We often get abuse reports and other messages from members reporting that they suspect a member is misrepresenting themselves in their profile, e.g. single males posing as females or couples.
If we can verify the information we delete the profiles - well actually Admin do this as the mods don't have ultimate power over profile deletion. Trouble is, it's very difficult to prove - even when we find someone using stolen pictures we can delete the pictures but we can't prove that that profile is not of a single female, and there have been some cases lately like this.
So please, for God's sake don't send pictures, arrange to meet, give out your phone number or other personal information, to anyone just because you've been chatting to them or messaging them without seeing them! Lots of members already know not to do this but it bears repeating.
Only when you've seen someone on a webcam, either in the chatroom or on / should you be ready to accept that they are who they say they are.
Even the "established member" system isn't foolproof - there are some established members that came by their "established" status through some improper means, there is a particular trio of profiles I could mention, but won't, that all established each other which supposedly is not possible.
So be careful out there!
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People not who they say they are
And this is just the reason why I feel that voice contact before a meet is important.
Nothing better than chatting on the phone to verify the gender, sex and, of course, genuineness of the person/couple you're about to meet. If they refuse to chat by phone before a "meet", then perhaps they're not worth the bother in the first place - maybe they don't really live up to their description.
Any genuine couples or females will always agree to chatting by phone before a meet, for their sake as well as yours!
Cat
Post edited 12-12-2005 22:26
I see no reason why I could not set up 2 bogus profiles, and then establish "myself" both ways with them.
Anyway, that said, I do feel the site could to more to warn people.
I always insist on:
1) cam with the people involved
2) or phone and chat
If a woman is alleged to be involved, I would insist on talking to her as well.
Now let's not make too good a case for ID cards?
John
Post edited 13-12-2005 0:06
i have a little complaint not often i do but im fed up lol
im getting fed up of high and mighty single guys telling me that ive got to phone them or meet them for a drink without actually seeing a pic of them just to prove im genuine..... id gladly give any one my number or go on cam in private to prove im genuine if only they asked nicely and gave me some idea of what they look like :fury: :fury: :fury: as if im gonna meet anyone if i dont know what they look like
sorry for complaining lol
[quote user=bignbusty]i have a little complaint not often i do but im fed up lol
im getting fed up of high and mighty single guys telling me that ive got to phone them or meet them for a drink without actually seeing a pic of them just to prove im genuine..... id gladly give any one my number or go on cam in private to prove im genuine if only they asked nicely and gave me some idea of what they look like :fury: :fury: :fury: as if im gonna meet anyone if i dont know what they look like
sorry for complaining lol [/quote]
So, single guys need to post some face photos right? Yes, it's been said before - I try and alter my pics so people see what I look like without it being clearly me. But now we are told not to post face pics cos they get abused? Hmmm, stick with masking I think.
But it's funny, why does it matter what the guy looks like, you won't see his face when it's between ya legs, and you're not going to have his baby are you? And even if the guy is very handsome, are you ging to boast that you swung him? 
regards,
John
x
regards,
John
x its not about what they look like its the fact that im not gonna meet anyone that doesnt send any kind of facial pic just something so i can see who im meeting, looks are not important after all its just fun, but if they only send me a cock pic im not gonna search the pub or wherever for the cock i want to at least see some facial features :P
Post edited 13-12-2005 0:32
well, this single guys is more than happy for his mugshot to be seen by all in our community. in fact, I would think most girls prefer to see the face shot rather than a faceless d1ck!
(well OK girls - you probably want both but what is the point in seeing the goods before you unwrap).
cas
I think we're getting away from the point here slightly. Knowing what someone looks like is a different issue.
The issue here is that people need to take care that who they are talking to are what they say they are, e.g. if you're talking to a couple, how do you know they really are a couple? Don't go just by the pics, those could be anybody's.
Make up your own minds as to how to be sure of who you are chatting to, be it by seeing them on webcam or talking on the phone, but just be aware that there seem to be a lot of sad guys out there who get a kick out of pretending to be a couple or a single female.
[quote user=redwhiteandblue]I think we're getting away from the point here slightly. Knowing what someone looks like is a different issue.
The issue here is that people need to take care that who they are talking to are what they say they are, e.g. if you're talking to a couple, how do you know they really are a couple? Don't go just by the pics, those could be anybody's.
Make up your own minds as to how to be sure of who you are chatting to, be it by seeing them on webcam or talking on the phone, but just be aware that there seem to be a lot of sad guys out there who get a kick out of pretending to be a couple or a single female.[/quote]
thats what im saying ive had some guys that wont even chat on the phone to prove they are genuine i just explain things wrong :-? 
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eye: :mad: We've not been into this kind of thing long, so I talked to the "female" via e-mail, arranged my other half to call her when she had finished work, we then found out the couple were infact a "HE" or a female with the deepest voice ever. Made me mad as hell (lucky the pratt was'nt within driving distance) it frightened my g/f off doing it again, so how do we carry on now ? Cheers Pal (You know who you are)
We never meet any couple without confirming via cam, funny how just giving a wave to each other can calm nerves and break the ice...Also, how many bi-fems really ask a guy friend to meet couples first 'to check them out'...Sounds like a scam to us, we are more than happy to meet any prospective playmates on neutral territory like Starbucks or WHS...see not even alcohol required to simply say Hi!!...Happy liasions..xxx
