If you have been a member for some time - lets say a year or more - and you have no comments, does that mean you are a fake, a bit dodgy, suspect or what?
Maybe this has no significance at all...but we do tend to lean to the very cautious side when we see profiles like these...are we being too sensitive?
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ok, time to admit the truth.. I'm just a figment of the imagination lol - (JOKE!!)
I've not had any comments added to my profile for about a year simply because I've not met anybody for quite a while (reasons too various to go into here). This I'm sure I'll rectify at some point in the future but in the meantime it doesn't make me dodgy or suss .. but I totally understand your suspicions and you are wise to be careful.
... saying that, right now there's nothing on my profile, full stop lol :evil2: :uhoh:
[quote user=babydevil]ok, time to admit the truth.. I'm just a figment of the imagination lol - (JOKE!!)
I've not had any comments added to my profile for about a year simply because I've not met anybody for quite a while (reasons too various to go into here). This I'm sure I'll rectify at some point in the future but in the meantime it doesn't make me dodgy or suss .. but I totally understand your suspicions and you are wise to be careful.
... saying that, right now there's nothing on my profile, full stop lol :evil2: :uhoh:[/quote]
yeah but Ali you do have comments on your profile and your established. We've been chatting to a couple from another site recently, they say they have been swinging for 5 years but again, no comments on their profile from the site where they claim to have met lots of peeps 
We've yet to raise the question with them as to why they don't have any and when we do, we daresay we won't hear from them again lol
We've yet to raise the question with them as to why they don't have any and when we do, we daresay we won't hear from them again lol I'm afraid I'll have to disagree on this one. I'd certainly advise being cautious about any meet, but I wouldn't necessarily be [i]more[/i] cautious about someone without comments or who isn't established. Maybe it's because I'm looking at the situation from the other side; this is my second period on SP, and during the first, lasting six months or so, I received no comments myself, perhaps largely because I was never successful in arranging a meet or attending an event and therefore no-one had anything to comment on.
I'm not suggesting that anyone abandon their own rules about meeting people from the site, but if you're automatically suspicious of people who no-one's commented on before, you risk turning it into a self-perpetuating cycle in which no-one knew, especially single men, can break into the circle.
I do agree with you aiglos. Its the ones who have been on here for years that I am talking about...not the newbies. I only say I am extra cautious because of the safety factor being a single girl.
My first meet in fact was with someone who had no comments and was relatively new and that went fantastically well. I can honestly say that I now consider him to be a very good friend.
But what it comes down to is following your instincts and take the usual precautions like chatting to someone on cam first and meeting in a public place etc.
But I would never discount someone jsut because they are new to the site as we are all new once.
We have been on sp for over 2 years now (previously as funcple9 ) and we have no comments on our profile , does that make us FAKERS ?.. we use the chatroom occasionally for a giggle on cam or just to catch up.. we have met with two couples from sp and have cam chatted with enough peeps here for them to be assured we aint fake at all we just dont come on site religeously.. Hope this gives a different perspective to the debate. pk & jj xx xx xx
Well, I've been on the site for well over a year and I've met at least one established member, but I have neither comments nor been flagged as "established".
Then again, if someone chooses not to, then that's their choice and I'm happy to be discrete.
There is also the issue that you can only be established by another established member, so if you swing with a group that's fairly self-contained, how do you break that loop?
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mikem- i can understand what you say about chat feelng a bit intimidating:eeek: but don't give up on us. I felt the same when i started on here but I guess i am as guilty as anyone because a lot of us have met through socials 
and other things. Having said that, i always try to say hello to anyone who comes in and greets the room and i know a lot of others do the same.
Just jump into conversations- we won't mind if you are polite about it, cos otherwise there are only a few chatting and a lot sitting on the sidelines watching the world go by
- not the best way to achieve a positive result me thinks.
bri- i take your point about the meets with other non-ests and agree. However, you don't need to have actually played with people to establish them but you do have to have met them- i think that is why the socials are a good thing- they enable people to meet in a relatively non-threatening environment and get to know each other. If you play as a result then all the better ;):happy:
Also all of us were new once, had no comments and were not established.
They should not bar anyone from meeting people.
They are only designed to be a way of seeing some of the info about someone (i am really bad at doing comments myself)
and other things. Having said that, i always try to say hello to anyone who comes in and greets the room and i know a lot of others do the same.
Just jump into conversations- we won't mind if you are polite about it, cos otherwise there are only a few chatting and a lot sitting on the sidelines watching the world go by- not the best way to achieve a positive result me thinks.
bri- i take your point about the meets with other non-ests and agree. However, you don't need to have actually played with people to establish them but you do have to have met them- i think that is why the socials are a good thing- they enable people to meet in a relatively non-threatening environment and get to know each other. If you play as a result then all the better ;):happy:
Also all of us were new once, had no comments and were not established.
They should not bar anyone from meeting people.
They are only designed to be a way of seeing some of the info about someone (i am really bad at doing comments myself) We are a bit suspicious if someone has been on the site for a few years yet has no comments and isn't established. It's different with newbies to some extent as they haven't had time to get to know people. To be honest though comments are not the be all and end all ... some people would rather not post or receive comments prefering to keep things private, we have done that ourselves but it doesn't make us any the less genuine .... now who could we be talking about? :evil2:
