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True hun, you haven't answered my question, how would you decide on which single guy went with your partner?
As for loving someone, me n mr flights were BF & GF when we started on here a few years ago, we got married last october, swinging has nothing to do with our relationship.
We love each other 110% but swing cos its naughty,
and were dirty perves :giggle:
he hasnt answered what his criteria for a single guy is when in an open relationship, or what he'd do if a girl he fell deeply in love with, and didnt want to share after a while became turned on by all this stuff,wanted to try it all (especially knowing he has!) and loved him as much as he did her? I'm interested to hear...
I have been laughing my bollocks off over this thread for a little while now and i am not even going to offer an opinion ....... only to say its ALWAYS the individuals / cpls choice and NO ONE has to justify their choices in swinging to anyone else.
I say we were ALL single at one time so its always a consideration and i have always found the best attitute is one of ' i have no expectations and i make no promises ' - only if i say i will turn up to a meet then i always do - this way there can be no disappointments.
I usually love meaty contentious threads ...... but there is just no end to this one !! What were you thinking when you started it True ??!! lol xx
Have fun peeps xxxx Mwah xxx
[quote user=truescorpio]Men with the chutzpah to dig holes are the ones who find the treasure ;)[/quote]
First I ask what is a chutzpah?
Second I offer a spade to True who I think has likely put off many of the couples or single fems about meeting him. When I meet up with a guy or a couple, I am interested in some good chat and fun, chemistry and not a lesson in my spelling or grammer. I am not on here to prove anything but hopefully not to offend anyone (I hope) either.
So it was Flights in the changing room was it mmmmm.
I did wonder but was a good girl and not decide to look over to the top! Mind you it did take me ages to get myself dressed in that changing room. Just couldnt seem to do up my poppers lol
Tru I do remember you saying in the chat room you wanted to get your cock sucked but 10 ladies on Utopia night a few weeks ago. Did you reach your tally? And do you think now that you have made your attitude and personality clear to a number of people reading this that your next meet will reach that tally?
O and by the way most ladies I think, dont like to be a part of an experiment in numbers.
Give us a tad more respect than that.
Probably talked all bollocks by name, but do I give a wotsit.... no xxxxx
Casanova
Been deciding whether to say anything on this old chestnut...... have probably said it before somewhere...... all I can say is that a) whatever preference people have on this site is so totally their own business and is of no concern to anyone else why that decision had been reached .. and b) maybe some single guys should swap places with us fems and couples and wait to see what constantly arrives in their mailbox (as has been shown on this very thread lol). It would then be of little surprise that single males are treated very warily.
Sad as it may be that males are all tarred with the same brush initially, unfortunately time and time again it has been proved to be true. I am all for singles, both male and females, having the right to have as much fun as couples but what I am against is members having to justify their choice. It isn't about shaking things up, if a couple suddenly decide that they want to introduce a single male to their bed, floor, car back seat-whatever! - then I'm sure they know where to look!!!
To be fair something true said back in this thread got me to thinking...
\he put about mailing people and instead of a polite no thanks he was totoally ignored. I must say as a member regardless if I am single or a couple it would be nice for someone to mail back when you have sent them a message instead of being completly ignored they replied with a simple no thanks. I have had one person relpy to me thanks but no thanks (well not as blunt) and it was better than being ignored and i respected them for that.
We agree boss. We never ignore mails we do reply ususally with hope you find what your looking for and hope that its not too subtle. It is a tad ignorant to ignore mails. However that said, i find that since the socials on the site started and more and more people attend these, that the ccouples become real all of a sudden and our mails have improved since as a direct result. Maybe the new ones should go to the socials and then the realism of swinging will be apparent and then they can approach people they know and have a realistic view of instead of blindly mailing. I 'm sure that would improve the reply status of mails. ( but then i've always been an optomist )
xx kc xx
We tend to ignore mail that is rude or pushy and have probably forgot to reply to some messages that we intended to. But, we have also had a lot of our messeages ignored too. I think it's best not to take this too personaly.
I bet a lot of the single girls get more mail than they can keep up with!
From a single fems point of you,if you, like I have some saucy pics put on my gallery,the pic starts off in the main gallery so is seen by many single men. I then get lots of mail from people then, sometimes blunt and often obviuos they havent read my profile. Like just putting Hi, loved your pics and profile and would love to meet you. My number is ui323oii1 bla bla bla. Has he read my profile... doubt it as he hasnt referred to me by name at all. Also it is prob just one of 20 mails he has chosen by the pics in the gallery. I want to feel that someone has taken the time to read my profile. I dont want a basic message like that. I like a clearer description of the person,maybe a bit of sence of humour there. I ignore those mails as I get lots and if they havent taken the time to think of what to write and read my prof not just perv my pics,then I wont respond to that. I do miss emails that I havent had time to respond to. I apologise to those. I do tell people that I do suffer from memory loss. So expect me to not remember then you are surprised when I do. Those who know me do know this bout me.
I just think you are brave to stand up and shout True but also have backed yourself into a corner as whatever you say someone will always disagree. Just remember it is hard for a single fem to get inundated with crap,insulting and unoriginal mails. For single guys you get blocked and labelled very easy. I have to deal with situation I am in and so do the single guys.
I will carry on as I am doing. Hopefully not upsetting anyone along the way. If I say something to upset someone in a forum thread then I do try to apologise. Maybe some of what you have written has annoyed people True. You are brave but a bit daft too, but have every right to stand up and say your piece. Just dont be surprised that people may not want to meet you due to you publically giving out your opinion so clearly.
Thanks for the deffinition of that chuz word,if I could remeber what it was I was use it myself,but I have already forgotten what it was!!
What an interesting thread.
It's revealing a lot about swinging in general and some people's expectations in particular.
I'm a straight single male - I've been on the SP site for just short of two years.
I've posted before about why I'm here -- and it's simply because it's fun.
On a related thread I said that I swing as a single person because I am 100% single and have the opportunity to explore new relationships and new experiences.
I really like the excitement of the lifestyle -- both the anticipation of a potential connection (eg the fun in the chat room) -- right through to an actual meet where the excitement level during those first few moments is off the scale..
The sexxy encounters I've enjoyed have been without equal and I like to think I've made some great connections with people on the site - both single fems and couples -- and yes single males as mates..
Am I only concerned with the 'intimate physical' side of swinging - no, not at all. I can say that from everyone I've met I've learnt something about their lives - and shared some great ideas about life in general - and for me thats a very significant part of the meets.
Swinging couples are in my experience some of the most open people in the known universe. Almost without exception it is clear that they have a very strong bond. I often see my role as being the spice to an already successful relationship. I'm there as the catalyst for new ideas and the exploration of new fantasies. Works for me. There have been many times when I see the passion rising for the two of them and thats my cue to sit back for a while..
Some of the mails I've had back from lovely couples I've met tell me that I've fired them up to intense levels of love making afterwards when they're on their own. Great! -- and I respect what they've chosen. It's a privilege for me to share some time with them.
I make the claim that I am what it says on the tin -- and I'm completely happy to be judged by my peers about whether this is true..
Would I go to a social meet just to spend time with established friends and meet new ones -- yes, in fact that's happened several times already.
Would I go on a meet if there was no chance of playing when I got there. For a really interesting person yes I would -- in fact I've driven 200 miles to spent time with a particularly interesting woman in those circumstances -- and had a great time. And there's been other similar occasions.
Would I be happy for a female partner to go swinging -- either separately or as a couple. Definitely. My view would be that it's her life and her choice.
Swinging is a lifestyle choice for me. I really enjoy talking to new people -- and I love to try to give them a smile. People have helped me out on the SP site -- (one more than most) -- and I try to pass that on.
And finally, I've never had any expectations of meeting anyone. Hey, I'm not Sean Connery or Tom Cruise (nearer to Mr Bean I reckon 
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Happy swinging 
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Happy swinging :angel:Tall John.
I have decided I am gonna marry you.
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As what you have said is the exact way a sucessful single man on here should sound like.
I have been luckiy to meet TJ a few times as know that when he meets people he is the same in his written self as in person.
To ALL SINGLE MALES..... take a leaf out of TJs and Sudsys books. They are the standards you need to raise to if you are to be admired on here.
Love you guys lots xxxxx:inlove: 
hwoar:
hwoar: [quote user=fruitmedley]
Thanks for the deffinition of that chuz word,if I could remeber what it was I was use it myself,but I have already forgotten what it was!![/quote]
[size="18"]BALLS[/size] fruit now don't forget it again or we will come and spank your bum and make you write lines :rascal:hwoar:
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[size="18"]BALLS[/size] fruit now don't forget it again or we will come and spank your bum and make you write lines :rascal:hwoar: Hi all,
I don't understand the problem. So some profiles say no single males, your's doesn't includes gay or bi men, I don't see them complaining that they are being excluded. So some couples choose not to meet single men and you choose not to meet gay/bi men. Surely the important word is choice!!!!
Get over it
Sue
Dammit Cey what was it....:doh:True, we all send messages that get ignored, and yes i totally agree that a polite 'no thanks'is better, at least you know not to waste your time any further!
But look at it from our point of view, at times we get serious offensive mail, generally from single males, who say ' cum on bitch you know you want it!' etc how do you think that makes me feel?
Were on here to make friends and hopefully have fun along the way, where on our profile does it say 'dickheads please abuse us? '
I guess it comes with the territory, and there is the delete button! but we would rather be ignored than get the crap!
Sexlightened
ahhh max honey, ya better get that cute little ass of urs out then, might cheer a few of is up :evil2:
Sexlightened
mud wrestling??? slippery butt??? max, what are u implying! lol
