we really want to try dogging and want to know if anyone can help us out by explaining some does and dont's
were new to the whole scene and not sure if we want someone to join in or not. We'll make that decision on the night. we don't want to get caught out by inviting someone by mistake
Any advice would be good.
Also does anyone know a good place in Nottingham that we can try.
Also want to try a swinging club, does anyone know a good place in the east midland?
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need some advice on dogging
Was told that if you put your inside light on it meens come and watch, if you open your window = have a feel, if you open the door = come and join us. Never done it but met know someone who has but only once said it was quite scary and off putting. need to imagine pitch black outside all off a sudden some strange face looking at you through the window. little soldier may end up cowering. not trying to put you off but I would prob go and watch before being the main attraction. Take care
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Stolen from another site
Dogging is a predominantly British activity that involves outdoor exhibitionism in car-parks, wooded areas and the like. The term dogging originated in the early Seventies to describe men who spied on couples having sex outdoors. These men would 'dog' the couples' every move in an effort to watch them. When the swinging scene discovered that open-air sex has its own special thrill they began meeting in car-parks, and the doggers found a new and rich supply of voyeuristic fun. Moreover, the doggers soon realised that these couples were actively encouraging them to watch, even performing for them, and sometimes allowing them to join in.
And a bit more
Usually you have a situation where couples are in or around their cars, having fun for all the voyeurs who've turned up to see. Sometimes these voyeurs are asked to join in.
Only join in or move closer if you are asked, or if you see the interior lights of the car flashing (a signal to move closer as the couple want voyeurs to watch or perhaps even join in).
Before going to a dogging location make sure you:-
Go prepared for safe sex
Ascertain that particular spot is for you - is it mainly couples to watch or is it some gay action you're after?
Most of all, make sure everyone is happy and having fun.
On a legal note, please be aware that you have to be careful. This is the current situation in the UK as far as we know:-
"There are laws that protect members of the public from being unwilling witnesses to sexual behaviour or from being harassed or intimidated in their use of public spaces or facilities. So sex in public toilets, parks or places where other passers-by may be offended is illegal."
However,
"if you are in a private place or in a location where you wouldn't expect to be spied upon, then you're probably okay. Prosecution relies on a third party onlooker getting upset and reporting you. So, if you want sex under the stars, make sure you pick a secluded spot." - Quoted from the BBC summary on sex and the law in the UK.
Here's what Dr Tuppy Owens of the Sexual Freedom Coalition had to say in a letter to the home office about the intention to make public sex illegal: "Item 77 would making dogging illegal. Dogging is a popular, ancient tradition of anonymous sexual fun, with exhibitionists performing to voyeurs in car parks, woods, sand dunes, etc."
and a bit more
These are mainly guidelines, as rules cannot be enforced. Guidelines can be encouraged. Anyone who's been "about" for a while will know these anyway. Be aware that the good guys might read this and say ‘it’s all common sense’. Not everyone you meet Dogging either knows of this Site or cares a toss about the guidelines. So don’t come back on here and complain. These will help you enjoy the experience, but not make it too regimented.
SINGLE GUYS
The FIRST thing you have to understand is this:
The WOMAN in the party is in command.
NO means NO, STOP means STOP.
If you don't UNDERSTAND this, then dogging ISN'T for YOU.
The name of this game is FUN.
THERE ARE MANY TIMES MORE SINGLE GUYS DOING THIS THAN COUPLES OR SINGLE WOMEN.
So, don't expect a lot of action.
You may be lucky, but you probably won't. Waiting is most of the game.
It may seem a good idea to YOU to park at one end and then drive down when a car comes into the car park, so that your lights shine on the occupants. But others also think the same and they'll be doing it too.
It isn't a good idea, it's a very BAD idea because it always ends up with four or five cars driving up-and-down all night.
Don't keep your lights on when parked-up. If you're afraid of the dark, stay at home.
If you're too thick to appreciate this, please stay at home.
Patience IS a virtue, in fact in dogging it's about the only one.
If you arrange to meet a couple, please don't bother going to a dogging site because there WILL be others there and they WILL be watching you. If you don't like that idea then go somewhere else.
Don't creep-up on cars, if you think they are in for a show, let them see you first.
If they aren't up for it they'll drive off.
If they are and you creep-up on them you'll scare the woman (more likely the bloke though, in which case the woman will give you a kicking, masochism is optional)
This is a dark car park/park we're talking about, not a lounge.
I'D get scared if someone crept up behind me !
Sign Language: Flashing brake lights are for gays.
Couples drive in and flash the internal lights mainly, then the
headlights if they see you.
