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yes married men! you know the ones i mean dont come here and call themselves "swingers" in actual fact they are not swingers. most of them are looking for a bit on the side. most of them will tell you the wife doesnt swing and doesnt know they are on a site for swingers. this is not the place to pick up a bit of spare what it says a "SWINGER site" most of the people you meet on here are genuine swingers but the few who are not tend to give it a bad if you are not happy with your life at home then for your sake and your family walk away. yes walk it may cost you but money and material things are not everything. money cannot buy happiness can it. SINGLE guys this in no way includes yourselves i know its hard for you already but this is one of the things that does not exactly help you. cheers mo and cel
Very sticky subject but I do agree with you. But I won't get into the reasons why. I personally won't go anywhere near a married man who is on here as a single male.
I tend to agree, but i dont feel you should judge every single male on here with the same brush. May be they are married maybe they are not, if i were you just stay away and ignore. Who is to say there are not single females on here who are married and doing the exact same thing, Is This not the same thing, so who are we to judge men for doing it. I wont meet with males(knowingly who are married) but how do you know. The aint going to carry a marriage certificate around with them are they. Of course they are going to say they aint married. Being a single female myself, i dont class myself as a swinger, as im not a couple, does that mean i should leave the swingers site and all the other singles on here should do also. People swing for different reasons, and its up to the individual what they wish to do and who they wish to meet. People should be judge on the person they are, and if they choose to cheat on a partner then thats there choice and they have to live with it and if you dont want to be a part of it then dont meet with said person. But with any single person you chose meet, you will never fully know if there is someone sitting at home waiting for them to return. xxxxx
My moral compass is wound pretty tight when it comes to the married men that maketh moves and the 'single' men that are actually married or in a serious relationship (and its turning out to be quite a lot I've found during my lengthy research on this site)... :borg: I would never accept contact details from the male half of a couple only the female half.... and I would only meet a couple socially together or the lady on her own for a girls night out biggrin drinkies Having said that - I don't judge - i just don't want to be involved! :angel: Midgerley Yours... :rose:
Here here CC. Everyone has their reasons for being on here whether we agree or not. We choose who we play with and who we don't. We do not question couples reasons and cannot question 'married men' who do this discreetly for genuine reasons. Yes people do come on here for a quick hit but lets face it at the end of day, from my experience, they tend not to stay long. I always thought that honesty and openess was the policy of this site. We have met 'married men' who have been honest with us and admitted their wives don't know (and were down as single). That is their look out, not mine. If this is their choice, that how can anyone object? Pleas If they are down as a couple or we don't want to play the answer always respectful is NO. If they don't respect that then they probably have something to hide anyway. Rant over!!!!! PS....Not wanting to get hate mail but who is to say that 'married women' escape this? For me at least surely the same rules apply.
Bugger... I better go hide the husband....bolt
I'm ok. Mine's under the patio. :devil:
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[quote user=midgie]I'm ok. Mine's under the patio. :devil:[/quote] i kinda did that too
Surely if married men (by which I mean the ones who admit it on their profile) were after "a bit on the side", it would be easier for them to join a regular dating site and pose as a single. For myself, and I guess a lot of the fellas, single or married, the appeal of swinging is threesomes and moresomes. Afterall if you are married the likelyhood is that you have a fair amount of sex at home anbyway. Therefore swinging is an extra bit of excitement and social fun. Doesn't that make married men more genuine rather than less?
Silverspud - very much depends on if the wife (or husband) knows, is involved.. if someone is just wanting nsa 'fun' then this is a better place than a dating site to achieve that. Having been married and been limited to sex twice a year - no sex may not actually be that readily available within a marriage. biggrin I think the issue is a moral one - if someone is here posing as a single person in order to have sex outside the confines of their marriage then that indicates issues within the relationship that are not being addressed or confronted. They are involving and possibly deceiving third parties for the sake of their own libido. Everyone has a different moral compass about what is acceptable and where their boundaries lie; however what i think is completely unacceptable is deception and dishonesty. dunno Just off to re-lay the patio...looking a bit wibbly.... :evil2:
I know some men that are trapped in some right crappy situations, and thru no fault of their own dont get what they need at home, physically, emotionally or mentally. I for one are not going judge anyone for getting what they need elsewhere... And yes you could say if they unhappy they should leave the situation then join this site, but if you have ever been there... you would know it aint that easy !! Jo xxx
Maybe I shud start carryin me divorce papers and I got two sets yippeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.....:crazy::crazy: Fuk I been lucky twice..:haha::haha:
the only thing i can add to this is becareul, jus b4 i met markie i met a guy on ere who sed he was single.... we became quite close, messagin each otha, meetin, fukin, becumin really good friends... and bingo his wife appears, i had death threats, threats on ere, she slated me to death in the chatroom, markie was bought in to it all, my name was dragged thru the dirt, as bein sum bitch who wrecked marriages, split families and for wot i thought the fuka was single.....well all iv got to say was the police was involved as well as admin on ere the thing that got on me tits was i was a single fem on ere and i thought he was a single guy....and i was made to look like a bitch and all my friends that kno me on ere, kno id neva mess wiv a married guy yet i was made to look sooooo bad! sooooooooooo jus becareful, i was told to chek comments, make sure their established, chek everyfin and i did, but i still got shat on and was made to feel worthless.... sooooo if u think its a married guy actin single, then reprt the fucka unless theyv stated that they r married but playin alone!! off me soap box, jus waitin for me balti..... funky nutta....good to b home xx
I am technically married but live on my own in my bungalow (seperated). I have a girlfriend but she is married and living with her husband so I am free most of the time.
