There's been some asumptions made about who can see what in the chatroom, I'd like to set the record straight.
When in the chatroom, neither moderators or site admins can view whispers, we do however have chat logs which we keep for up to 90 days and we do state that in the chat rules, the logs include all conversations including whispers, its never been a secret, but I have mentioned the fact in the chat rulesjust in case anyone is under any illusions that its acceptable to break site rules in a whisper.
Its also worth mentioning that although the chat logs are recorded, the admin team only refer to them when support tickets come in to verify complaints and take action, we have neither the time or inclination to read every statement in there pretty much in the same way that microsoft doesn't review every email sent on a account or every conversation on their instant messenger.