Basic behaviour:
If the window isn't OPEN, or they haven't ASKED for you to join in, then they don't WANT you to.
Even if the window IS open ASK first, or LISTEN.
If the window is open, go and chat to the GUY.
*DO NOT* grab hold of the woman unless INVITED or ASKED.
Please don't expect anyone to blow you if you've been sitting on your arse in a car all day and your dick is humming. Try and be a bit clean, use some baby wipes and clean the bits that matter. Even if the couple DO want to play and have rubbers with them, it's polite to have your own.
If a couple ask you, or others, to move away because there are too many guys about...MOVE AWAY...DON'T moan about it just DO it.
If there are others already "ON" a car and you aren't, DON'T sit there with your lights on thinking they will move off and you can get some action because the COUPLE will move off too.
If all you can think about is getting a free shag and f**k everyone else, then you have got the wrong end of the stick. There is FAR more WATCHING than DOING in this game.
*******************************************************
COUPLES
Credits:
Taken from a variety of other sites and also from discussion with doggers and couples.
First part: Description and general advice.
*******************************************************************************
Dogging is the broad term used to cover all the sexual outdoor activities that go on.
This can be anything from putting on a show from your car, to a gangbang on a picnic table. It all depends on what you're looking for.
Dogging involves exhibitionism and voyeurism and this combination goes hand in hand. The voyeurs are mainly men and the exhibitionists are mainly couples or women who love to attract attention and often invite people to join in. Dogging is predominently something us British enjoy, the open air, countryside and car parks! Apparently the Belgians, French and Italians do it but not as obsessively as us Brits!
If you're thinking of going dogging for the first time, read these tips below.
These tips are mainly aimed at couples trying dogging for the first time. The tips are split into three sections, before, during and after the meet. If you're a single male, all the advice I've been given for males simply says, "be polite", don't be pushy and only do things you are invited to do. All the couples said that allowing males to join depended on how clean, polite and non-pushy the males were.
Before the meet
talk about it -
If it's your first time dogging, then you need to talk about what you're looking to get out of it. It's easy for partners to get confused about how far to go. Talk to each other, decide what you're both comfortable doing, the last thing you want is to overstep your partners boundaries.
Be prepared -
It's helpful if you put together a small washing bag containing condoms (if the males haven't brought any), wet wipes and deodorant. These are just a few things, which will make the meet go easier. Another thing, which is helpful, are the business cards you
get out of the machines you find at service stations. A simple card with your swinging names, email address and even your mobile number will come in handy.
Advertising -
Dogging can be a bit hit and miss, sometimes you can spend hours at a location and see no action at all. The way round this is to advertise on the dogging forum. When you advertise, don't advertise the location you're going to or what time you're going. This will result in a mass of single men waiting for you. I've heard of this happening and the couple turned up to a group of 25 single men, way too many.
All you need to include is the area you wish to meet in and the date of the meet.
Then simply ask people to email or PM you about the meet. Once you have the emails and PM’s, you'll be able to choose who you want, and email/PM them the details of the actual location and time. This should stop you being swamped.
During the meet -
Safety -
Before you arrive, make sure you move your bag / purse / wallet / anything valuable to a safe place like the glove box, it sounds silly, but would you want someone to know your full name and address?
Lock all the doors from the inside, this will stop unwelcome visitors and keep you in control of what goes on.
Signals -
There's loads of signals that doggers use, the most common are flashing lights, and these could be interior or exterior lights. This basically means they're doggers.
Leaving the internal light on basically means we want to be watched.
If they wind down the window, this means they want to fondle / be fondled or more. If they want more, they tell you.
Most doggers start with a show for the guys and then go further once they've picked the males that interest them.
There are many more signals but most of these are really obvious, like flashing.
Too many males -
If you're presented with the problem of too many males, the easiest thing to do is just ask them to back off. Most will comply with no problems, some don't. If they don't and can't take the message, simply say your going because of "that pushy bastard". Often the males watching will help remove the prats, simply because they don't want their fun spoilt. If it's too much for you, just drive off.
After the meet.
Ending it -
A simple thank you to all the males that watched or took part in the fun is all that's needed. Everyone will get the idea and say their goodbyes.
Cleaning up -
A lot of the dogging locations are based around picnic or other public areas. Please make sure that any condoms or used tissues are put in the bin, or taken with you.
Please do not litter, leaving used condoms around is a sure way of getting the area closed at night by the local council and isn't very nice for normal users of the area.
Keeping in touch -
Remember those business cards, well if you find someone you'd like to meet again, you can give them your card to keep in touch if you want to.
