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ADVICE TO SINGLE GUYS!!!
I need to vent a little frustration on here. I have met a couple of couples and single ladies and would like to meet more.
I am however, in no way pushy. It just winds me up when I spend the time writing a mail to a member, sometimes just to say hello or welcome, and I get absolutely nothing back. I dont' mind a reply saying "sorry not interested" or even "go away", but to just ignore me is rude.
Thanks for the soap box, back to being polite and laid back now.
Dan x
Hi Dan, we really know how you feel and a reply would be nice from every message you sent even if it's a (NO THANK YOU)!! but sometimes you don't get one and it happens to all of us!! :notes:
EG. Couples, Single Females and Single Males too. :upset:
So please don't take it to heart and think it's because you are a single male that you are not getting replies to your messages because it's NOT!! It's just one of those things that happens to us all and please don't let it bother you to much or put you off mailing people in the future.
Have fun!! :evil2:
Lolly x x x :angel:
[quote user=pacha]if you have to tell a single male how to be and he does it, that makes him false and totally unattractive. just let them be who they are, the true ones will shine through.[/quote]
Pacha this thread wasn't written to tell people what they can do or can't do or how to behave or not or even to change them in any way!! It was just written to help people that are new to this site and have no clue or idea what it's like in here!! :crazy:
I totally agree with you, if you have to change people and they can't see for themselves what they are doing or saying may be hurting others then what's the point in telling them in the first place?? :evil2:
Lolly x x x :inlove:
Sexpert
Ok - lets get this thread back on track with a few observations and some advice from myself.
I'll start with a touch of mythbusting:
Myth #1
"Its hard for single guys to get meets."
I dont beleive it is especially difficult. While us guys are never going to be in as much demand as the elusive single bi female, a decent, honest, fun, and reliable single guy can be something of a hot property due to our rarity.
Myth #2
"The Bad single guys spoil things for the good ones"
Complete bollocks - they do the good guys a massive favour by helping us to stand out from the crowd.
Myth #3
"This is a sex site - so why does no-one want to meet me"
No - this is a swinging site not a sex site - there's a difference. The ladies on this site are no different to ladies in any other walk of life, they just happen to be a little more open-minded and adventurous about sex, and should therefore be treated no differently.
"hi,look at my cock, fancy a shag?" wouldn't work in a club, bar or cafe. so why should it work here?
Fundamentally guys, if you're not getting any interest there's no point blaming anyone else, its down to something YOU are either doing or not doing.
So lets move on to a few pointers:
1. PROFILE.
Have a decent profile descriptionthat says something about you - make it look like you made an effort.
If you cant make the effort to spend some time on somethign as simple as that - how much effort are you going to be putting in in the bedroom?
And remember - you are here to enhance a couple's (or lady's) sex life, they're not here to enhance yours - try to get that across.
2. FACE PICS.
They show you're more likely to be genuine if you've got the balls to show your face.
The girls do like do have a little peep at our bits (despite the fact they say they dont 
) - but a gallery that is just a cock forest will get you nowhere.
3. TALK TO PEOPLE!
Use the chatroom. And by talk to people I dont mean "Hi I'm from Cardiff, who fancies a meet?" a woman will translate that to mean "I'll fuck anyone in a 10 mile radius"and isnt going to make any girl feel like you've singled her out as having something special.
Likewise "Hi XYZ Nice Profile" is a waste of time - if you're going to try that sort of approach, instead try picking something specific from the profile that you liked and use that as a conversation starter - its a great way to show that you've taken the time to read the profile too.
On the subject of reading profiles - DONT ask stupid questions like "where are you from?" - there's a postcode on the profile and it takes 5 seconds to check the location on google maps - likewise dont ask anything that isnt already stated on the profile - just makes you look lazy - and nobody wants a lazy lover.
Talk to everyone and by talk I mean have a laugh and a joke with folks - even other blokes - even couples that arent into single guys. If you show your an open and socialble person with a sense of humour then people will gravitate towards you.
make sure that if you're interested in a couple, you talk to BOTH partners - buggering off as soon as you find out your talking to the male will kill your chances stone dead - remember you'll need to get on with both if you are to stand any chance.
