Has swinging ruined your marriage/relationship?

8 May 2010

Question for the couples out there. Has swinging had any effect, good or bad, on your marriage/relationship? You don't need to give exact details, just a rough idea. We have it mind to only play as a couple (but I won't mind if Jinx wants to play with a lady on her own). We've heard stories over the years where couples have split and one has run off with someone they were swinging with. I guess it boils down to whether you're happy in your relationship. For us I can only see positives as our sex life needs a bit of spicing up. Carl

17 May 2010

for us, no, we've had a wonderful time within our swinging career and made some fantastic friends in the process. Sure we've had our blips, where things haven't always gone to plan, but we've always talked about our experiences and made 100% that we're both happy with any decision we've ever made. Sadly, this isn't the case for some people who are struggling within their relationships and think swinging will mend it. Bad move, it doesn't and we've seen this so many times over the years and it will always end in tears for these people. mwahxxxx ceys

17 May 2010

Hey Cey Thanks for replying. I guess it does depend how strong and committed you are together and whether both partners want to swing. After all, it's just a bit of fun and you always go home with your significant other. Carl and Jeanne xxx

19 May 2010

Agrre with Cey 100% we too have had blips but have talked and talked to make sure they are not repeated, and that we are both totally on the same page. If you are honest and willing to talk about anything and everything with your partner, there is no need to ever have a problem.... But people don't, many have fallen by the wayside and its saddening but inevitable. Jo xxx

27 Jun 2010

Mrs Bay and I have a very strong marriage and are on the same wavelength regarding the lifestyle. And you tend to get a sixth sense if people you are meeting are insecure ect. We have truly met some wonderful peeps thanks to this site. And we find I enhances our relationship and adds another sexy dimension. Still that's our two penethworth put in Love from mr Bay

28 Jun 2010

We have also joined another site and been overrun with offers from "single" men. Strange how they can only meet in the day time, never have a face pic and descretion is required. Anyway, back to the subject in hand. I would like to think I know Jeanne well enough that I would sense if something happened, and vice-versa. I do know she has been asked if she would meet on her own, one even offered to pay her!! Carl

3 Sep 2010

Has swinging ruined my marriage ? Totally. We used to have the most fantastic relationship, amazing sex life, she was my best friend. She suggested we try this out, she wanted to try things and I wasn't averse to the idea. We were members on here a while back, had some fun, but I found out my wife had her own agenda and could not be trusted. I think if it works for you it's great, and I admire those couples who can trust each other so that this works for them, but for us, well if I could find a way out of our marriage that wouldn't affect our kids then I'd be gone tomorrow.

3 Sep 2010

duffy thats such a shame... and im sorry to hear that... it didnt ruin mine and markies relationship but it did get to a point where i sed enuffs enuff and i dont wanna do it anymore... specially if we were playin wiv cpls... (didnt happen very often btw) i cudnt cope wiv it and got very jealous.... markie lurrrved watchin me wiv otha guys but i cudnt stand him playin wiv otha girlieeees, it made me feel insecure and jealous sooooo we stopped all togetha includin single guys, as i didnt think it was fair that i was playin and he wasnt... sooooo now we r jus ere socially and chat to the many friends we hav made... still do the socials and paaaaaarties.... and hav a grrrrreeeeat laff... plus we both luuuurrrrve the flirtin! im glad i clipped it in the bud cus now we r very happy... funky nutta xx

28 Sep 2010

well to be honest it didnt ruin our marriage but it really didnt help,our marriage was great before he got adventurous and wanted to try this out and to start with everything was fine but then cracks started to show and now here i am 2 years later divorced and trying to start out again with my life. i agree with what other people have put about it being the strength of your marriage and the level of trust you have but sometimes one side of the marriage isnt quite at the strength you are and it doesnt work.

29 Sep 2010

Hi We are very new to swinging but have always talked about our sexual fantasies and about sexual experiences before we met. We have both had threesomes and want to have them again as a couple. We are both are as sure as we can be that Swinging is for us. Dogging was fun smile

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2 Apr 2012

Ruined it completely. Divorcing the bitch !

15 Apr 2012

[quote="ChunkyBoy"]Ruined it completely. Divorcing the bitch ![/quote]oh dear

22 Apr 2012

NOT AT ALL We joined about 4 or 5 years ago met lots of good friends and had lots of amazing nights, we have always trusted each other implicitly and discussed everything to ensure we were both 100% happy! Anyway we have has a couple of years off for IVF and slipped out of the scene as easily as slipping into the scene our sex life is as amazing as ever and we have enjoyed the horny thoughts of the past so either way no ruining here! This is our last year of treatment and although we are still not playing we have missed some of the special people and socials with a busy life so thought I would rejoin and have a mooch!!! Formerly The Jeffs :P Love Sonia mwahhh xxxxxxxxx