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Is it just us or does anyone else get frustrated that even after leaving people messages they dont read them and often dont reply to them, a simple no thanks would be nice. You can see when people last logged in so why are they not reading the messages left for them!!
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As a couple we often get many mails & we always try & answer the first 10 or so straight off, the next ten may have to wait a day or so.....but we do reply.
Of course, in my own office it is easy to surf & reply, though some people in open offices will only snatch a glimpse & maybe exposed by unsympathetic bosses.
If I owned a company then I might be somewhat heavy handed on my staff surfing what could be classed as a porn site. In most organisations that could be dismissal.......
Warming the Bed
I totally agree jediross. As a single male, I find that I dont get any replies. I get the feeling couples & single women dont trust single guys. I've sent out loads of messages, had a few replies, but in the main, nothing. Am I ugly?!!! :fury:
Forum Virgin
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I am so pleased that someone else feels the same way as I do about sending messages to fellow members,and not even get a reply.
Me, I will reply to everyone that sends me a message regardless if they are drop dead gorgous, ugly like me lol or total gay men who may find me appealing since most of the women on here don't if the response is anything to go by, just a simple "thanks but no thanks goes along way, to which end people like me will know not to contact you again because it will be a wasted execise.
COME ON MEMBERS HELP EACH OTHER TO ENJOY THIS SITE, OTHERWISE WHAT IS THE POINT OF PAYING ££££ TO JOIN IF NO ONE IS GOING TO RESPOND. :devil:
Forum Virgin
I've only just upgraded to be able to send messages but I too am disappointed with the lack of response to them. It feel that it is most impolite to ignore messages. The "Thanks but no thanks" would as you say be nice.
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Hi guys and girls,
Due to the way the site works, it is near technically impossible for messages to not be recieved, if they are showing in your sent items, then they ARE in the persons inbox.
That aside, i'm sorry to hear that replies are few and far between. We will soon be introducing a member ranking/stats system - which will show you the members reply success rate - so you will be able to tell before you send the message if they are likley to reply or not.
Other than that, i can't really help as we can't force people to reply 
Good luck,
Admin.
Good luck,
Admin. 
Well I am really amazed that this point has now got some response as I have been banging on about it for some time. I have numerous mails I ALWAYS check some ones profile before I send one to make sure they do not say NO MALES or something similar get very few replies don't know why maybe cause I am an ol perv in the nicest possible way
And as to admin I have also mentioned this to them before now with out any response. I think it is about time peeps that come on here had the courtesy to reply as I have also said many time before how hard it it to say GET LOST. It is not like the peeps that are on here come here for the vicars tea party it is after all it is a SWINGING SITE and the first approach does not mean we want to jump into bed with them :lick: I for one have made many friends in the chat room and that is the best way to break the ice .Make friends first them jump into bed :lol: :lol: :lol:
And as to admin I have also mentioned this to them before now with out any response. I think it is about time peeps that come on here had the courtesy to reply as I have also said many time before how hard it it to say GET LOST. It is not like the peeps that are on here come here for the vicars tea party it is after all it is a SWINGING SITE and the first approach does not mean we want to jump into bed with them :lick: I for one have made many friends in the chat room and that is the best way to break the ice .Make friends first them jump into bed :lol: :lol: :lol: Hello. Thought I would have a say on this. First of all I'm sure the emails are being sent, just remember its much easier for someone to say no I didn't get it, then sorry I didn't email back.
Now im not saying this about any of you guys, but more of a general comment remember it is sometimes hard to say no. recently I made the mistake of telling a single male that I am happy to be friends but sorry we wouldn't meet. Now im blessed with hateful email on my private email everyday, as I was silly enough to give my m s n.
also if someone's profile says no couples, or no singles etc. then I really wouldn't expect a reply as I wouldn't if I was sending it.
Anyway im sure that no one on the site are not replying to be hurtful. But sometimes its difficult, they might of thought they have replied, checked emails quickly and not have enough time to email back, only one of the couple may reply to emails, like I do in our couple. And many other reasons.
And if they haven't taken then time to email you back on purpose, then im sure you wouldn't wana waste your time on them anyway. There's plenty more fish in the sea as its said. Lol
Byeeeeeeeeee everyone xxxxxxxxx
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May a newcomer chime in?
It may be polite to reply but come on....this is a swingers site....in the USA (where I've swung a fair bit) and at parites-even ones I've been to over here prior to joining swinger personals-its customary if you like the look of someone you touch their arm gently as you chat with them, if they don't do the same its taken as a N.O....you don;t push your luck. Same thing here, a no reply equals a no thank you-or do people have to have it spelt out for them?