[quote user=funkydiva35]the only thing i can add to this is becareul, jus b4 i met markie i met a guy on ere who sed he was single.... we became quite close, messagin each otha, meetin, fukin, becumin really good friends... and bingo his wife appears, i had death threats, threats on ere, she slated me to death in the chatroom, markie was bought in to it all, my name was dragged thru the dirt, as bein sum bitch who wrecked marriages, split families and for wot i thought the fuka was single.....well all iv got to say was the police was involved as well as admin on ere the thing that got on me tits was i was a single fem on ere and i thought he was a single guy....and i was made to look like a bitch and all my friends that kno me on ere, kno id neva mess wiv a married guy yet i was made to look sooooo bad! sooooooooooo jus becareful, i was told to chek comments, make sure their established, chek everyfin and i did, but i still got shat on and was made to feel worthless.... sooooo if u think its a married guy actin single, then reprt the fucka unless theyv stated that they r married but playin alone!! off me soap box, jus waitin for me balti..... funky nutta....good to b home xx[/quote]
Not mastered replying using a quote biggrin Funkybabe - that is bloody awful and just goes to show what a dangerous game these people are playing. What is scary is the number of guys that are doing this. If we had a list of genuinely single guys...how many would be on it?? Welcome back me love - hope you enjoyed your balti! :rose::rose: PS... when someone has 'Almost Single' on their profile - what does that even mean?!? I asked someone once and he said he's put that in case he meets someone in the future.. what a load of twoddle :D I'm single and I might meet someone in the future..right now.. i'm SINGLE! :D Oh what a tangled web we weave......
Thre moving finger writes & moves on ...............
[quote user=silverspud]Surely if married men (by which I mean the ones who admit it on their profile) were after "a bit on the side", it would be easier for them to join a regular dating site and pose as a single. For myself, and I guess a lot of the fellas, single or married, the appeal of swinging is threesomes and moresomes. Afterall if you are married the likelyhood is that you have a fair amount of sex at home anbyway. Therefore swinging is an extra bit of excitement and social fun. Doesn't that make married men more genuine rather than less?[/quote] Silver just read your comment and I very much dissagree, a dating site is to date and be in a relationship. This site is mainly for sex(lets not beat around the bush about it lol) as it is a sex based site. I have alot of experience of dating sites and I get very annoyed when people mail me wanting sex, I send them to a sex site. Fruit
I have one better than that and most of you writing on here probably know all about it the saga continues i have had to change number, been called all the names under the sun. been blamed for the guy 'wandering' errr excuse me, takes two and i was under the impression he was single, had my family and myself threatened and why......... because some guy thought he could have the best of both worlds...... and is still on here and still classed as single !!!!! Fair enough some married guys do come on here and are honest up front and say they are... fair play to them .... some wives know some pretend its not happening.... maybe some wives play with or without their husbands consent but come on people at the end of the day its the third party that gets hurt the most..... and sometimes its not their fault.... When we come to a place like this we ( I feel anyway) take a lot of people on trust and face value.... to abuse that trust and sometimes a few people also get included in the fall out .... to those who got caught up in this i can only apologise from me ... the other person has a lot of apologising to do for himself.... So ...... to the people i have met youre all brilliant.... and love you all..... Will be saying goodbyes to everyone laters Sassie xxxxxxx
...soooo many married men or men in relationships on here as supposedly 'single' men...... it's tiresome......... :fury:
I`ve never been Married never had a Relationship with either a Guy or a Girl,so I think you peeps are safe with me. xx
We met a guy that was from abroad working here and going back to his family not very often due to immigration issues. In the beginning we were not very keen, but on closer inspection things changed as the guy proved genuine (and honest)- definitely an exception to the golden rule...
I have had a long term relationship with a married man from another site. He looks after me extremely well and we have lots of fun together. His wife does not know about me. While I totally understand why some people could not put themselves into this position, the fact is my playmate has never lied to me. He is completely honest with me and we know everything there is to know about each other. We have a relaionship that works and is a hell of a lot of fun, without the commitment, which is exactly the point of swinging. I think the problems come when people are not honest. Men who say they are single when they are not cause an awful lot of heartache to everyone involved. It is not the fact they are married, it is the fact they lie! I hope to god that my playmate's wife never finds out, because it would be so hurtful to all of us - I guess this is why a lot of people will not play with married men, because they feel guilty for the wife who is kept in the dark. Obviously, it is better to be honest all round, and if you get married, the idea is to be faithful, or at least agree to play mutually. Honesty is the best policy kids xxx
He's just lying to his wife. But that's ok apparently.
Oh so many things to say.... but I will keep my trap shut otherwise I could be ranting on this subject for hours. I just hate liars in anyway shape or form. I don't care what it is they are lying about. If they lie about something (and when I say 'they' I mean both men and women are guilty of this) that is such a monumental huge big lie, then what else are they lying about? A whole bloody lot me thinks. Lady how do you know that your married partner tells you everything about himself? I would assume that you only know what he tells you and if you are such a big secret to the wife then you are a big secret in the rest of his life as well. I'm sorry hun but to me that just sounds incredibly naive for you to think like that. Oh bugger... looks like I started my rant without meaning to. I'll shut up now.
[quote user=midgie]He's just lying to his wife. But that's ok apparently.[/quote] :clap:
Not that I would throw this into the mix, how about the "single" men looking for other men and who are married as well.. it aitn just the wimmin folk Im not picky but when some say single bi or single gay and it turns out they are married etc etc... why do it ? Just go to a gay sauna ffs biggrin