4. GET A CAM!
And if you've got one use it to show your FACE.
Sitting on cam wanking all night really does NOTHING for the ladies -it'll get you a nice all male fan club tho.
Most couples and single ladies wont meet anyone unless they've seen them on cam first.
5. Dont bother with site email.
Seriously - you wont beleive how much email some girls and couples on here get - one girl I spoke to had over a hundred within a few hours on joining the site - you just aint going to stand out.
Only bother emailing someone if you've chatted with them first.
Over to you lads
) - but a gallery that is just a cock forest will get you nowhere.
3. TALK TO PEOPLE!
Use the chatroom. And by talk to people I dont mean "Hi I'm from Cardiff, who fancies a meet?" a woman will translate that to mean "I'll fuck anyone in a 10 mile radius"and isnt going to make any girl feel like you've singled her out as having something special.
Likewise "Hi XYZ Nice Profile" is a waste of time - if you're going to try that sort of approach, instead try picking something specific from the profile that you liked and use that as a conversation starter - its a great way to show that you've taken the time to read the profile too.
On the subject of reading profiles - DONT ask stupid questions like "where are you from?" - there's a postcode on the profile and it takes 5 seconds to check the location on google maps - likewise dont ask anything that isnt already stated on the profile - just makes you look lazy - and nobody wants a lazy lover.
Talk to everyone and by talk I mean have a laugh and a joke with folks - even other blokes - even couples that arent into single guys. If you show your an open and socialble person with a sense of humour then people will gravitate towards you.
make sure that if you're interested in a couple, you talk to BOTH partners - buggering off as soon as you find out your talking to the male will kill your chances stone dead - remember you'll need to get on with both if you are to stand any chance.
4. GET A CAM!
And if you've got one use it to show your FACE.
Sitting on cam wanking all night really does NOTHING for the ladies -it'll get you a nice all male fan club tho.
Most couples and single ladies wont meet anyone unless they've seen them on cam first.
5. Dont bother with site email.
Seriously - you wont beleive how much email some girls and couples on here get - one girl I spoke to had over a hundred within a few hours on joining the site - you just aint going to stand out.
Only bother emailing someone if you've chatted with them first.
Over to you lads Sexpert
[quote user=serens40]Tee .... fancy a shag? :giggle::giggle::giggle:
Seriously that post wasn't half bad so well done xxx[/quote]
Please!
and
Thankyou
(be polite too guys)
Sexlightened
Well said Tee..... Good job .
Sexpert
[quote user=pacha]well said, but any genuine guy worth his salt should be doing all this anyway!!!
l x[/quote]
You may well be right Pacha - but a guy has to do his best for his broes
For any newbies reading this, following on from Tee's excellent profile guidelines, may I suggest also checking out something I wrote some years ago now ( "Chatroom Tips for Newbies" at the top of the "New and Nervous" forum). It got a good response at the time, so hopefully people will still find it useful.
Suds
TMH and Sudsy both entries were very good.
Its a pity no one SHOUTS up for us PEEPS as well, think at the present time,I`m the only TS in the place.
I get fed up of the whispers,quotes are "whats your arse preparation like","Whens the OP he needs it","whats with the Shoes,oh I do like a Foot Fetish".
RANT Over
Having recently come back to the site after searching for mr right(he hasnt found me) it was great to see more people having put comments on.
Tee so wonderfully put. Reading a profile is so important. I got a message today to ask if I wanted a meet this eve. I am sure my profile says I am a single mum of 2 young kids and short notice meets are impossible. The only wording on the mail was to ask if I wanted to meet this eve. there wasnt any hi nice to see you back, how are you etc. It was from a couple too.
So as lolly says we all get it wrong too.
Keep on adding to these comments and then those who read it will benefit, those who cant be arsed well its your loss.
Fruity xx