I've had 2 women email me so far and to be honest I haven't replied. They haven't sent further emails and they probably respect my wish to not reply....
I believe that as the normal boundaries of meeting someone in a bar, etc etc aren't here its all down to physicality...we don't have to say no thank you to someone, does that sound rude of me? No, I could say no thanks to someone but at the end of the day if anyones interested they WILL reply to a sent email as soon as they can....
I think it pays to be decerning, picky and NOT DESPERATE.....I haven't sent any emails out as I am trying to see whom I like the look of. It is all about physicality after all.
I know Im going against the grain here but at the end of the day its the recepients PEROGATIVE to reply or not. And thats what should be respected. I'd rather have no reply at all as opposed to someone being a tad cruel....I've had a few mates here on the site (hence joining) and they did warn me about 'no replies' etc....
Also, Im sure its the women whom get far more emails. As such can you really expect them to trawl through 50+ emails a day and reply to EACH ONE? Im sure these people have jobs, private lifes, kids (?) to take care of too...so its time consuming....
Im sure this may cause a tiny bit of contraversy but hey, we're all individuals and thats my one and only say in the forum.
Well evilbastard As you expected I will reply as I am sure many others will follow.
I do agree with your sentiments but in mine and again many others book we feel it dosent take two minutes to type NO THANK YOU as the recipiant has normally already opened the mail to find out what has been said, how long does it take to hit the reply in most cases the males on here will respect that as being polite,and the ones that dont if reported will be delt with by adminand the mods on you read the many threads you will see that most peeps would like some sort of reply so they know where they I for one do hope you will find the time and inclanation to keep posting in here as it is a very important part of the site.
Hello!! Well I might be contradicting my self here a little but hey never mind lol I totally agree with evil bastard. I would much rather a no reply then a no thanks. If you don't get a reply you know it's a no thanks anyway. We always reply to messages on the site as I know people do find it rude, so always found it best to reply. But im totally with evil bastard! Xxx carly xxx :moon: 
Sexlightened
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I've had 2 women email me so far and to be honest I haven't replied. They haven't sent further emails and they probably respect my wish to not reply....
as opposed to someone being a tad cruel....I've had a few mates here on the site (hence joining) and they did warn me about 'no replies' etc....
Nothing wrong with your sentiments Evilbastard, but you might want to reconsider the promise in your profile of a to every email in that case, I expect the ladies who contacted you took this at face value.
Both myself and Ian try to reply to all messages we get, even if it is a no. I agree evils, its so hard to find a polite way to say no and we hate doing it but we do.
We do tend to take a couple of days to reply as we like to reply to them together. I will always let Ian read my messages and vice versa before we even talk about replyin to them, and I have to say I would prefer a "no sorry you're not our type" reply than none at all.
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Here Here Dee I agree entirly with your comments if you get no answer then you have no idea where you stand.I for one have been banging on about this for some time,as many other peeps have I mean whats an ol perv supposed to think if he gets no reply this or this :wank: One will never know lol
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or this :wank: One will never know lol
Post edited 06-01-2006 6:42 We always reply to messages whether people have bothered to read our profile or not. However, we have noted receipts from 'thanks for reply' to 'Pity, I would have loved to shove my thick cock up your arse'. So we do sometimes wonder why we bother!!...Some people are truly pigs and clearly have no social skills or graces...However, we dont allow those morons to stop our fun...xx
Pmsl yeah I keep being told about all the pleasure im missing out on not meeting them.
Sorry marc this sounds like I'm arguing with you but Im not as I luv ya to bits. But surely yes you do know where you stand when they don't email you back. If they wanted a meet then they would email you back.
Like I said before if they don't email back then they arnt worth the time anyway. xxx bye xxx
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[quote user=cutiecarly]Pmsl yeah I keep being told about all the pleasure im missing out on not meeting them.
Like I said before if they don't email back then they arnt worth the time anyway. xxx bye xxx
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very true cutiecarly, we do try to reply but some arn't worth replying to at times too as they are just rude...manners costs nuffin
Ian x
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very true cutiecarly, we do try to reply but some arn't worth replying to at times too as they are just rude...manners costs nuffin
Ian x Carly I know you luv me and as I am sure as a very sexy lady you get some pretty bad emails and tons of them I suggest if the are too gross send them on to admin And by the way Carly you can argue with me as much as you like and if you really feel anyoed you have my full permision to smack my :moon: :lol: :lol: Joking apart that in my view is the whole point of the forum if we all agreed with each other it would be bloody boring lol
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:lol: :lol: Joking apart that in my view is the whole point of the forum if we all agreed with each other it would be bloody boring lol
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