for ananimity. as you have blanked out your face. its not always apropriate fora girl to put her pics on the site for what ever reason. some girls and boys to are here only to flurt and chat and whats wrong ewith a good flurt.?????
take care
and remember that because we are on a swing site does not give cartblanch to the in side of our pants. you have to get to know peeps and be respectfull and polite.
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:D :D :D Welcome to the site Jiggy!
As a single male who's been a member for 10 months (and intends to renew for a second term), there is really nothing to worry about. You're right in sifting out the proverbial wheat from the chaff and, after a while, it doesn't take an expert to suss out the genuine folk from the timewasters, or single guys posing as couples or femmes. As you say, most of the time they are free members but, speaking from experience, there are one or two exceptions, so be on your guard!
What I will say is that as a single male, you have to be extremely proactive in contacting members through ads, rather than wait for them to come to you - in short, single men are the most abundant group of people here and, quite simply, you have to make that approach yourself as, nine times out of ten, it will not come to you if you wait around. We've seen a small amount of guys who get disappointed, simply because they set their expectations far too high, and find it hard to shake off that mindset.
A good move forward is to join us all in the chat room. That way, your personality will shine out and people will know you for the genuine type of person you are. Take it from me, you'll have a great time in there with us all, and I look forward to seeing you there!
Am I spouting off? I don't think so.....not after the half-dozen meets and the many friends I have made here!!
IF I CAN DO IT, SO CAN YOU!
Your mission, should you choose to accept it......... 
Post edited 20-09-2005 22:59
As a single male who's been a member for 10 months (and intends to renew for a second term), there is really nothing to worry about. You're right in sifting out the proverbial wheat from the chaff and, after a while, it doesn't take an expert to suss out the genuine folk from the timewasters, or single guys posing as couples or femmes. As you say, most of the time they are free members but, speaking from experience, there are one or two exceptions, so be on your guard!
What I will say is that as a single male, you have to be extremely proactive in contacting members through ads, rather than wait for them to come to you - in short, single men are the most abundant group of people here and, quite simply, you have to make that approach yourself as, nine times out of ten, it will not come to you if you wait around. We've seen a small amount of guys who get disappointed, simply because they set their expectations far too high, and find it hard to shake off that mindset.
A good move forward is to join us all in the chat room. That way, your personality will shine out and people will know you for the genuine type of person you are. Take it from me, you'll have a great time in there with us all, and I look forward to seeing you there!
Am I spouting off? I don't think so.....not after the half-dozen meets and the many friends I have made here!!
IF I CAN DO IT, SO CAN YOU!
Your mission, should you choose to accept it.........
Post edited 20-09-2005 22:59 Hi Swingin_cat, How are you?
1st observation, I'm actually replying to a fella who obviously has greater attributes than mine, hence my stupid photo. However, your worldly philosophy struck a chord and I ask myself how does one become a “wise old sage”, eloquent in the art of sussing the “wheat from the chaff”?
2nd Observation: No, I don't think your spouting off, I think you have actually hit a target and if I can use the simile; like an alcoholic, I had a moment of clarity? I realised the ineptitudes of my attitude, and all but forgotten the male in stringent desire; to be a “hunter: gatherer” determine the right target, dissimulate the inherent time wasters (such a site will obviously attract) build upon genuine people here and progress towards a successful outcome. Thank you.
Finally, the chat room is a place where I suppose people interact in real time and I think I can see the benefits, however, I do suffer some sort of “responsive delay” syndrome, the result being; by the time I've typed in a response to the conversation, it has moved on four fold!
Thanks for the advice though, appreciate your time…
Hi again Jiggy,
Just to further clarify and help:
Observation 1: No, I don't have greater attributes at all, but thanks for saying so! I will never consider myself better than anyone else - I'm just normal! But to answer your question the best way of sorting out the "wheat from the chaff" lie in two main clues. a) Take a close look at how some ads are worded. If you get the impression that the advertiser has an inability to string three words to make a sentence, then you're part of the way there! b) Do the photos look genuine (if there are any), or do they look like they've been scanned from this month's edition of FHM?
Observation 2: You are in no way inept in your attitude! As bibigtits says, you come across really well. I have read your profile, and think it is well-written, and a very good starter. Most importantly, you have avoided the "predator" (dirty old bastard) route, and your personality has come over in a few paragraphs.
The chat room can be hectic, particularly if it is busy, so don't take any delayed response personally! It's not always as busy as that, and sometimes conversation can take place in real time.
Hope this is all of help, and the best of luck. After all, there's nothing more I like to see than genuine people like yourself enjoy their time here, and to achieve what they seek. As I say, you come across really well, and it's people like yourself who earn the recognition they deserve.
Cat.
Post edited 21-09-2005 7:53
I must agree to many time wasters just looking for a cheep frill and girly giggle they not commited all this is doing is wasting a lot of peoples time and effot it will in time destroy the site as we get fed up with negitive responces due to time wasters. PICS Huh whose to say these are not just cut out of a porno mag 2 of the people I have met well just give me strength :moon:
