Well following a debate in the chatroom, it was mentioned about arranging meets. We tend to be quite private about it, but is it right that people should be able to arrange meets in an open chatroom? we can't see why not if that is what people want. But apparently a few have been shot down in flames for publicly asking if anyone wants to meet ... now although that way is not our thing, surely those that want to should be allowed to, ater all no one is being forced are they.
Another area of debate was about peoples boundaries, always a moot point! We don't think anyone should be slated for having or not having boundaries, everyone is different and no one should have to explain themselves for what they do. If a couple or single has boundaries which don't suit someone else then don't meet ... simple. In our opinion though this is where actually chatting/messaging comes in useful, also reading a profile thoroughly if you are actually serious about meeting. One thing that we as a couple both believe though and this is just a personal thing, even if someone is not your cup of tea is being polite that hard? it is for some which is a shame. ok back to the mentaal pills lol xxx
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Orgasminator
If there is one thing I have learned from these forums and indeed the chatroom, is that no two people are the same.
One couple/single may like the direct appraoch others may not, some can't stand being whispered others don't mind some like to get to know you before the meet, others don't.... the list goes on.
Do/say/think/behave in your own way, and the ones that like it will tell you (probably after the ones that don't lol)
End of the day, we are all entitled to choose our own swinging path, we will find the ones we like and the ones to avoid in our own way, and yes they will all be differnt too
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Well sexy serens xxxx,we also like to arrange meets in private,but don't see why peeps cant use the chat room,especially if it is a spur of the moment thing sure that must be fun,although i do remember people that did keep on asking all the time,but you just get used to ignoring it,as for shooting them down in flames that is a bit harsh me thinks,it is there for all to use as long as no harm is being caused and no feelings being hurt then its ok,as for boundaries then i think we all have them and yes we do have a few and it shows that you are all singing from the same hymn sheet and then there is no awkward moments,and it shows that couples are in touch with each other,a good chat on ect sorts all that you go my bit added,love ya hun xxxx
Casanova
I think what ever suits you then go for it.
Some keep it quite
Some like all to know exactly who they have met and when.
As long as all are happy about it, then I don't see a problem
Have been giving this one a bit more thought...........dangerous i know lmao,but there is the thing of etiquette,there is a way to ask for meets in the room,you do get the peeps that say any one up for a *uck or shag ect which is a big turn off and does lower the tone of the room,then maybe shooting down in flames is the answer lol,there you go feel better for that,love the bays xxxxx
Orgasminator
LOL norffy can always rely on you to bring the tone down, good on ya !!!!
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We are with SarahMal on this issue. We are comfy with all ways to approach actually meeting people, providing we have established during message exchange, chatroom cam, convo or moby convo that they are who the profile says...
We are flexible by nature and have had some funny socials the same evening after chatting with new friends in the chatroom, but not any playmeets...as such, or does pub carpark snogging count as playing??...lol
Once in chat we answered an open forum request at 7pm for 'drinks tonight' with a couple 180miles away, we agreed to meet halfway and arrived at pub for 10pm after 90mile drive each. Obviously everybody in chatroom was aware, but so what? The other couple had a sense of adventure that was brilliant and we had a laugh together for that short while...Even though they were not for us we remained chatroom friends...
Take care, have fun
Jel & N xxx
