Puppy i didn't see the thread about your leaving until after you has posted this new thread.
May i say on my own behalf, and that of lots of people on here i am sure, that i am really glad you have decided to stay.
If anyone feels they have to leave because of some silly [B]little[/B] man then the abuser is winning.
I think we should name and shame in the chatroom when whispers happen by publishing what they have said and report if it is more extreme (as in your case). It seems to be the best way to handle it. Turning the tables without lowering yourself to their level is a really powerful thing to do.
I hope that you enjoy your time on site and i would have missed your lingerie if you had gone ;)
Rosie xxx