A little confussed can some one help??

6 Mar 2006

Hi all I went to a certain club in the midlands on Friday and had a fantastic time. Met some great couples had a play with a few. Towards the time I was thinking of making a move a rather sexy blonde girl and her chap asked me if I wanted to play, being a perfect gentleman, I obliged. So we proceeded to the first available room. Once inside things got very mucky indeed :lick: the male was egging me on to treat the female like a right slut which I did not have to much of a problem with!!!!! after some heavy :doggy: :doggy: I proceed to enjoy a long blowjob of the sexy fem. But this is where it starts to get a little freaky mad

eye: the male starts to grab my cock and guides me into the fems mouth and pussy(Without asking) Not really my thing but kinda of went along with this as I'm not scared of close male contact. But after that it got worst!!!! She was happily noshing me of when he went down on me while she was hiding what he was doing with her hair, next thing I know he his licking my cock :rainbow: She then turned round and asked is this o.k., which I replied no. He then stopped contact, but to be honest the experience left me a little freaked out and ten minutes later I left. Could someone tell if this happens regular in the swinging scene? Is it best to let the couples involved what your preference sexually are before you embark??? From what you have read did I indeed send the wrong message to the male involved by allowing him such close contact in the first place???? Any advise greatly appreciated, as I'm freaking out at present!!!! A totally sr8 male

6 Mar 2006

No - rest assured, this does NOT happen in the swinging scene, and should not either. It was wrong of the guy to come on to you without even asking your preferences. If it happens again (which, hopefully, it won't) lay your cards on the table and give him a firm "NO". Then he should get the message that's good and plain. If he doesn't, then leave everything, walk away from it, and report them to the club owners who will take the matter into their own hands. If you want to land one on the guy, that's up to you, but I don't recommend it. I am sorry to hear of your rotten experience, but please rest assured that this is not commonplace on the swing scene and, in addition, is completely unacceptable behaviour. If unwanted contact means sexual assault or molesting, then what can you call this? Doesn't bear thinking about, does it? Do not let it put you off. Keep going to the clubs, and have a good time. I know you will...... Cat Post edited 06-03-2006 21:11

8 Mar 2006

Yes we agree with Cat here, no it's not common behaviour in clubs, nor should it be. There is room for Bi males, in couples or singles but this should be made clear to all parties. As far as we are concerned it should be as unwelcome as a single guy making unwanted advances to a female, this should be treated in the same way, with a firm no thanks, then if no joy report it to the club owners/manager. I (Mr Kinky) am not homophobic, and if it did turn me on, I would go for the male Bi side of swinging (lets face the ladies have a great time) but it doesn't and so I do tend to put this into the conversation at an early stage. Lets face it, in the orgy scene there is a lot of body contact and if you like this, you have to expect body contact of all kind and some stray bullets some times LOL, so things can get a bit blurred there. So chin up whogivesyouextra, put it down to experience and carry on enjoying the scene, but just realise your when you play with couples your not in the same scene as a 1 on 1 with a single female. Kinkynuns :doggy:

10 Mar 2006

thanks guys feel alot better for your advise. bestwishes whogivesyouextra smile

10 Mar 2006

who gives mw amw a big warm hugg to you two. i am amazed that that happend hunny and sorry to that it may have happend at a club iv been to . i found the experiance fun and a good one . swinging is not about misstrust etc, just good kleen safe fun betwene friends. any thing i can help with yell me hunny. biggrin