Leaving -
On heading home, make sure you do not take the direct route, go for a drive around for a little while. Just make sure that nobody has followed you home.
Talk -
After it's done, you'll be high on the feeling; this is a good time to talk about what just happened. What you liked, what you didn't, what you want to do next time.
As with all types of swinging, talking is the way to safeguard your relationship, remember that your relationship is far more important than a couple of hour's fun
Stolen from another site
Dogging is a predominantly British activity that involves outdoor exhibitionism in car-parks, wooded areas and the like. The term dogging originated in the early Seventies to describe men who spied on couples having sex outdoors. These men would 'dog' the couples' every move in an effort to watch them. When the swinging scene discovered that open-air sex has its own special thrill they began meeting in car-parks, and the doggers found a new and rich supply of voyeuristic fun. Moreover, the doggers soon realised that these couples were actively encouraging them to watch, even performing for them, and sometimes allowing them to join in.
And a bit more
Usually you have a situation where couples are in or around their cars, having fun for all the voyeurs who've turned up to see. Sometimes these voyeurs are asked to join in.
Only join in or move closer if you are asked, or if you see the interior lights of the car flashing (a signal to move closer as the couple want voyeurs to watch or perhaps even join in).
Before going to a dogging location make sure you:-
Go prepared for safe sex
Ascertain that particular spot is for you - is it mainly couples to watch or is it some gay action you're after?
Most of all, make sure everyone is happy and having fun.
On a legal note, please be aware that you have to be careful. This is the current situation in the UK as far as we know:-
"There are laws that protect members of the public from being unwilling witnesses to sexual behaviour or from being harassed or intimidated in their use of public spaces or facilities. So sex in public toilets, parks or places where other passers-by may be offended is illegal."
However,
"if you are in a private place or in a location where you wouldn't expect to be spied upon, then you're probably okay. Prosecution relies on a third party onlooker getting upset and reporting you. So, if you want sex under the stars, make sure you pick a secluded spot." - Quoted from the BBC summary on sex and the law in the UK.
Here's what Dr Tuppy Owens of the Sexual Freedom Coalition had to say in a letter to the home office about the intention to make public sex illegal: "Item 77 would making dogging illegal. Dogging is a popular, ancient tradition of anonymous sexual fun, with exhibitionists performing to voyeurs in car parks, woods, sand dunes, etc."
and a bit more
These are mainly guidelines, as rules cannot be enforced. Guidelines can be encouraged. Anyone who's been "about" for a while will know these anyway. Be aware that the good guys might read this and say ‘it’s all common sense’. Not everyone you meet Dogging either knows of this Site or cares a toss about the guidelines. So don’t come back on here and complain. These will help you enjoy the experience, but not make it too regimented.
SINGLE GUYS
The FIRST thing you have to understand is this:
The WOMAN in the party is in command.
NO means NO, STOP means STOP.
If you don't UNDERSTAND this, then dogging ISN'T for YOU.
The name of this game is FUN.
THERE ARE MANY TIMES MORE SINGLE GUYS DOING THIS THAN COUPLES OR SINGLE WOMEN.
So, don't expect a lot of action.
You may be lucky, but you probably won't. Waiting is most of the game.
It may seem a good idea to YOU to park at one end and then drive down when a car comes into the car park, so that your lights shine on the occupants. But others also think the same and they'll be doing it too.
It isn't a good idea, it's a very BAD idea because it always ends up with four or five cars driving up-and-down all night.
Don't keep your lights on when parked-up. If you're afraid of the dark, stay at home.
If you're too thick to appreciate this, please stay at home.
Patience IS a virtue, in fact in dogging it's about the only one.
If you arrange to meet a couple, please don't bother going to a dogging site because there WILL be others there and they WILL be watching you. If you don't like that idea then go somewhere else.
Don't creep-up on cars, if you think they are in for a show, let them see you first.
If they aren't up for it they'll drive off.
If they are and you creep-up on them you'll scare the woman (more likely the bloke though, in which case the woman will give you a kicking, masochism is optional)
This is a dark car park/park we're talking about, not a lounge.
I'D get scared if someone crept up behind me !
Sign Language: Flashing brake lights are for gays.
Couples drive in and flash the internal lights mainly, then the
headlights if they see you.
Basic behaviour:
If the window isn't OPEN, or they haven't ASKED for you to join in, then they don't WANT you to.
Even if the window IS open ASK first, or LISTEN.
If the window is open, go and chat to the GUY.
*DO NOT* grab hold of the woman unless INVITED or ASKED.
