Being Pushy..

27 Oct 2005

Hey all, lisa and I went to Utopia the other week. We were staying at a b&b near by with a couple of others who were visiting the club..anyway, to cut a long story short, we ended up with one of these couples at the club..the heady, sexually charged atmosphere led us into full swap, which we had both agreed on this occasion we were not did lead to an altercation between lisa and I, which weve since resolved..howvever, the point i want to make is this..the other couple were not as 'giving' as we were, we throw ourselves into this, and when its not resiprocated its not nice is it? We felt pushed or harried into swapping and surely this is not what its all about? How do you counter pushiness? And indeed, how do you deal with a couple who are well, maybe not as good as you??!!, and who maybe dont put themselves into it as much as you? l&m

27 Oct 2005

we were in a similar situation at a club once, it put us off swinging for ages. think the only way to stop getting in these situations is to just forget your manners and say no. we managed to get oursrlves out of it before it went too far. we've been really lucky with meets to date so don't really know about others not being "up to standard" lol just be polite i suppose and try to make the most of it! Also remember that you two know how to satisfy eathother, anyone you meet will be starting from scratch.