I know this has been said a million times before but not by me so, here goes: I am fed up of single guys whispering me that they 'love my profile'. What is it about my profile they love...the fact that I say 'single guys - I will contact you if I am interested'?
I go on the site to the chatroom and within moments guys scanning the profiles start whispering me because I am one of the few single girls on line. I know we are are a rare species but come on guys, you are not going to get anywhere by showing such a lack of respect.
I am very close to leaving the site because of this.
And worse of all, you are doing all the good single guys - and there are a lot of them - a huge injustice. So please, give us girls some space. Chat to us in the room, not via a whisper. And if you ignore all of this, please don't get bitter and nasty when you are inevitably rejected.
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A cliche but....disrespectful single guys....you are ...
I completely agree with girl4 (S) - some of my friends on this site have had a load of really abusive whispers from some of the single males. It's not only rude and disrespectful but says a lot about some blokes inability to read or understand what a person says in their profile.
Look chaps - if it says NO WHISPERS - what do you think that might mean?
I look forward to there being a feature on this site that allows a person to choose who they get whispers from - ideally one that defaults to 'no whispers at all' and requires a member to positively add a person to an 'accept' list before they can whisper.
How to gain respect - simple - respect others.
Just my 2p.
John
xx
Casanova
well said girl4 and tall john..being a single female myself I get lots of whispers too. As my profile says I'm not meeting, why bother asking?..Secondly..if you whisper without asking then you will just get ignored, or if its along the lines of "you want some hot cock?" like I've had last week then I will just put it into the room. C'mon single guys, I know you feel harrassed by everyone but sometimes with good reason and it ends up just spoiling an otherwise friendly atmosphere. I try to be nice to everyone but sometimes you make it so difficult!!!! Just take a little time to read profiles, chat in room and learn to respect everyone and it will be a lot nicer for all.
girl4 ...., tall-john ..., babydevil ... :clap:
I'm so excited about the new programme , that will give the more vunerable swingers, of SP ,a chance to block whispers & have the friendly banter in the general chatroom ..I can't wait .. :P
:rainbow: :rainbow: :rainbow: :rainbow:
with the kindest regards .as always ..
Tally ..XXXXXX
Sexpert
... it goes with out saying, that most think with there "other" brain... 
Girl4 - as you so rightly state it puts the rest of us at a large disadvantage in an allready overpopulated section, and no one likes been tarred with the same brush... (well if its latex... yum! ) I digress.
:clap: if the chat system has that new feature - but as a single blokie I hope im not just blocked just on joining the room...!!! I hope it just blocks whispers and options for the rest of the chat!!!
anyway // :clap: on again touching on this issue
Bru-
(PS love your profile pmsl !) :lol: :lol: :devil:
Girl4 - as you so rightly state it puts the rest of us at a large disadvantage in an allready overpopulated section, and no one likes been tarred with the same brush... (well if its latex... yum! ) I digress.
:clap: if the chat system has that new feature - but as a single blokie I hope im not just blocked just on joining the room...!!! I hope it just blocks whispers and options for the rest of the chat!!!
anyway // :clap: on again touching on this issue
Bru-
(PS love your profile pmsl !) :lol: :lol: :devil: Girl4, I was in the chatroom last night and saw that you did seem to get quite a few whispers, there was AT LEAST 2 single guys participating. I had a night like that about 3 weeks ago and was also very close to leaving the site. I did for a week, because I was that angry.
My profile says 'I am often found in the chatroom, but prefer not to whisper unless its to friends' and then a small minority go against my wishes. Especially when they whisper 'love your profile'!!!!! Mmmm, me thinks that you looked at single fem at the top, scrolled down and saw a picture of my tits and never bothered reading the text in between!!!!
But I will NOT let a small minority spoil my fun. I love the chatroom the vast majority of the time.