Please don't expect anyone to blow you if you've been sitting on your arse in a car all day and your dick is humming. Try and be a bit clean, use some baby wipes and clean the bits that matter. Even if the couple DO want to play and have rubbers with them, it's polite to have your own.
If a couple ask you, or others, to move away because there are too many guys about...MOVE AWAY...DON'T moan about it just DO it.
If there are others already "ON" a car and you aren't, DON'T sit there with your lights on thinking they will move off and you can get some action because the COUPLE will move off too.
If all you can think about is getting a free shag and f**k everyone else, then you have got the wrong end of the stick. There is FAR more WATCHING than DOING in this game.
*******************************************************
COUPLES
Credits:
Taken from a variety of other sites and also from discussion with doggers and couples.
First part: Description and general advice.
*******************************************************************************
Dogging is the broad term used to cover all the sexual outdoor activities that go on.
This can be anything from putting on a show from your car, to a gangbang on a picnic table. It all depends on what you're looking for.
Dogging involves exhibitionism and voyeurism and this combination goes hand in hand. The voyeurs are mainly men and the exhibitionists are mainly couples or women who love to attract attention and often invite people to join in. Dogging is predominently something us British enjoy, the open air, countryside and car parks! Apparently the Belgians, French and Italians do it but not as obsessively as us Brits!
If you're thinking of going dogging for the first time, read these tips below.
These tips are mainly aimed at couples trying dogging for the first time. The tips are split into three sections, before, during and after the meet. If you're a single male, all the advice I've been given for males simply says, "be polite", don't be pushy and only do things you are invited to do. All the couples said that allowing males to join depended on how clean, polite and non-pushy the males were.
Before the meet
talk about it -
If it's your first time dogging, then you need to talk about what you're looking to get out of it. It's easy for partners to get confused about how far to go. Talk to each other, decide what you're both comfortable doing, the last thing you want is to overstep your partners boundaries.
Be prepared -
It's helpful if you put together a small washing bag containing condoms (if the males haven't brought any), wet wipes and deodorant. These are just a few things, which will make the meet go easier. Another thing, which is helpful, are the business cards you
get out of the machines you find at service stations. A simple card with your swinging names, email address and even your mobile number will come in handy.
Advertising -
Dogging can be a bit hit and miss, sometimes you can spend hours at a location and see no action at all. The way round this is to advertise on the dogging forum. When you advertise, don't advertise the location you're going to or what time you're going. This will result in a mass of single men waiting for you. I've heard of this happening and the couple turned up to a group of 25 single men, way too many.
All you need to include is the area you wish to meet in and the date of the meet.
Then simply ask people to email or PM you about the meet. Once you have the emails and PM’s, you'll be able to choose who you want, and email/PM them the details of the actual location and time. This should stop you being swamped.
During the meet -
Safety -
Before you arrive, make sure you move your bag / purse / wallet / anything valuable to a safe place like the glove box, it sounds silly, but would you want someone to know your full name and address?
Lock all the doors from the inside, this will stop unwelcome visitors and keep you in control of what goes on.
Signals -
There's loads of signals that doggers use, the most common are flashing lights, and these could be interior or exterior lights. This basically means they're doggers.
Leaving the internal light on basically means we want to be watched.
If they wind down the window, this means they want to fondle / be fondled or more. If they want more, they tell you.
Most doggers start with a show for the guys and then go further once they've picked the males that interest them.
There are many more signals but most of these are really obvious, like flashing.
Too many males -
If you're presented with the problem of too many males, the easiest thing to do is just ask them to back off. Most will comply with no problems, some don't. If they don't and can't take the message, simply say your going because of "that pushy bastard". Often the males watching will help remove the prats, simply because they don't want their fun spoilt. If it's too much for you, just drive off.
After the meet.
Ending it -
A simple thank you to all the males that watched or took part in the fun is all that's needed. Everyone will get the idea and say their goodbyes.
Cleaning up -
A lot of the dogging locations are based around picnic or other public areas. Please make sure that any condoms or used tissues are put in the bin, or taken with you.
Please do not litter, leaving used condoms around is a sure way of getting the area closed at night by the local council and isn't very nice for normal users of the area.
Keeping in touch -
Remember those business cards, well if you find someone you'd like to meet again, you can give them your card to keep in touch if you want to.
Leaving -
On heading home, make sure you do not take the direct route, go for a drive around for a little while. Just make sure that nobody has followed you home.
Talk -
After it's done, you'll be high on the feeling; this is a good time to talk about what just happened. What you liked, what you didn't, what you want to do next time.
As with all types of swinging, talking is the way to safeguard your relationship, remember that your relationship is far more important than a couple of hour's fun 