right am stuck on this one so need some advice i have met a lad( corrrrr yummmmmmmyyyyy) an i think i should tell him im a swinger or was a swinger whatever!
what do you think i should do tell him or not?? if things go well then i will hang up my boots but till i no, im staying!!lol im such a dity bitch
anyway if you were me what would you do an how the fook do you tell um???
i want you to be serious on this one!! (in fact i dont just make me laugh but with a bit of seriousness if poss)
cheers sexy buggers
jen xxxxxxxxxxx
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can i just say when i met my now ex, i was on this site, i never told him then, when things got serious i did come off the site. I never met with anyone when i was with him just chatted. I then left the site completely, and put it all to my past.
We were together over a year and a half and he only knew that i was bi-sexual and that was all he knew. Once we split up i came back onto the site as i am now as a single female. He now knows everything, about me being on a site, even modelled for some of my pics, and we get on as mates and thats it.
But as far as im concerned go with the flow babes, thats what i did, i didnt tell him, but he says if i had done he wouldnt really have minded.
I sometimes wish i had told him, as during sex i would often still have they thoughts of another cock there or a pussy, but i guess will never know with that one now.
Not sure that really helps you that much.
That was my serious answer for you sexyjen. And yes that is his tongue.
xxxx
[color="cyan"]well you know me well enough to guess MY opinion on this one:smug: I think it will depend on how serious your feelings are and whether you think he could accept you have intimate relationships with others (male and/or female):undecided:. Honesty IS the best policy, but how you broach the subject, and how much you tell him, may be difficult to decide upon
You need to give this a lot of thought otherwise you may not get the reaction you expect. Hard call, and think miss cc. approached it in a good way:thumbup:[/color]
[color="yellow"]Good luck and I truly hope your relationship blossoms in the way you want it to:rose:[/color] 
Sexlightened
ok, this might shock a few people on here, but umm, i'm kinda in that situation myself at the mo. me and a guy i use to fool around with have decided to give it a try as a couple and whoa is this gonna be different for me.
i've personally decided not to tell him just yet. its not because i'm ashamed of it or because i think he will think less of me for what i do, hell, i luuuuve what i'e been geting upta, i mean, my own mum knows i'm a swinger ffs lol. but more because i wanna concetrate on what we're doing at the mo. a little us time. tho i'll be damned if i'm gonna give up coming in the chat room to talk crap with me mates on here lol.
if everything works out tho, i plan on telling him sometime in the new year, cause i sure as hell plan to drag his ass to cc's brithday fun fest, ain't missing that one for nothing lol.
so my advice jen, do what makes ya feel confortable. if ya think he can handle it, lay it on him. if ya wanna wait, wait. ain;t no right or wrong way to handle it.
anyways, off to throw a shrimp on the barbie. 
MMM tough one for you. I think that if you feel there is deffinately something good happening between you both, then in my opinion I would tell him. Maybe if he is open minded you could start by chatting about your saucy fantasies. Include your one about having a 3 some with another lady and him of course. See what his reaction to that is. If he chokes and has a look of horror on his face then maybe he wouldnt like to know the extent of your sexual life. If he likes the sound of it ask what his idea of a sexual fantasy would be. See how the ground lies you get a good responce I would say go with Docs advice and be totally honest. Better now in my opinin than to try to hide your SP life and run the risk of loosing him if he found out further down the line. He wouuld be understandably very hurt I guess that you hid it from him.
I have just heard from a friend that his wife has found out that he has a private sex life away from her. She is now going thru all bank accounts, credit cards for anything unusual. His home life is now I gather totally in ruin.
Just dont want this to happen to you hun.
Whatever you decide I wish You all the luck.
Fruit xxx
hope you dont mind my opinion,but, i think, you need to create a win, win situation, if you are willing to give up this lifestyle, then say nothing until you know each others boundries, me and mr cexx ave never dun anything like this before, but within 6months of being together we joined sp, if you dont want to give it up, then you must tell him, and let him make his mind up as to wether he wants to share it with you, if he says no, then he is not for you, unless like i say, you are willing to give it up. your a long time dead, make the most of your life. xxxx
Just my opinion but secrets always seem to come out in the end ...annoying little buggers .... so best to be in control of the situation rather than trying to make excuses in the heat of the moment .....if you spend time thinking about what you want to say to him then it usually comes out right first time .... If he's into you as much as you are into him then the past usually just ends up being the past ... can't change it now ..... no matter how hard we try to sometimes ..... So I would say at the end of my ramblings .... honesty is always the best policy .... M xxx ... 1 last thing .... men are simple creatures .... we usually don't think too hard about most things ... If he is the jealous type then he will get pissed off with you chatting to fellas anyway as you probably have loads of male friends ..... But if he isn't really the jealous type then your past really shouldn't bother him ..... M xx
Oxon, i need to come see you guys again soon, why didn't i know you were so honest all tho's years ago lol.. bless your such a sweetie mwahhh
Jen,i Have had a good think about this, and though about what i would have done all the years i was on my own and when i met new guys,
1st it would depend on just how much the guy ment to me
1 if i liked him and though it was going some where then i would stay quiet to start and just keep chatting when he wasn't around ( you wouldn't be doing anything wrong) then if i felt he was the one, i would then have to think, ( do i want to swing with him) or stop,if I wanted to stop then no need to tell him my past. if I wanted him and the swinging i would just drop it in to the convo like saying I know peeps that are and what would he think to it, see what answer i got and go from there.
it all depends can you live with out swinging and the chat? if not but you want this guy in your life then you need to ask him what he thinks. Honesty is always best. unless you can give it up. then there is no reason to tell him. but there again how do you know hes not a swinger and wondering the same thing! always do what feels right to you, not what other tell you is right.
mwah MO XX