Now I just ignore the whispers, I don't rise to the bait. If it's something offensive, then I copy & paste into the room and to admin. The one I got the other week was 'show us your gash'!!! I don't understand what people hope to gain from typing such things. Are they hoping that this will get them a meet??? I am a single fem who does meet single guys, but not every Tom, Dick & Harry. Those who are polite, respectful and take the time to get known, oh, and who are down right sexy
Girl4, please don't leave the site. Don't let the small minority spoil your fun. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Girl4, please don't leave the site. Don't let the small minority spoil your fun. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx 
Casanova
I use to suffer from this problem as a single female some time ago,(else where in cyber space)
I usually solved it, by threatening the male with a strap on and no lube!! :lol: :lol:
It normally got rid of them!
Don't leave the site because of the twats that whispher, just report them, and let Mods / admin deal with them.
Sarah x
:lol: :lol:
It normally got rid of them!
Don't leave the site because of the twats that whispher, just report them, and let Mods / admin deal with them.
Sarah x PLEASE DONT GO GIRL4.:cry:
Well said to you all, as a female part of a couple, i also get single males whispering and it does say on our profile that we will contact you if we want a single male. So come on males please respect what it says. There is a lot of genuine good singles on here and we do talk to them (you know who you are boys 
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We all know what sort of site this is, but it doesn't mean that we want to meet you and jump in bed,(no offence), but the lines you come out with, to be honest would they work in your local nite club, I don't think so, so why use them on here? We aren't cattle in a meat market, so please respect us.
For us to meet anyone couple or single there has to be an attraction toward them, and coming out with them sort of lines are just a total put off.
At the end of the day, we are humans and like to be talked to like a human not a sex object, so please start talking with your brain and not your dick and you might find that you will get more meets that why.
So come on males, just be yourself and have a laugh and see if that gets you any further, cos you might be suprised.
Post edited 04-10-2006 9:53
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We all know what sort of site this is, but it doesn't mean that we want to meet you and jump in bed,(no offence), but the lines you come out with, to be honest would they work in your local nite club, I don't think so, so why use them on here? We aren't cattle in a meat market, so please respect us.
For us to meet anyone couple or single there has to be an attraction toward them, and coming out with them sort of lines are just a total put off.
At the end of the day, we are humans and like to be talked to like a human not a sex object, so please start talking with your brain and not your dick and you might find that you will get more meets that why.
So come on males, just be yourself and have a laugh and see if that gets you any further, cos you might be suprised.
Post edited 04-10-2006 9:53 I agree with everyting that's been said here - and girl4, please reconsider. Don't let the numptys get you down - report their comments in an abuse report, and remember the good times that you have on the site.
Whilst all that is said here is true, it's wasted - since I doubt that any of the dumbasses who spoil chat for us all ever read (or can read) the forum posts. But we should all stick together and cut/paste the offending whispers and comments into an abuse report. The moderators and/or admin will definitely take action on them.
I agree dont go girl4 ure a good woman and dont let those idiots drive u away, report them if u have to as this site is for all to enhoiy not feel presured by idiots, We beg u girl4 do stay, you have loads friends here and we all here for you.
Guys give this wondeful woman a break and treat her will all the respect and friendship this woman diserves, if u dont u have us all to deal with u idiots.
As swing-cat says copy what say and report them , they wont last long then.
This room is for everyone to have a laugh and chat with no hassels so alll u idiots back off NOW!!!!!!
Hey guys , i agree with all what is put here & plz girl4 dont even consider leaving - there are a minority of males who take great pleasure in harrassing the single fems , as regular chat room watchers ( cant often get a word in lmao ) we have watched this sinario several times , i think what had been put above about threatening em with a strapon & some lube would work wonders - just ignore em & dont let em get u down , there are fun times 2 be had here .
Guys plz dont whisper if you've been asked not too yr giving the genuine guys bad press & i can see myself how hard it is 4 them 2 fit in without you cocking it up 4 them .
