I got this mail today on another site and decided I would mail this on here as it certainly made me stop and take note. This was a single male and I hadnt put on my profile I was looking for single males as already have so many people on here I want to meet. This is what he sent me.......
Hi, one word before I go any further....SORRY! I know males probably blitz you but nothing ventured nothing gained. Your profile really caught my eye and you can’t blame me for having good taste, hey...
I would be pleased if you would take a quick look at my profile. I am a well-established ‘genuine’ guy and well credited by others on this website for being so. You can read for yourself the comments others have made about me.
I place a great deal of importance on being considerate, non-pushy and respectful with those I meet. I’m not on here for what I can take from others, preferring to ‘share’ fun – and that’s an attitude that seems to matter to people and continues to get me noticed. Having a chat and a laugh are just as important to me when I have meets.
If there is a possibility I might be what you’re looking for I will happy to reveal some face pictures. If I am not what you’re looking for, no problem, thanks for at least giving me a passing glance.
Good luck with your searches.........
Now do you think I looked at his profile and decided to contact him?? Of course I did lol. He has alot of comments on what a nice guy, obviously our equivalent of probably Sudsy and other singles but cant think of any more at the moment sorry lol.
So any singles messaging people with a short basic message lacking in any information or personality, maybe think again. A first impression is vital.
Fruit xxx
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The way to make a good impression, for single men probably
Crikey Fruit! That is even better than the mail I got that said 'I like you I want to make love to you'. Pmsl
That was a really lovely message hun and I can honestly say that the number of messages I have got like that... well... I would really only need a couple of fingers to count them.
So come on peeps... THAT is how you write an introductory email...
Sexpert
If i remember rightly tho Oli you contacted me first .... told me that you wanted to slap me with a wet fish and then rodger me with a raddish !!
....... don't get me wrong - i am not complaining ........ just still waiting for you to make good on your offer, BUT only beacuse your offer stood out and sounded SO fab !! hehehhee xxxxxx
Seriously tho ....... its good to know there are some nice decent peeps on these sites too - manners maketh the man and cost nothing ...... even if you are a horny fooker with it !!
Its just a shame i get so many filthy messages from sexy gorgeous cpls, women ....... and some guys even !! ( eep !! ) It just puts me off and i barely take any up on their dorty perverted offers now as a result - i like romancing a tad too don't ya know !! lol xxxx
I am just waiting on MORE now tho ............. :angel:
Orgasminator
Jo and I have met several single males and all the ones we have met have been great, polite and respectful.
However on numerous occasions we have had been 'stood up' without the decency of a mail / text / phone call. I think this is very rude and wouldn't expect this in any situation let alone a 'swinging' one.
I guess they must 'bottle it' or decide they would rather wank at a 2D image. Either way it would be nice to know especially after making a night free / sitters for the kids and so on.
Sorry for the thread highjack but I guess its kinda related.
Dazza / Jo
doesn't this just demonstrate the difference between what some men think women want (cock pics, general invites to private chat, and vulgar messages of introduction) and what woman actually want...
I'm pretty new to this, but I have enough respect for myself and all other SP'ers not to be vulgar and pushy straight off the bat...
That was a great introductory email, I want to meet him now.... Might send an email with a cock pic - I'm reverting back to type aren't I......
Anyone fancy a private chat / meet for nsa fun??? No??? I don't get it..........
Single men - please take note.... and stop giving us decent blokes a bad name... Will they ever learn...
Dr D
Fruit - that's a great example of how to do it and a demonstration to single guys that simply sending a message saying 'call this number for a fuck' with the customary cock pic is not the way to go!!
However, I don't want to be negative for the sake of it but I would sound a note of caution in that your personal example is the exception not the rule and guys out there should not get there hopes up too much, well too quickly anyway.
In my experience, guys also need to demonstrate a massive amount of patience, not expect anything immediately, build relationships with people on a general level and accept rejection that comes in a variety of ways.
Hopefully I'm kind of a little bit well enough known on here now for people to know that I'm respectful, polite, non-pushy and I would always look for something interesting to say in any introductory message - and hopefully the comments on my profile back that up rather than me spouting my own PR!! As such, I'm hoping what I'm about to say will be taken in a positive context rather than as a whinge - because I don't have time to whinge or read about whinges ... I'm here to have fun after all, just like everyone else!!
However, the plain fact is that many guys, even with well put together emails, will get very few, if any replies (even thanks but no thanks), especially if they are new or do not frequent the chatroom, forums or have not been to a social.
Even with decentish profile copy, some pics and positive comments to fall back on, the number of responses to messages, actual received messages from others or anything else for that matter will probably be very, very limited (speaking from personal experience).
As I say, it doesn't bother me but I'm sure some guys get frustrated or upset by the fact that they are less in demand than couples or single girls - unfortunately guys, that's just the way it is... so accept it and know that while there may be less demand for you, there is certainly some out there for the right guys!
I count myself as one of the very lucky ones because I was fortunate to be in the right place at the right time on a couple of occasions early on in my membership. I was also exceptionally lucky to then meet a fantastic single female who has since taken pity on this poor single male (violins sound ... lol) so that I can now play as a couple which has opened up a zillion more opportunities than would have ever otherwise been probably possible for me alone in such a short time period. I'm sure other single guys may not get as luck as me.
The key point though is that an individual shouldn't take a lack of replies or interest too personally or get despondent. Just maintain a positive attitude, stay polite and patient and keep trying and eventually you will get a bite ... oooo eeer!!