Something we noticed & has probaly been said b4 is that theres never enough mods around when u need em ...its all well & good sending a complaint but sometimes a good boot is needed straight away when someones really persistant - having said that no disrispect to u mods u do a great job & cant sit here 24 / 7 lol
Right soap box over now bed calling
ok my 50 pence worth here .......
im fed up with the constant downing of single chap 99 % of them are brill, some do wisper but i dont get pesterd. im not sure a good thing or not. as ur 4 it says send an abuse report or even yell one of us all 4 of us can handle single males hassleing you so just ask we can help.
i can tell you folks the most nasty hassle i have been on end of and nasty it was, was from cpls. i hope that single chaps continue to chat. but i do understand that wispers are anoying as i cant keep up with the replys. can we try to remember that wispers are for the pvt things that y ou dont wish the rest of t he room to know like your name etc. i have no worries with a chap trying his luck but once we say no no it should be.
so lets help the invaribly new single chaps all you seasond ones politly explane the rules , we as mods can only help if you if tell us and let us. if we see it in the chat room etc we will act .
so lets end the single chap thing and welcome all and lets enjoy the room etc.
Hmmmmmmm
Single guy bashing??
Given that the overwhelming majority of subscribers are single guys (120,000 from search engine), simple maths dictates that the overwhelming majority of complaints will therfore be about??.............yep you guessed!!
We have been on receiving end of abuse from all types and reported, but that does not prevent us from recognising that the majority of subscribers are actually ok peeps and simply friends we have not met or played with...lol
We were in chat when G4 was experiencing her problem and it was clear from her comments into room that she was being disturbed by some occupants (but unfortunately no mods or admin available at that time...xxx)
We have met G4 and she is a gorgeous, intelligent and independant woman who deserves the simple respect she asks for through her profile (and defo not a single guy basher).
In closing, G4 please dont leave, we love our interactions in chat and both lust after your body xxx
Take care, have fun
Jel & N
xxx
Casanova
just to put one point sraight...I'm not into single male bashing....in fact most of who I talk to are single males. And yes, I suppose that this is all a waste of time since the idiot males who do act irresponsibly dont bother reading any of this anyway. All I'm should have said really is that single females are seen as easy targets by a few people on here and just expect us to fall at their feet!!..errrr, no!! I'm niot jumping on a bandwagon of no whispering to me at all, but please just ask if I mind being whispered first..I may be chatting elsewhere in which case I wouldnt see a whisper, which then can lead to the whisperer having an attitude problem about me ignoring them!.That's when I begin to whisper back in words of 4 letters! I try to get on with everyone, just a little respect is wanted.
Sexpert
[quote user=sarahnmal]
I usually solved it, by threatening the male with a strap on and no lube!! :lol: :lol:
Sarah x[/quote]
... that might not work on some of us 
:lol: :lol: :lol: :devil: :devil:
and would mean more whispers :)
:lol: :lol:
Sarah x[/quote]
... that might not work on some of us :lol: :lol: :lol: :devil: :devil:
and would mean more whispers :) agree with everything from everything i do!
whilst abuse report fazcility is there, thats a bit like phoning police after you have been burgled/assaulted etc. what we all want is the police (mod) to be standing next to us when it happens and handcuff the offending turd or punish him/her/them in such way as is deemed appropriate.
however i think we have to recognise that that ours mods cannt be present 24/7 just like pc plod is not there either. (and no im not anti-police before anyone starts - we all know police have nice big....)
in my experience, if there is no mod there when it happens, a public naming/shaming in public chat room usually does the trick - unless they are a real turd who gets off on such public humiliation!
but of course, we should not forget that whispers can be innocent too - how many times have we checked a profile and forgot to click on chat to all - its all to easy to do. i'm not condoning it but I find that if the whisper is innocent, the perp usually apologises when their error is pointed out. think of driving within headlights or a wrong indicator - the true gent is more than happy to be corrected and will publicly apologise.
here endeth the lesson
yup you always know a gent and cass your one well kind of ermmm big spade for bibi.
the long story short here just respect any one you chat to , thats it .
and as far as i am concerned those that have been booted turds included, if they come back with dif name and behave then they welcome, one wiff trouble and your out.