Anyway, I've rambled on enough here, have probably sent people to sleep and may be making this sound overly negative when I'm actually trying to say there are positives for single guys.
So guys - ensure you have a decent profile and all that, really think about what you're saying when you contact people and very importantly be upbeat, calm, patient and persistent. If you stick with it and don't have unrealistic expectations, you will get success.
And there endeth today's sermon.
Amen
LL
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Sexpert
[color="olive"]I'm so glad i'm not a single male in this game, they're always getting bloody lectured!! lol (sure i'm guilty of it too though!) lol[/color]
Sexpert
[quote user=fun4u2me2] Its just a shame i get so many filthy messages from sexy gorgeous cpls, women ....... and some guys even !! ( eep !! ) It just puts me off and i barely take any up on their dorty perverted offers now as a result - i like romancing a tad too don't ya know !! lol xxxx
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[color="olive"]Know what you mean, The constant barrage we get in our mail box every day from gorgeous, sexy couples, girls and men really puts us off this Whole scene, we have to go through 100's every day and it's just soooooo much hassle!! I feel so sorry for all those [i]"lesser members"[/i] suffering with their mail famine, it must be horrible for the poor blighters!
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However, I don't want to be negative for the sake of it but I would sound a note of caution in that your personal example is the exception not the rule and guys out there should not get there hopes up too much, well too quickly anyway.
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London - oh I don't know ... I'm quite glad the majority of single guys are crap at writing introductory email - it improves the chances for those of us who try (and on the whole like to think we succeed) in writing the good stuff
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:bounce: Can I just say that the first (and best) initial email introduction I have received on SP was from mr londonlaughs. That first email is probably (or most definitely) the reason why I met up with him and am still friends with him to this day.
He was my first meet off SP and I could not have asked for a better person to have had my first swinging introduction with. He is gorgeous, sexy, kind, good hearted, has a great sense of humour and is an all round fantastic bloke. Not to mention the fact that he has a tongue with magical powers and he only lives down the road!!! Hallelujah praise the lord!!!!
So girls and guys, I cannot stress enough how important the first introduction is. If all you say in that first mail is 'i wanna fuck you' (and believe me I have got plenty of those) then you aint gonna get very far.
Us girls don't just want a penis that can last 3 hours. We want quality, a good sense of humour, someone we can have a conversation with (or is that just me???) and last but not least, we want someone to share an experience with. Not just a quick shag and then go home.
So come on people (and not just the boys... but couples too), up your game, put a bit of effort in and show us what you are really made of. that is what I want anyway.
Happy swinging.
Oli xxx
xxxxx[quote user=blondecouple]Jo and I have met several single males and all the ones we have met have been great, polite and respectful.
However on numerous occasions we have had been 'stood up' without the decency of a mail / text / phone call. I think this is very rude and wouldn't expect this in any situation let alone a 'swinging' one.
I guess they must 'bottle it' or decide they would rather wank at a 2D image. Either way it would be nice to know especially after making a night free / sitters for the kids and so on.
Sorry for the thread highjack but I guess its kinda related.
Dazza / Jo[/quote]
can`t beleive you were stood up.
Sex God
i luv u for bein u foooooooka xx
Warming the Bed
I must admit that's one he'll of an introduction.
The only issue Id have is that from other single guy advice I've seen on here, some ladies / couples complain about profiles and introductions being too long. Its a difficult path to tread when first making an introduction but this guy seems to have got it about right.
Cheers
JJar xxxxx
Casanova
I normally just get 'want a shag' and a phone number
and guess what the delete button is a wonderful thing!!
Warming the Bed
I can see how the 'let's shag' and here's my phone number is not necessarily going to be a winner .............. It lacks a certain amount of 'Je ne sais qua' on the originality front.
Having read all the above Im getting a bit jumpy that until I compose my own 'War & Peace' intro that doesnt mention shagging I'd better not message anyone LOL xxx
JJar (not looking for a shag' honestly)
i dont send mail, just chat in chatroom, i think if you can gain someones intrest in chat room on cam then that more true than a email wich no doubt has been written once and copy pasted to people he likes the look of. dont get me wrong its a sweet intro. x x
Sparxy x Orgasminator
Oh Sparx, you got my interest in the cam world 
Jo xxx
Jo xxx [quote user=jamjarsize8z]
The only issue Id have is that from other single guy advice I've seen on here, some ladies / couples complain about profiles and introductions being too long. Its a difficult path to tread when first making an introduction [/quote]
Yeah it really wouldn't occur to me to send something that lengthy. Obviously it's better than the 'penis pic + phone number' approach but I'd be worried about boring people with so much information in one go.
It says he's got plenty of experience so he must know what he's doing, maybe us newbies should take a leaf out of his book.
[quote user=Sid_n_Nancy][quote user=fun4u2me2] Its just a shame i get so many filthy messages from sexy gorgeous cpls, women ....... and some guys even !! ( eep !! ) It just puts me off and i barely take any up on their dorty perverted offers now as a result - i like romancing a tad too don't ya know !! lol xxxx
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[color="olive"]Know what you mean, The constant barrage we get in our mail box every day from gorgeous, sexy couples, girls and men really puts us off this Whole scene, we have to go through 100's every day and it's just soooooo much hassle!! I feel so sorry for all those [i]"lesser members"[/i] suffering with their mail famine, it must be horrible for the poor blighters!
[size="24"]FFS!![/size]
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Sid Nsncy, Yes I dont get any emails I just get the abuse in xxxx
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Sid Nsncy, Yes I dont get any emails I just get the abuse in xxxx 